ok, i have this problem, i just can't find the right words to say to people when i talk. it gets to be a major problem. there are many instances whhere i end up saying something really stupid.most of the time, i just don't talk much to avoid sounding stupid and i get labeled as shy and introverted. and when i argue with my brother, i can't find the right words to make my point and his seem to flow perfectly. and when i think about it afterwards i realize there were a lot of things i could have said, but i didn't think of it before. what exacty is my problem?is it something that can be fixed and how can i fix it?
2007-03-03 13:56:11 · 6 answers · asked by ? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
one thing i have to mention is, when i act natural and don't worry about what people think, i do indeed end up saying stupid things. there have been many instances where i've said some very stupid things and people got the impression wasn't very smart. and yes, i do care about what people think. nobody in the world wants to lok like a loser. even all those people who say 'don't worry about what people think'. that's why i only talk a lot around my family and close friends and people who will not judge me.
2007-03-03 14:44:38 · update #1
Practice really does make perfect in this case. What you have to do is get a friend to pretend arguing with you and to watch when there are situations with party conversation and see how other people do it. This is a self confidence thing, so you just have to force yourself to try.
2007-03-03 14:01:48 · answer #1 · answered by storytllr1961 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the root to your problem might be a lack of confidence. Dont worry so much about the remarks people might make or their comments & etc.
Your words should come from deep within. Dont have the mindset that ''whatever u say might end up sounding stupid'' no one's perfect right?
There's always a soulution to every problem. Dont give yourself too much pressure. Take your time & build up ur confidence. Realise ur good points & accept ur bad points. There's always room for improvement.
Most of the time, trying too hard backfires. Just be yourself & let people like you for who you really are. Give yourself some space & take things easy.
All the best :)
2007-03-03 22:25:28 · answer #2 · answered by Shobha 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go easy on yourself! Just try to lighten up a little but think before you say things..but dont think to much. Im wondering if someone has told you that you always say dumb things.....dont know. Just be happy smile take some deep breaths and let the nervousness GO!! Its not always easy talking with people but the more you do it the better u will get at it.
2007-03-03 22:04:27 · answer #3 · answered by Angela H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok i got it. u don't have much stock of words. Read Newspaper like crazy everyday. It is the best way to warm up ur communication skill and have a lots of stock of words.
2007-03-03 22:02:22 · answer #4 · answered by *~*A$!F*~* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just say wuts in ur mind, if it comes out stupid, who cares? if u care too much about wut ppl think, u will get nervous and shy, if u get nervous and shy, then ppl will see us as a loser.
stop caring about wut ppl may think of u, thats a waste of time and it makes u powerless! have some confidence.
2007-03-03 22:16:39 · answer #5 · answered by srtá.girly 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't rush into what you say. Take your time.....think about what you are going to say.....take a deep breath........and say exactly what you want to say !
2007-03-03 22:00:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋