Can I find true love and get married at the age of 50?

Question

My marriage of 26 years still survive after few affairs and big fights. But now we have no feelings for each other and we are more like friend. He continues his flirting with other younger women and I did not feel anything. The reason I stay because I think it will be difficult to find a man who can truley love me at this age and I am afraid to be alone. That is why I do not have the courage to go on with the divorce. What is your opinion?

Answer 1

Well, if you believe statistics, you would probably find a man very easily in your 50s because divorce rate for couples in their 50s is extremely high. I just turned 53...I met a most wonderful man when I was 50.....it made all the hurt of my past worthwhile....it also made me realise that love in my 50s is far more satisfying than when I was in my 20s. The sex is better...the commitment is better....the love is better. It may take some time for you to get in the swing of things and to believe yourself that you are attractive and desirable because a lot of women in their 50s who have been in a long time marriage have usually lost a lot of their self esteem. I wouldnt wait too much longer. You only have one shot at life and you need to ask yourself......"if I stay in my marriage am I going to have huge regrets on my death bed". You are not being fullfilled and just because you are 50 doesnt mean you dont have the same needs as someone who is twenty. As a matter of fact I think the older you are the more you know what makes you happy and you are more inclined to be more outspoken too. I know sex with my love is the best I have ever experienced....the way he looks at me makes me feel like I am a princess....he treats me like I am the only woman in the world and when I am with him, thats exactly how I feel....so in answer to your question.....most definitely a big YES, you can find love in your 50s....probably more love than you ever dreamt possible.

If you really want to persue real happiness then you need to take a risk,.....you have to take that plunge and leave if you really are unhappy....only in the doing will you see that you still have a lot of love, life and happiness to experience yet....make the best of it.

I wish you the best.

Answer 2

You need to be able to find happiness on your own. If you are afraid of being alone, you may just latch onto the wrong guy again if you go through with the divorce. You have had your self esteem bashed by your husband, and what would really help is some serious soul searching and counseling. In time you can develop a confidence in yourself that will be attractive to the right person, but again you need to be content with you alone or with someone.
It is possible to find true love again at any age, but you need to be a whole person and healthy enough to recognize it when it comes. If you are a hurt shell, you will only attract another loser.
Right now you are in a marriage where you basically are alone. You are feeling unloved and unloveable. You need to regain that strength and confidence you had before. It is far better to be alone and happy than with someone and sad.

Answer 3

Yes you can.........I would end this loveless marriage and you should move on. I know at age 50 it is scary and difficult to start over, but many women have done it and have gone on to meet a wonderful person that is worthy. I am about your age and my friend's husband left her for another woman after 25 years and she was devistated. Divorce followed and my friend's life changed but after a while it changed for the better. Her son was out of college and on his own, so with the proceeds of the selling of their house, she moved into a condo. She got a new job. Eventually started to date, meeting people through Match.com, a legitimate computer dating, some dances, going to adult education classes, and then she met a wonderful man, a widower who had lost his wife from cancer. Now they are dating and thinking of getting married in the future, but I am telling you this story because there is life after divorce. If you want, you will meet many nice people. So, I would go through with the divorce. Don;t waste your good years with a man that does not love and appreciate you anymore. End the misery and move on. You will not be sorry.

Answer 4

You are 50, think of all the fabulous women who are older than you, there is Oprah , M. Streep, get a copy of More magazine, because there are tons, do you think they would accept living a life without love?? Lets pretend we know that your life will end at age 84, that means you have 34 years of living left, (longer than your marrige), how do you want to live those years?? Being unhappy, or get busy finding happiness?? Besides there are a lot of men over 50, looking for a nice lady, you can definatly find someone to love you, so go look up that divorce lawyer, you deserve a better man!!

Answer 5

If you stay in this marriage you Will wither and become a mean bitter old lady that everyone hates. I work in a nursing home and have seen many people in their twilight years fall in love and get married. The youngest was in her late 60's and he was 3 years older.
The oldest was a woman that was 102 and he was 91. She was 106 almost 107 when she died.Before you can find love and happiness with another person you need to learn you are worth loving. So yes you can, but only if you love your self first.

Answer 6

Lady. Who knows what the future hold? Maybe your man will kick the bucket soon and you'll be single anyway.

It sounds like you two are good friends. Maybe you can remain good friends with benefits. Go out there and exercise, lean down and get a makeover. Then you'll be a sexy hot 50yo MILF! if you know what I mean. Get a divorce or stay with him, but talk to him about how he feels if you see other people

I don't consider people old until they are like 80 or something. So if you find your true love now, you got a good 30 years left of quality in your life.

Answer 7

You would be right. I am over 50 (still married). But if I were divorced, I would not TRULY love another woman of any age. Because after so many years the meaning of true love is no longer that important. I can live with or without it. I am financially well off and I have more love for my 2 kids (middle to late teens) because my mission is for them to remember me (and their mom) as they mature. I have my share of good life and if at this age I still haven't figured out the meaning of love, I have nobody to blame and probably have nothing to offer to another person anyway.

Answer 8

You shouldn't have to stay in a loveless marriage. I think in time...you will see, and able to build enough confident to be by yourself without having to be alone. I know, loneliness is a drag, but it beats not having that feelings. And to answer your question, No. I don't think at the age or at any age is to late to find happiness. My mom is in her mid 50's and she's been dating this guys for about a year now, and I've never seen her been happier. So, age is just a number, you have to feel young at heart. Remember people tense to see things that you want them to see. And if you feel younger than your actual age, no one has to know. It's the greatest women secret. You are only as young and old as you feel. Good luck.

Answer 9

50 isn't too old to find love. But first learn to be ok with yourself. You have 26 years of a crappy marriage to work through. You don't need to bring this baggage into a new relationship. Having said that, realize that it does take courage. But for me, finding the courage was easier than the thought of waking up every morning for the rest of my life, knowing I could have changed it and didn't. Good luck and be strong.

Answer 10

Please believe me when I say, "Absolutely, you can find true love at your age." I know firsthand, even though I was 52, had been divorced 20 years, had decided 3 1/2 yrs prior to never date again, and I was very happy with my alone life. I enjoyed my own company. Then 4 yrs ago in walked a man that persuaded me non stop. He is not EVEN like the former men in my life; instead he is the total opposite. We are getting married this year.