i have heard that when people drink it brings out thier true honest feelings of how they feel and think. well...if that is the case, last night he was groping and flirting with a woman right in front of me and this is the 3 rd time he has done this in 3 1/2 yrs and i feel hurt and embarrassed. is he doing this cuz he is not thinking straight or is he doing this cuz deep down he wants other women but when he is sober he will not reveal that to me?? he openly asked this girl out and told her how hott she was and kept hugging and grabbing her infront of me!! the girl got upset and walked off but he followed her and another girl saw it and said to him that it was not right and said hey look u got a WIFE who is pretty and she is right here and he said yah i know but i want this hott girl right here. oh i was soooo embarrassed !! what do u think?
2007-03-03 12:43:43 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Its a myth that when drunk a person will show his/her real personality. You husband was under the influence of a drug and his mind was blurred. How can being drunk show a persons real personality when his electrical impulses in his brain are way off sinc....no, this is not his real personality, but if he is embarrassing you and hitting on other girls when he is drunk, then he needs to stop drinking. Maybe he gets drunk deliberately so he can grope these other girls....if so, there are problems within the marriage that need urgent attention. Just tell him, he is totally out of line when he is drunk and that he either gets help for his drinking problem or you will leave him. Drunk or sober, your husband should not be hitting on other women and if his only defence is he was drunk, but does nothing about it, then it shows you he totally disrespects how you are feeling. I could not sit back and just accept he did it because he was drunk....I would demand he do something about his drinking problem because what he did totally humiliates me. I hate being humilated by anyone and being humiliated by my husband would be much worse. Stand your ground....alcohol makes people do some very strange things......he needs to recognise this and stop drinking...well at least dont drink when you two go out together. He has the problem, not you. Dont feel sorry for him, just make your demands plain and simple...dont get into a power struggle of who is right and who is wrong....the bottom line is he embarrassed you terribly and it needs to stop.
I really hope it doesnt happen again because once would have been enough for me. I know you love him, but I think he may have a problem with alcohol and if not addressed now, it will only get worse.
I wish you all the best in the world....chin up....there is nothing wrong with you, you are a good and loving wife....your husband has a problem with alcohol, not with other women....its the alcohol that is betraying your trust, not the man.
2007-03-03 12:59:41 · answer #1 · answered by rightio 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that I could have wrote your question a few years ago myself. My EX husband use to say things like, look at the t*ts on her. Once he had his hand down my girlfriends top and inside her bra. Talk about embarrassing. Anyway, after years of marriage I left him, told him to quit drinking and I would consider taking him back. He wouldn't quit, so he is still single. I am happily married to a man who respects me and would never disrespect me like that. Your husband is a total complete moron. He has no brains. He is just a child inside a mans body. Tell him he is not allowed to drink in public anymore. Obviously he has a problem. I hope you see it. Good luck.
2007-03-03 15:19:54 · answer #2 · answered by Jackie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This does not sound good at all. I would find other entertainment than you two going to the bars. He needs to be careful as well if he is going up to strangers they could slap him with a sexual harrassment suit. As well, if he came up to someone like me, who is married, in a bar and did that he would get his butt handed to him by the husband. I think my advice of keeping him out of a bar is the best thing you can do. He doesn't need to be drinking period.
Good luck!
2007-03-03 12:52:25 · answer #3 · answered by Raspberry 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you need to confront him with this. It's not right that he keeps on hurting you and embarressing you like that. Sit down with him and have a serious heart-to-heart when he is sober. Just ask him to be completely honest with you and make sure you maintain eye contact.
2007-03-03 12:49:05 · answer #4 · answered by SarangHaeyo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope. I somewhat plenty never do this. that's kinda stressful while human beings do this as a results of fact that's often no longer on the subject that we are taking approximately and it would not make any experience.
2016-10-02 08:24:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, you already asked about the same question. Bottom line you husband is a jerk. there is no way around it! You keep asking the same question in a different way hoping someone will tell you what you want to hear!
2007-03-03 13:01:45 · answer #6 · answered by kewpiedoll0409 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
alcohol lowers your inhibitions. he obviously found the other woman attractive. he probably wouldn't have done all those things if he had been sober. but he still would most likely think she is attractive.
2007-03-03 12:49:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
woman .....whats wrong w/you? Throw a drink in his face & leave him to find another bed to sleep in.!! I hope you left him there!!! I'll bet Miss Hottie was blonde!!!
2007-03-03 12:53:29 · answer #8 · answered by quen g 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you married an a##hole and you should kick him to the curb
2007-03-03 15:07:47 · answer #9 · answered by simplyme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋