Me and my honey have been talking about marriage, should he still propose if we both agree on it?

Question

Me and my boyfriend, Frankie, of 4 years have been talking about getting married. I'm so excited. The other day one of my friends came over to my apartment and I told her about it.She just recently got divorced and she told me that marriage is tough. After I agreed that it might be, she asked Frankie, "So when did you propose?" And I looked at her and just said real quick, " We've been talking about it." Then she just gave me this look like she was thinking "he didn't propose..." You know that look when someone is thinking, "OOHHHH K..." It made me a little embarrased.

Answer 1

The proposal is totally up to him. You can't make him do it nor make him do it before he is ready. Let him propose in his own time or you might scare him off.

Good luck!

Answer 2

Why do women continue to believe this fairytale called marriage? This is on the same level as believing in Santa Claus or the Tooth Fairy. Know This: You will not live happily ever after. Why? Because people needs change over the years.

Sometimes, getting married can ruin a good relationship. Don't believe me? Keep reading yahoo answers marriage and divorce for a week or two.

Look, I am married for 10 years and a lot of it has sucked. A normal person would easily have quit their marriage if they had gone through the junk I went through with my wife.

Answer 3

Don't EVEN worry about it, and don't let your girlfriend give you a hard time! She doesn't know what's between you and Frankie. And I guarantee, if he didn't want to marry you, he wouldn't be talking about it! My husband was the most wonderful human being I ever know (I was widowed), yet I ended up giving him an ultimatum about marriage since he was so scared of the idea. Our marriage was made in heaven!

In other words ... a formal proposal is an old-fashioned custom. It's nice to get one, but many marriages begun that way end in divorce anyhow! It doesn't matter in the least ... and I hope "the proposal" is not what's most important to YOU.

Answer 4

'Talking about marriage' is different than 'I'm definitely ready to marry you now'. So if you are not sure which he means, you may want to ask him... As in, when we talked about marriage, was that just as a hypothetical, or did you mean you want to and are ready to marry me?

Guys can get funny ideas in their heads. Sometimes they are emotionally ready but aren't ready to propose because they think they need the huge rock and romantic proposal. Those are nice, but not always possible, depending on what your resources are. If resources are limited, but he wants to get married anyway, he needs to know that it okay by you to do it that way, and even then, male ego might get in the way. Or he might be 'talking about it' to keep you calm while he sets up a proposal. From the sounds of it, though, he's either embarrassed about not having done or having the resources to do the diamond-ring-and-bended-knee thing -- or he's talking more generally about it, and not ready to make the leap yet. Only way to really find out - aside form waiting in silence and going nuts - is to ask.

Answer 5

well nothing is for sure unless he proposes or you guys set a date right? I would definitely not take your friends looks as anything meant to be genuine since you mentioned she is go ing th rough a divorce or just got divorced. Clearly she isn't the best person to talk to and/or get advice from on marriage. I bet she thinks that marriage sucks at this point and she would be someone that is kind of bitter to the very thought of it.

Good Luck and just talk to Frankie :)

Answer 6

Me and my husband both agreed on it and I also helped with picking out my ring. I still wanted the romantic proposal so He said he would plan it, it would be out of the blue, and it would be amazing. About four months later he asked me at his graduation ceremony. He wrote Jessi will you marry me on the top of his cap. During the whole ceremony I just wanted to burst out with my already known answer. Then after the procession he met me in front of the school with the ring and roses, got down on one knee and asked the big question. I couldn't believe it. That is what you guys should do if your ready to take the plunge. Something that you would never expect. This way you will have a story for the ages, Not just saying one day we agreed on it and said sure why not.

Best of LUCK

Answer 7

My wife and I talked about marriage for a few months before I proposed, but yes I think he should still propose to you. Even though you may know it's coming, I don't think either of you want to be robbed of the intimacy of that moment.

Answer 8

Tell Frankie I said real men do it right. And you want a real man, Dinner, not at McD's, ring, etc. tell him before you say yes you want the full meal deal. even if he's on a budget.

Hope this helps,
P.S. tell Frankie to email me if he needs help, My wife and I are still newlyweds were going on 12 yrs. LOVE isn't lost

Answer 9

What it we all said yes, are you going to go back to him and tell to propose? Then he'd do it because you asked and it just wouldn't have the same meaning if he did it spontaneously. I'd leave well enough alone. Not all relationships are or should be the same.

Answer 10

ignore your friend.
She is in a bad place right now, and shouldn't be taking it out on you. She should be delighted that you are thinking of taking this next move in your relationship.
Its better to talk about marriage then have him just spring it on you. Take plenty of time to think it out, are you sure of this, do you know each other well enough, have you gone on holidays together; do you live together etc. If not, its best to do a 'trail run' as it were.