Living alone for 1st time.?

Question

Im 33 & recently split from boyfriend & living alone.Ive never lived in my own house on my own b4,always with a partner or family.Im finding it lonely & hard 2 adjust.Any sugestions to stop me geting lonely in the house.I visit my mam & friends & walk the dog during day but stil find it hard when im in the house on my own.Its worse on nights,theres less to do & no1 to talk 2 in house.I cant b out anymore than i am,its not fair t 2 leave my dogs .I do go out but i want 2 feel happier wen im in the house in my own company & not so restless.Yahoo answers helps take mmy mind of it.

Answer 1

Been there and worn the t-shirt, I know how you feel - you think the world's ended but you soon work out that its fabulous.

Think about this, you dont have to worry about being anywhere at a particular time to suit someone else, you dont have to do the washing up if you dont want to, you can come and go when you feel like it without worrying about anyone else. Give it time to get used to not having someone else around - you might be surprised how much you end up enjoying the peace and quiet.

Answer 2

know what you mean - I've been there in the past. I know it's not easy... I moved out of home when I was 17 and lived in a flat on my own until I was 21. I now live with my fiance and, much as I am independent and strong, there's always something missing when he's away for more than a day or two. Sometimes silence can be deafening, can't it, when you're not used to it?

Have you considered taking up some sort of new hobby that interests you? Or perhaps taking a class or joining a group, that meets once a week? That way you'd have projects, assignments, research, or other activities to take your mind off the emptiness you feel, this would give you something extra to concentrate on while you're at home.

There's nothing wrong with spending time browsing the web, either in my opinion. If visiting Yahoo! Answers helps you, then go for it! God knows I'm on here all the time - I'm an insomniac and this is what I do at 3am to stop me going nuts, when I'm not reading.

I hope this helps you in some way. You're not alone. x

Answer 3

I too live alone and yes at times it can get lonely, but I find it a good time to get to know me...who I really am...I work during the day and that keeps me very busy and at the end of a day I am tired, not leaving much time to think of the loneliness. I also listen to music, get on the computer, and also do different hobbies I enjoy. The weekends are the hardest, but going to the movies with friends, or getting together with people helps. You might look into social groups. Maybe church or even the library. Just fine something you really like to do and do it. The one thing NOT to do, is start a new relationship, just so you are not alone. Good luck to you, I wish you well...

Answer 4

how about watching movies, or finding crafts to do at night, youc an email me. i am a army wife, i have a son and we stay up at night cause my husband is deployed to iraq for 18months back to back. just find a friend to talk on the phone with , thats what helps me alot, and someone to comeover and chat with you till all hours of themorning.

Answer 5

I loved living alone. Read, listen to whatever YOU want to. take a bath. learn to paint. Sew. I love sewing. Sleep. I miss sleeping. You can do anything you want to do. I really love my family and would not trade them for the world but I miss having time to myself and figuring out what I like.

Answer 6

Enjoy the peace and quiet--what I wouldn't give for 15 minutes of that!

Answer 7

Cook yourself great food, walk round naked, sing to your CDs, make the place your own.

Answer 8

don know
- meditate, find your center, be one
- self improvement. find a challenge or problem, research it to death, n fix it. u know d.i.y.
- volunteer if u have lots of free time