Getting my parents back together?

Question

My parents have been divorced for a while but their relationship has been on and off which has been giving me a bit of hope. About a year ago my dad met a girl and he was hooked on her and they got marriend six months ago. Now I feel all I have left is my mom and she just recently met a guy and is hooked. Now she talking about wanting to get married and having more kids before she gets old. (My parents have been dating since they were like 15 and had me at 18, they are now thirty) I am scared and I want to get rid of my parents signifacant other before anything else happens. I know they still like each other so how do I get them back together?

Answer 1

Alright kid you got to get them back together by learning monipulation and lying tactics right now to save your family!

(trust me it works)

Answer 2

Well, first, I'm sorry you are going through this. Unfortunately, your mom and dad don't get along and you are caught in the middle through no fault of your own. In my view, there is next to no hope that your parents will get back together, so you've got to do everything you can to be courteous to the new people in your parents lives. I lost my husband when I was 40 and never remarried for the sake of my kids. Now I'm mid-60s, my kids have their lives and I am alone. It would be fun for me to have a partner to travel with, do other things with, but I don't because of my decision. You can't begrudge your parents happiness. Before long you'll be out on your own making your own life. So make the best of this situation you find yourself in. You don't have to take crap from anyone; you are still your parent's child, but don't start acting out in an effort to control a situation that's not going to change regardless of what you do. Work hard at school, focus on fun things there, be grateful for everything that you have. Best wishes.

Answer 3

Here's what you need to keep in mind, If your parents are happy that's a good thing, ppl. get a divorce because they something changes, it doesn't make either of them wrong. Would you rather see each of them happy apart or fighting, screaming , hitting on each other together?
As a child of divorced parents and my own kids having to have gone through it. I know which I chose.
I know you feel trapped in the middle, but just like if one of your best friends were going through a deal with their boyfriend, you wouldn't want them to stay together if she wasn't happy would you?
As long as your parents are good to you and their spouses are good to you that's all that matters. The better you accept it the happier your parents will be.
Keep in mind you'll be out on your own soon, so just take care of yourself and let your parents do what they have to do to be happy.
You didn't drive them apart no matter how hard you try you won't drive them back together. I tried, my kids tried, it's just a waste of time.
My father and step dad both died within 2 yrs of each other, I miss my step dad more because the hard I rebelled against him an mom the harder he held onto me. Now that I'm grown I miss him. Don't make the same mistake.

Hope this helps

Answer 4

I know this is hard to understand but even if your parents have a good relationship after divorce it doesn't mean that they still have the same feeling for each other as when they were first wed. Liking each other is not enough to remarry. If your Mom and Dad were lucky enough to find someone again that they love, give the new partners a chance to show you that they appreciate you and want to be part of your life.

Answer 5

You can't..you don't have control over other people..they make their choices and they have made them with other people. Your parents will always like one another because they had you. That's great because they have to get along. Sweetheart, your parents need to have closure to be happy and they need to move on. You need to be ok with them living their own lives. You are still a part of their lives-just in two different homes. You also have new people to love you-step parents. You need to concentrate on living and growing up and being the best YOU that you can be and not trying to raise your mom and dad because they already grew up and made some mistakes. They are trying to find some happiness and you bring them a lot of joy and now they'll find some joy with new partners.

Good luck.

Answer 6

I am sure this is difficult for you, as you want the best for them. And you truly think that the best for them is being a family again; which, in turn, is the best for you.

However, they are in love with other people, moving on. And that may be just what is best for them. And what is best for you is that both of your parents are happy. Their happiness may actually be with other people. At 30 years old they are now more aware of who they are. They met so young, had a family at a young age, and figured out that their lives would be happier with other people. It makes a lot of sense, but unfortunately, it hurts you at the same time.

It is best to respect their new relationships, and love your parents just the same.

Answer 7

I know that this is going to be really hard to hear, but...

What you have to understand is that it isnt your place to get them back together. They divorced for a reason, and that reason wasnt you. The change in your life is hard, i know, cause I went through it. What you need to do is accept your parents significant others, and try to get to know them before passing judgement. You may be lucky, like I was. I didnt lose a family, I gained two more loving parents, who respect me for who I am.

All that being said, you must learn to embrace change, not be afraid of it. This in turn will make you a stronger, more resilient person, and that CANT be a bad thing. Good luck and stay strong!!!

Answer 8

You don't, you don't break up you dads marriage, and you don't interfere with your moms relationship. People get divorce for reasons that go beyond their children and you should be happy they get along well enough so that they don't make you miserable with arguing and pulling you back and forth. The least you can do in return is act mature when it comes to their significant others. I hope your dad isn't neglecting you in the first flush of a new marriage, love can do that to a man, but if he is quietly say that you miss him and want to see him more often. In a way if you can bring yourself to be happy for your mom and her boyfriend, and your dad and his new wife, you won't be losing them, you will be getting more family, if you can manage to be polite to them all they will be happy and go out of their way to be with you, but if you sulk and act difficult, they will try to avoid you.
In a few years, you will be off to college and entering your own life, how would you feel if you destroyed their happiness by being selfish?

Answer 9

Just because your parents still get on doesn't mean they love each other. I know that your wish is to have your family together again but sometimes it just won't happen. When they were together were they happy or arguing? I know you love your parents so surely you want them to be happy. Maybe that can't happen if they are together. It is okay for your parents to find someone else to love, that won't change their love for you. Would you like someone to 'force' you to get back with someone you no longer loved? The way your parents can be the best parent to you is if they are happy and maybe that means they have to be with someone else and not each other.

Answer 10

I know that you dont want to hear this but I think that you need to accept the fact that they have moved on. They will always have a bond and a certain love for eachother through you but they are not in love anymore and you are going to have to accept this. Your dad proved this when he remarried. Your mom is now trying to find happiness also and you should support her and give up on the idea of them getting back together. I feel for you but you are going to have to face reality. Good luck.

Answer 11

As much as you have a fantasy of your parents re-uniting, it is probably not going to happen. Your father is already re-married, for one thing. Maybe your mother wants more children but your father doesn't and that is one reason they split up. You definitely have a tough family situation though. Try talking to a counselor or a friend's parent that can help you understand the situation and listen to you.