My "husband's ex wife" Was suppose to have gotten a divorce from him 6 years ago. Turns out today. The pain comes to my door looking for him. With divorce papers in her hand. I don't know what to do. Please someone give me some good advice. We have a 3 year old together. I am in a hotel and all he keeps doing is calling me every 5 seconds.
2007-03-03 13:22:34 · 19 answers · asked by kittymom28 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am just affraid he might do something he will regret. He is getting madder and madder. I have asked him if he knew if he was divorced and of course he said No. But I don't believe him. I thaught he was the love of my life. Guess I was wrong.
2007-03-03 13:41:18 · update #1
See an attorney.
2007-03-03 13:25:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should talk to him. I know, that's not what you want to hear, but y'all do have a 3 yrs old. Do this for her. Once y'all talked, ask him why the divorce wasn't finalize? You really have to think this through, don't do anything irrational while your mad. Remember the decision you make today, you have to live with. Take a deep breath, and take a good look at your kid, and what y'all had accomplished together. Do the right thing. Good luck.
He's only mad, because he's afraid of losing you. you guys need to talk. the longer you make him wait, the madder he'll be. He may feel the same way you do, that's way he won't leave you alone.
2007-03-03 13:37:50 · answer #2 · answered by qasizan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait until things calm down a bit and it all sinks in. Then have a heart to heart talk with him about what's going on and get to the real truth. You are too upset right now to make any important decisions. Take into consideration that you have a child with this man so he will be a part of your life for many more years. You will have to learn to get along for the good of your child anyway so you might as well start communicating now. I hope you can work things out and stay together & be a family. If not, then I wish you the best of luck.
2007-03-03 13:54:50 · answer #3 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all do not answer his phone calls right now. You need time to calm down. Do not go back to him until you find out some answers here. He may be a bigamist and this is illegal and if this is so your marriage may not even be legal. Do you know how to get in contact with his supposed ex wife? Hire and attorney asap as you will need this fast and soon. I feel you are in for a shock and for the fight of your life. If you do call her and ask her what is up and she may just be more then happy to tell you what is going on here. Good luck to you and my heart goes out to you and your child today. Hugs to you. I feel he has decieved you and has lied to you this whole time and you need to get an annulment if you are so called legally married at all.
2007-03-03 13:28:17 · answer #4 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask him to see a copy of his divorce or find out where it was filed so you can check the county records there. If he isn't divorced from her and is married you, contact the local authorities and a lawyer. It can affect the status of your marriage. I understand you are concerned about your child, but you cannot build a future on lies (not for you or your child). It will not be easy and will be painful if this is the case, but it is the best thing.
If it winds out he is actually divorced from her then he needs to talk to her about not coming around and harrassing the two of you. If she continues you can likely get a restraining order.
2007-03-03 13:33:12 · answer #5 · answered by Starshine 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh boy! Looks like you will be getting married again, that is if he didn't know he was still married. Why are you in a hotel? Did he know? I say no big deal if he acually thought he was divorced. Explain to your 3 year old when she is older and laugh about it when you are old. Talk to an attorney just to see if there are other concerns. If he knew, kick his you know what to the curb.
2007-03-03 13:31:18 · answer #6 · answered by breezy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love,
he either signed the divorce papers or he didn't, and if he truly was divorced he would have received a decree absolute.
Best advice is to hire an attorney, because effectively (if he truly isn't divorced) he's committing bigamy which I do believe is a felony (correct me if I'm wrong).
2007-03-03 14:49:07 · answer #7 · answered by Sue 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, Did yall get married? I would make him sign the papers and take them to the courthouse and file them himself.. It isnt his fault if he didnt know, but then again Did he not have a copy of divorce papers.. It is a little strange... Good luck
2007-03-03 13:27:06 · answer #8 · answered by luckygirl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dont blame him yet maybe he thought they were divorced. She may never of filed the divorce papers. Talk to him and try to work it out. Dont throw something away because of that wench.
2007-03-03 13:32:43 · answer #9 · answered by HOT 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you in a Hotel? Calm down... It seems like you have some investigating to do. You need to talk to her and find out if he deliberately lied to you. It could all be a big misunderstanding. It's too early to panic.
2007-03-03 13:40:53 · answer #10 · answered by hatlady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
youre did the right thing i feel your pain trust is the key to marriage and when its been broke its hard to get back and he knew its was a lie from the beginnig i so sorry never give up some where they a guy who need a goods women you can mail me let me know how youre doing take care
2007-03-03 13:36:06 · answer #11 · answered by nightman122554 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋