First time we are hanging out with nobody else around. We will not be at home or anything, so please don't suggest making out. We will probably be at a mall or something like that. So, how should I act around her? And how do you experienced lesbians break it to a girl that you are gay? Is it even neccesary? I mean, I do like her, so I want to be honest as I get to know her. But, I don't want to intimidate her at the same time. Although, I don't see her being intimidated. She's not shy.
2007-03-03 14:00:21 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I don't know if she's bi! But, how else can I know before asking questions or hanging out? Not everyone is openly "out". I'm looking for friendship first and seeing what happens from there.
2007-03-03 14:07:19 · update #1
1) dont just blab out the fact that your gay...not yet anyway. have a good time first and just be yourself. She wouldn't be hanging out with you if she didn't like you. Is she gay? If so, do a little flirting, not too much so that it gives you away, but just enough to keep her wondering. Some time during your shopping, go to the food court and order fries or something. feed one to her.
2) while walking around take good notice of what type of things she likes. If you catch her looking at something in a display case, tell her to meet you at the food court because you have to do something. While she's clearly away from the store, get it for her (you dont want to get something too expensive since this is ur first time alone with her)
Before you give it to her, stick a small note in there so when she opens it, it's the first thing she sees. One the note, ask her out.
2007-03-03 14:12:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you're just looking for a friend at first and interested in the idea of taking it to the next level later if appropriate, then do just that. Get to know her and eventually ask her out.
2007-03-04 15:23:49 · answer #2 · answered by carora13 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I say go for it, trust your instincts. If it doesn't work out then it wasn't meant to be.
As far as how to act, let her know by real subtle signs of affection, such as a touch on the arm or the way you look at her. She'll get the hint.
2007-03-03 14:11:39 · answer #3 · answered by planty 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think u should jus be her friend at first the fact that u are hanging out alone for the first time says alot so jus be urself dont expect to much
2007-03-03 14:13:43 · answer #4 · answered by dniel c 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
relax and be yourself dont try to hard to impress
2007-03-03 14:54:06 · answer #5 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
so is she bi?
2007-03-03 14:05:42 · answer #6 · answered by ceecee800 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋