Three years ago I found out some stuff about my husband. To make a long story short it was enough for me to go see an attorney. I showed the attorney everything I had obtained and he said that I had enough evidence that I could file for divorce on grounds of adultry. Well, I decided to file the papers for separation instead but then we never went through with it. Anyway, I still to this day do not trust my husband. I am pretty sure he is doing things he shouldn't be doing. I saved all of my evidence from before. Is it too late or would I be able to take this to an attorney again and really go through with it this time and show him or her all of the paperwork, pictures, etc. from before?
2007-03-03 13:12:16 · 10 answers · asked by love my life 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If things were never addressed, the probably didn't change. A person's gut is usually right on about this stuff. I would probably see if I could gather more information, but I would talk to an attorney anyway just for the advice and see where to go from there.
2007-03-03 13:18:16 · answer #1 · answered by kalea_kane 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello,
I am not sure if the old evidence will be good if it has been a while since the first time. You may have to come up with new and current evidence to file a claim with for divorce. Call the attorney and ask them about this. I feel you will need new and current ones though to prove he is still cheating. I could be wrong on this one do so ask her to make sure either way.
2007-03-03 21:33:50 · answer #2 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You didn’t say where you live, but if you’re in U.S. in most states (maybe even all) a judge wouldn’t allow it, because once you knew about the affair and then choose to forgive him and continue with the marriage (and I assume that you did and you haven't actually been seperated for the last 3 years), you basically ‘condoned’ it. So, you would now need evidence of a new affair.
But something else you need to ask yourself is what would it really benefit you to obtain a divorce on the grounds of adultery (especially if it’s going to be more difficult and more expensive to obtain). In most states adultery has little to no effect on things such as property division, alimony, etc.
Seek the advice of a local attorney.
2007-03-04 00:19:21 · answer #3 · answered by kp 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here is the thing you went to an attorney and showed him your hand, then you opted to file seperation and then took him back that meant you forgave him for what he did so the only thing that you can do now is produce new evidence that he is committing adultry again and file for a divorce instead of a seperation you should have known he was gonna cheat again
2007-03-03 21:19:40 · answer #4 · answered by Mary O 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
B/4 you get carried away because I think this amy be the last time if he is cheating, you should hire a P.I. to check on him, be as specific as possible the more info you provide the P.I. the less you'll spend. ie. he goes to play cards on thursday at 6pm. and don't come home until friday, they now have a specific time and place to follow him. He may not be doing anything and if he is you now have twice the proof.
Hope this helps
2007-03-03 21:23:04 · answer #5 · answered by walker9842 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have had sex with him since you found out all of this, then your evidence is worthless. There is in easy terms, the f*ck'em and forgive'em law. So if you have had sex with him, you will now have to file on different grounds.
2007-03-03 21:49:04 · answer #6 · answered by Steel 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How sad. Another marriage goes up in smoke. In most states you don't even need proof. Just say you want one and they give it to you. Adultry just shortens the time it takes to get one.
2007-03-03 21:17:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Yep, you can use them..ask yourself why before you do so..are you setting out to hurt him, seeking revenge or money?
Whatever the cause...get the divorce over with and move on.
2007-03-03 22:06:36 · answer #8 · answered by sugardaddysgirl 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Below are some links....
find law is esp helpful...
However, I think you screwed yourself by trying to work it out...
Good luck girl.
2007-03-03 23:39:32 · answer #9 · answered by Jennifer Anne 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when ever you decide its over you can still use those papers
2007-03-03 21:17:49 · answer #10 · answered by Judy D 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋