My husband and I are going our seperate ways after 16 yrs. He had cheated on me 2 yrs ago. He knows he was wrong, but I can't forget about it. We have been trying to work things out for the past 1yr, but I keep throwing it in his face each time we have a fight. I do love him and I know he loves me. He is the one who really wants out. He has changed his mailing address. So why hasen't he called the realtor yet?
2007-03-03 12:22:20 · 16 answers · asked by mary 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
you seem to be the onr in charge....get to it
2007-03-03 12:26:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you still love each other, and you both know it, then why are you going your separate ways? I know it's hard for you to forget about what he done, I have been down that road too! I think you need to see a marriage counselor, if you know he feels the same way you do and maybe you can still work things out. But you also need to know what caused this affair in the first place, was it strictly a sexual thing or was it an emotional thing between the two of you that caused it. A sixteen year marriage is something that you don't want to just throw away without seeking counseling first and discovering if that is really the right thing to do.
2007-03-03 12:30:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
"HE HAS CHANGED HIS MAILING ADDRESS, HE REALLY WANTS OUT". The answer is right in front of you. If you have tried marriage counseling and it did not work, it is time for you to take the next step, get a good attorney and consider separation first. If a man that has cheated on you once, and wants out, AND changes his mailing address, chances are he is cheating again. If he is not cheating he maybe "getting things ready" to leave you high and dry, and stuck holding the bag, you have to ask what is he hiding. If you haven't tried counseling then please do so. I believe he does love you and you he, however he probably does not love you the way he used to love you. i.e. not enough to work things out. Pray about the situation.
2007-03-03 13:58:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you really love him you would forgive him, doesn,t sound like you have done that yet. A sk yourself how you would feel without him in yourlife. That will give you the answer. But dont let him think he can walk all over you. Maybe he cheated because ther was a problem already, only u can answer theese questions. Dont let him go because of pride tho. doesnt sound like he wants out, most men in that position would have already gone, it could be a cry for help I wish you luck
2007-03-03 12:35:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your husband is not tough enough to take the heat then he's doing you a favor by leaving. He owes you, regardless of what anyone, including him, has to say. He betrayed you and made a fool out of you in the eyes of others. It's not fair and he deserves to suffer right along with you, for as long as you are suffering.
On the upside, if he can stick it out, you can have a better marriage than ever. I've seen it before. It can work out for the better. And it will, regardless of the outcome of the marriage. Patience is a virtue.
2007-03-03 12:30:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is sad that this has happened.If you cant work it out with conversation than you must be prepared to let go.Its not easy but if you keep throwing it at him there is no chance.Egos should not come in the way-call him and talk to him again and tell him that it has been hard to forgive him but you are prepared to now.Go back to the Church and have another ceremony and start again.That ceremony will put right everything....that is if you want to start again.
2007-03-03 12:29:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why hasn't he called the REALTOR? The only reason he’d call a realtor is if he’s interested in selling the house. Maybe he’s not. Or maybe he thinks you might want the house. And he can’t sell the house on his own if it’s joint property (which I assume it is). You’d have to be involved in the process.
Why don’t you talk to him about it?
2007-03-03 15:56:06 · answer #7 · answered by kp 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why can't you call the Realtor? If you want to get the ball rolling, get it rolling. Don't wait for life to happen to you.
2007-03-03 13:10:01 · answer #8 · answered by §Sally§ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
good for you girl friend the cats not worth your time , you need to throw more then that in his face , how about some d paper
oh tie up that house and make him pay through the nose to get it free to sell pay back this one's ok to do so go get'em girl friend
2007-03-03 12:52:40 · answer #9 · answered by del b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try marrage couceling if he won't go you go alone at least it helps to know what he is thinking, my ex did the same ,couldn't live with herself anymore and divorced me after 25 yrs and 3 kids
2007-03-03 12:28:05 · answer #10 · answered by Cowboy U 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you stay married to someone who cheated on you. Find someone better and you will be much happier.
2007-03-03 12:34:06 · answer #11 · answered by paco 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋