I'm a bi (not out) girl and have a female acquaintence from high school who I've had a crush on for years. We're both in college and not very close friends...how do I go about seducing her in the event I spend time with her? It's assumed she's interested in men (all her dates to dances were guys, on her facebook profile it says interested in men), but I've heard she's had some bi experience (possibly rumors)...but I consider myself primarily straight, and I know a lot girls who are too that wouldn't rule out being with a girl once or twice sexually. So, tips anyone?
2007-03-03 12:48:18 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I'm a 20 year old bi female.(by not out I mean my close friends know, but not my parents because they're anti-gay anything, but I have no problem telling anyone who asks what my sexual orientation is that I'm bi) I have a crush on a female acquaintence from high school who I've had a crush on for years. We're both in college and not very close friends...how do I go about seducing her in the event I spend time with her? It's assumed she's interested in men (all her dates to dances were guys, on her facebook profile it says interested in men), but I've heard she's had some bi experience (possibly rumors)...but I consider myself primarily straight, and I know a lot girls who are too that wouldn't rule out being with a girl once or twice sexually. So, tips anyone? If I get together with her, what should I do to hookup with her? Say? Do? Anything...
2007-03-03 12:58:43 · update #1
I've been looking at your guys' answers. A lot of them are pretty rude and presumptous - it is true though, I can't entirely put those who've replied like this at fault, you don't know the complete situation and can only work with the details I've given you. First of all, she has never openly declared she's straight. There are several girls who have claimed she's hooked up with other girls, she has said some points that allude to the possibility of her being open to bisexuality, and just because she says in a profile or something that she's interested in men doesn't mean she believes love/lust has gender limits. I put I'm only interested in men and I'm open to being with a female or male, but I'm primarily interested in men. What does that make me? I'm not trying to force her to do anything, and it certainly isn't sexual harrassment. You're quite rude to say I'd call it sexual harrassment if a gay guy was asking to seduce a straight guy. Perhaps it was poor word choice, "seduce".
2007-03-04 08:26:40 · update #2
And I do NOT put my desires before hers. I do not try to force anythings upon anyone. Maybe I should have said "what advice do you have so I can discuss with this girl, without making her uncomfortable, if she's ever interested in having a relationship with a girl. To call me shallow, a complete stranger mind you to you, is an ignorant insult. The fact that I'm asking for advisory from complete strangers demonstrates that I am not impulsive and care about only what I want, because I'm considering the way she feels. Like I said, I know, I am at fault for the poor phrasing of the question that poses me as an indulgent, selfish person only caring for the tools of seduction regardless of the personal wants of the other, but that is NOT who I am, and I am stating that firmly now. As for the people who gave straight up advice, NOT rude, thank you for taking the higher ground. For the rest of you, I suppose you're so angry with your own life you have to go online and get mad at strangers. Sad
2007-03-04 08:33:06 · update #3
If she's interested she'll let you know.
2007-03-03 12:53:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
stop and think. If a straight male wrote this question and said he was after a lesbian or a bi girl you'd yelll sexual harassment. You'd call him a pig and a jerk and a stalker. Be cool and let the straight girl be straight. what you are planning is wrong, not because its gay , because its sexual harassment of a person who is not interested.What makes you so shallow that you put Your desires and needs before hers.?
2007-03-03 14:35:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you shouldnt seduce her at all.. because it would be hard for you to get rejected... what you should do is spend some time with her.. be her friend.. just be patient, who knows, maybe she'll fall for you in the end.. good luck!
2007-03-03 12:59:39 · answer #3 · answered by ash 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think you need to be comfortable with your own sexuality before you start trying to "seduce" someone. you say that you are bi, yet you are not "out." you say that you are primarily straight, but then again you want to sleep with this "friend" of yours. figure out what your own sexuality/orientation is, then open up your life to those who are interested in YOU, not only in what's beneath your clothes.
2007-03-03 12:53:58 · answer #4 · answered by soulsista 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you are only gonna get yourself hurt, she is straight. Stay away, if she was interested you would know. Don't upset the applecart especially since you not out the closet.
2007-03-04 01:06:37 · answer #5 · answered by leo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If and when she's ready to be intimate with you it will be quite clear. So, put your hormones on hold and never mind seducing (imposing your advances) on someone who neither wants it nor are they ready for it.
2007-03-03 12:57:07 · answer #6 · answered by castle h 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Without playing games, don’t be available 100% of the time or let your life be an open book. A man that comes on too strong or doesn’t have outside interests will scare a woman away just as much as it would if the circumstances were reversed. Read here http://AttractAnyWoman.emuy.info/?t5ex
Women don’t want to feel as though they are completely responsible for your happiness and that is what it feels like when the other person has no outside interests. Men who are overeager or jump when the woman says jump are the ones who are more likely to end up in the friend zone. This doesn’t mean that you should play the game of not calling for a few days; it means that you should set healthy boundaries until you both naturally find a spot for the other in your lives.
2017-02-15 11:44:24 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes.......get together with her for some wine. After a chilled bottle or two, it should knock down some walls for you. I wish you the best of luck.
2007-03-03 12:54:03 · answer #8 · answered by cajunrescuemedic 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
strap-on. makes her feel like she's not missing the "man parts" and being with a woman at the same time.
2007-03-03 13:03:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If she is straight leave her be!!! Do your own thing and let her do hers.
2007-03-03 13:10:09 · answer #10 · answered by STFU 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋