I am her dad, how would I let her know that I am not ashamed of her and will support her in this? She lives with me and my fiance and will be moving in with her boyfriend soon. Her mother doesn't want much to do with her. I just want to help. She is almost nineteen.
2007-03-03 13:36:41 · 25 answers · asked by saau2003 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
ask her
2007-03-04 08:34:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Where is marriage in all of this? You sound like a walking advertisement for 'shack up, get knocked up, hang out at home' yourself. You come across as wanting to be understanding. How about making a huge effort to come across as something better? Your daughter has little future being pregnant with a guy she lives with. You shouldn't be living with your fiance - how long are you going to call her that? Is your daughter going to do the same thing - call her 'baby's daddy' her fiance for 10 years, if he's around even that long?
Get some standards! You say her mother doesn't want much to do with her. Perhaps she's deeply disappointed that her daughter has made such horrible choices. Maybe she imagined when she was raising her little girl that she would have more respectable expectations.
Why don't you have them?
2007-03-06 12:04:01 · answer #2 · answered by kathyw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just like that dad! Good for you! It's very unusual for a young woman to have a dad that is willing to accept such a thing without feeling as though they have to lecture or threaten. Kudos to you! After all, she IS 18 (Thank God), Also, you'll be a young enough grandpa to have fun & spend time with your grandchild! I have 4, and I love em ALL! God Bless you & your fiance for supporting her thru this scary & uncertain time in her life.You ROCK!. ;-)
2007-03-03 21:51:43 · answer #3 · answered by lizrdluvnmom 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you have a good relationship with her? Take her out for coffee, and ask her. First start off by letting her know that you are her dad, and you love her nomatter what.. Sometimes we are afraid of how our parents will react more than anything!!
Or, take her shopping at the store and ask her if you need to get anything in the baby department for her... ???
If you sit down with her, and don't be afraid to hug her nomatter what she says... this coulde be a good thing for you two.
2007-03-03 21:46:40 · answer #4 · answered by charisma 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask your finace to take your daughter shopping at the mall. When they pass the childrens shops stop and make a fuss over how cute all the things are (which would make her think a baby would be accepted) then ask her when she plans to have kids. She may confide in your finace if she feels she can trust her and doesnt feel like shes in a judging enviroment.
2007-03-03 21:43:50 · answer #5 · answered by J&A 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should talk to her. Ask her what her plans are for the new baby and let her know that you love her and are here to support her. A hug will make her feel sooo much better.
Good luck and Congratulations!
2007-03-03 21:45:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Communication.
2007-03-03 21:53:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Obviously you feel she is a grown up, since you are allowing her to move in with her boyfriend. She is making a grown up decision that can lead to grown up consequences. So, you need to let her know that you love her and want what is best for her and that you are going to be there for her what ever may come. Let her tell you when she is ready to tell you, don't push it.
2007-03-03 21:49:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, morning sickness is an obvious sign. The best thing to do is sit down and have a nice chat with her about stuff like whos going to pay for baby diaper, baby wipes, etc.
2007-03-03 22:11:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that if she is you support her 100%. And also tell her that you think that she would be a great mom and that you approve of her boyfriend being the dad. That will make her feel that your O.K. with it and she will want to tell you.
2007-03-03 21:42:58 · answer #10 · answered by Melissa 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
spport tell her she is nto the firt woment o become pregnant in an early life and she shouldn't be a shamed and to take care of her self and not to get mad or if shje is nto ready to move with her boyfriend tell her to stay and another advice she should tel with you incase anything happens take really GOOD care of her because you wouldnt want her to get a miscarriage.
2007-03-04 02:24:28 · answer #11 · answered by unknoww 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋