2007-03-03 13:52:03 · 16 answers · asked by eddie4306 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The first question you should ask yourself- or give us insight on is if you have a good history of communication with your spouse.
Communication is key for anything to happen and to still exist and if there is a lack of it then you will be trying to rekindle something without knowing exactly why it needs to be rekindled.
The second thing you should evaluate is - what did you used to do that you arent doing now in the relationship? What little things made the both of you feel special and what do you not do often now.
There are so many things you can do that your significant other can enjoy- but only if everything else is in place.
Think about it: a flower every now and again, sweet notes, writing out what you love about them, telling them all of the songs or lyrics that remind you of them or the relationship, a romantic evening in or out, a picnic on a beautiful day, looking at the moon and stars at the beach or park somewhere, make them breakfast in bed or a nice dinner that they'll love, etc etc.
Hell.. if you need to just sit down one day and watch a plethora of chick-flicks. That will give you a number of ideas.
2007-03-03 14:11:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know the counselling advice gets a little overdone, but trully, it helps. Marriage guidance counsellorshave a way of taking you back in time, making you both remember what it was that attracted you to each other in the first place. Sometimes reminising is a wonderful way to rekindle the romance. Have a romantic dinner with your spouse....talk about old times,....you know "remember when" and when you are both relaxed and happy remembering old times you will both feel like taking it a step further because the feelings of the past will be present and it will be easy to put the romance back. I still suggest marriage guidance counselling because sometimes there are a lot of issues on both or either parts that cannot be resolved just by a romantic dinner and remembering the past. You both need to remember what it was that attracted you to each other in the first place....try to re-create those feelings....do the things you both used to do before you got married.
I hope it works for you.
2007-03-03 13:59:01 · answer #2 · answered by rightio 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
surprise her! with anything! maybe a romantic candle-light dinner made when she gets home from work... tell her to get in the car and take her out for a walk in the park and have a picnic set up... don't forget to tell her how much you love her and all the things you love about her... take a vacation and forget about all the mundane things that can bring people down... just place all your energy on the other person! flowers always help any situation too! try to be spontaneous so the flame doesn't die out again!
2007-03-03 13:57:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try starting it all over again. Ask your spouse out as if you just started seeing each other. Sometimes play flirt games with each other if you feel like and if your spouse feels like. When such games becomes irritating to any of you, then call it a quit. There is no remedy. Sorry.
2007-03-03 13:59:03 · answer #4 · answered by good-for-all 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take her on dates like you did when you two first started dating. Surprise her; take her out to lunch in the middle of the day. Send flowers for no reason. Just do fun, romantic things together.
2007-03-03 14:12:27 · answer #5 · answered by You Don't Know Me! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try dating, going to different places may work, move out of the routine way you have been doing things, surprise her, be spontaneous (go on a trip at the last minute)..
2007-03-03 13:58:07 · answer #6 · answered by St.Jeb 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ed, the best thing is to get back to basics. It's the little things that matter the most. Leave her love notes, sneak up on her and grab her butt (works for me ) when she turns around say TAG your still it ! I'm sure you and yours have little things in your relationship you can recall. Remember she's human also and show her you care.
2007-03-03 13:58:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I truly wish I knew. I suppose dates where you can't talk about stressful things (kids, taxes, bills, etc). Trying to remember why you got together in the first place, what you did for fun then and do some of those things.
2007-03-03 13:55:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
leave her little love notes ., set date nights and take her out on town,make her a candle lit dinner, buy her a new teddy tell her how good it looks on her , remind her how special she is to you . buy her a card if you cant express what you want into words ,take her on a weekend get away just the 2 of you and always rember actions speek louder than words ,a woman has to feel like she is your one and only and she is your queen
2007-03-03 14:00:43 · answer #9 · answered by family fan 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Buy a lighter?
Actually I asked a question similar to this. The women suggested I throw a wig on her or some kind of costume and use lots of sex toys. Whatever.
2007-03-03 13:55:16 · answer #10 · answered by Joe B 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋