My ex continues to instruct the kids not to reveal their whereabouts when I call them.It is within my parental right according to the state I live in to know where they are even when they are with their mom. It was written in the divorce agreement as well. I filed for sole custody and I am assuming she is giving me a hard time becuase I have excellent grounds to get custody. Could this be the reason?
2007-03-03 12:31:17 · 17 answers · asked by paco 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If its not the reason, it soon will be. Thats an abuse of her parenting. It is your right to know. How selfish, and to think that she is capable of getting your kids to lie for her. She needs taizered.
2007-03-03 15:51:48 · answer #1 · answered by ckgene 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you may be legally correct to know the whereabouts of your children, however, your children are NOT the ones you should be asking. You should be asking their mother directly for this information. If you tell any court, "The kids won't tell me" they will ask why you do not seek this information from your ex.
The kids arent the ones who signed the custody agreement, it was YOU and YOUR EX.
2007-03-03 15:00:27 · answer #2 · answered by FengShuiChi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is. Take this situation up with the court, This might help with your custody battle.
Also some people might not like to her it, but it's pretty hard for males to get sole custody of children over there mothers. Our system is truly based on sexist terms.
Good Luck
2007-03-03 12:41:51 · answer #3 · answered by clee918 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have a conversation with her and keep your son out of it. It's very difficult for him and you do not want to make things worse for him by unknowingly forcing him to choose a side and/or betray a loyalty. This is especially true since he's living with her and he has become the "man in the household" by default. Boys are naturally protective of their mothers and since she is his most immediate caregiver, the feelings will be that much stronger. As hard as it might be, try not to let it escalate because fighting will only hurt your son. Let her know that you don't want the disagreements between adults affecting him and try to call a truce: no parent says anything negative about the other to the child. Then proceed to tell her that you want and need to co-parent your son and that it is important that you know as much details about his life as she does. Play the guilt card: let her know that you have no plans of affecting the way your son feels about his mother. Be calm and be the mature one. Your son's sense of you is very much at stake. He should know that he can trust you not to hurt his mother so you have to demonstrate it. And so you know, kids are not stupid. They know whether what they're being told matches their reality or perception of things. Your ex-wife can get burned in this process as well if she chooses to place other emotional attachments above your son's peace of mind. If after doing this and there is no noticeable change in her behavior or that of your son, contact your attorney and put him/her on notice and let s/he know about the details of your situation. I hope this helps. Good Luck!
2007-03-03 14:25:09 · answer #4 · answered by ladylee1230 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-27 19:45:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds as though she is trying to hide things from you or trying to use the children as a weapon. She is probably bitter from the divorce and trying to hurt you. Let your lawyer know what's going on and keep a record of everything. Good luck with custody, your children need a parent who is thinking of their best interest not using them as a pawn.
2007-03-03 12:40:51 · answer #6 · answered by QT 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
These are the only games she gets to play. I hope you get custody. She's not mature enough to be in charge of the children.
2007-03-07 06:08:11 · answer #7 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who knows... in the meantime, be the bigger person... dont put your kid in the middle. Make note of it and deal iwth it at court.
Today... yesterday... and tommorow... it is BOTH of your obligations to
LOVE your child MORE than you hate each other.
Here are some co-parenting sites... check them out. That may help some.... also, forward them to your ex-wife.
2007-03-03 15:32:42 · answer #8 · answered by Jennifer Anne 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't blame her for that. You come see them when it is your time to see them. It is not your business to micromanage you wife's choices and decissions. Trying to take children away from their mother is pretty low even if you are the father. sure it could be the reason and I would probably do worse.
2007-03-03 12:37:14 · answer #9 · answered by CindyLu 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could be.Although it sounds kinda creepy.I would want to know where my kids are going to be too.Good luck with getting sole custody...i mean this in a nice way
2007-03-03 12:36:23 · answer #10 · answered by angie 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋