my mom and step dad r getting a divorce and my moms allready dating someone.?

Question

me and my lil bro r having a hard time.my mom never married my dad,then my dad went 2 jail when i waz 5 for 5 years so my mom meet my step dad and got married then my dad got out of jail.and a few years after that my mom and step dad decided 2 get a divorce.but i think my mom was cheating on my step dad wit this new guy that shes wit,and i love my real dad cause hes my dad but when my dad was gone my step dad filled in his place and then when my dad came bk they both took the place of being my dads.now my mom meet this other guy right after we moved out no befor we moved out,and my lil bro hates this new guy and this new guy has a 18 girl 14 boy 12 girl.he allready has kids,and my dad has other kids to.what do i do not only for me but for my lil bro and if u have any other things u wanna add it would help alot thax.
(sorry this is so long)

Answer 1

Honey, take a deep breath.....now calm down. I understand your worry, but you first need to pat yourself on the back for knowing that mom's behavior isn't right. I can't tell you how proud I am to see that you are looking out for your little brother too...most kids just look out for themselves. To me, that says alot. It means you are kind, caring, thoughtful and considerate of others. Which in general, means you have a good head on your shoulders (you're smart). Take that knowledge to your dads....both of them. Just because step-dad and mom aren't together, doesn't mean you have to sever ties with him. He's your dad too. He took care of you when dad #1 was away and he loved you. Love like that doesn't stop honey....he still cares about you and your brother and although he's not your birth father, he may be able to help you sort this out. Because to me, it sounds like your mom isn't making you and your little brother a priority....and I know you love her, but sometimes parents make mistakes. We do stupid things that we don't realize affect our children. If the children don't point it out, then the parent never has the opportunity to change their behavior. If you've tried talking to your mom about this, then go to dad #2, if he can't help, go to dad #1. You have options honey and if you are resourceful enough to ask us for help....you can ask them for help. You have to remember, they love you to and want to make sure you are being taken care of and are happy in the situation you are in....even if they aren't with you mom anymore.

I wish you the strength of God and all the courage in the world. You are a bright kid, you can do this honey, keep your chin up.

Answer 2

I am so sorry for you right now. You are such a good brother.

I think you should see if you mom would let you and your brother spend a lot of time with your step dad. I'm sure he would love to have you and your brother around a couple nights a week. He loves you guys. Maybe just have dinner like normals and then play video games or do homework or watch TV. That would give you time with your step dad and get you away from your mom's new boyfriend. You could also see your biological dad a day or two a week and that way it won't seem so bad being around your mom's new boyfriend. It would be good for you and your brother to spend time with both dads and if they get along maybe all of you could hang out???

You might tell your mom that it's freaking you out a little because you love both your dads and you dont' like the idea of another man in their place. But tell your mom you love her and in time you will try to accept her choice. Hopefully she'll be as mature and loving as you are.

If you need to talk to someone or find someone to help you through this, talk to your counselor at school because they have groups for kids like you to go to...where you get to talk to other kids going thru the same thing and where you have meetings with group leaders who can help.

Answer 3

im not such a great help but all i can tell you is no matter how many *so called* dads you have, your real dad will always be your dad. and no one can replace that. no one. i know its hard for you but think about it,. theres a reason why u call ur dad , dad// and call your stepdad a stepdad. becuase a stepdad can never ever become ur dad. do u tlk to yuor step brothers and sisters? are they feeling the same way as you and your lil bro? cuz if they are then u guys can tlk and become lyk close frendz. i kno this is extremely hard 4 u and especially ur lil bro but be a great sibling to him and help him out a lot. let him kno that NO ONE can replace ur birth father and even if he doesnt like this new STEP dad, explain to him. im sure he'll understand you but make sure u play with him and keep him happy so his life doesnt end up being depressing. i hope this helps and goodluck with ur life and ur family.or family and stepfamily.

Answer 4

When you grow up, don't follow in your mom's foot steps. She's obviously really messed up and you can see, first hand, how that hurts the kids. Take this experience and use it to protect your children from ever having to deal with these types of situations. I was molested as a child and though I remain angry to a certain extent, I thank God that I was abused as now I am able to recognize the warning signs of abuse. I have already helped more people than I can remember. And my children are as safe as they can be in this regard because I have been there and I know what to look for. Use your painful experience to protect your future children. Turn this bad thing around.

Answer 5

Divorce is a very difficult situation, especially for the children involved. Mainly, you should remember that your parents, even with their problems, are still your parents no matter who else enters the picture.

The roles of parenthood aren't restricted to your biological parents, but can extend to step parents, aunts, uncles, grandparents, siblings, even family friends. It depends on the person, and the situation. Nobody will replace your father or mother, but simply help out in raising you, your siblings, your step siblings, and your half-siblings.

Not to assume too much, but it sounds as though your mother and father both have emotional problems, especially involving relationships and responsibility. There's little that can be done in this situation except to understand them better, treat your half-siblings and step-siblings (and full-siblings, too, of course) with love and patience. Understand that your parents aren't perfect, but that they can still be loved and admired for their good qualities.

Further, understand that you needn't follow in your parents' footsteps. There's nothing saying that you'll end up like your father, with children from multiple partners and prison sentences and the like. Likewise, there's nothing written in the stars saying you'll be like your mother. You write your own destiny to a large degree, so never let your parents' lives hang over yours as if it's your future. It isn't.

Learn from their mistakes and grow from them. Realize that marriage and children are serious responsibilities that you'll one day undertake, and decisions like that should be made only with the utmost commitment and thought.

Treat everyone with love, kindness, and understanding, and no matter how your family looks, you'll be happy.

Also remember that if any physical or sexual abuse occurs, contact the authorities. No child deserves such a nightmare.

Answer 6

you can try talking to your mum that it would be getting quite complex out there. If she still insists on making things complicated, you have no choose but to respect your mum's decision. After which, you must make plans for yourself i.e. you must decide on your own future. If you want to work move into a hostel bringing your brother along. Same case goes if you want to further your studies. Nothing is a problem if you can overcome the stumbling blocks in life.

Answer 7

I know it's really hard. Sometimes parents can be such jerks, right? You know it's unfair of what your mother is doing but what can you do about it? Just live life normally and never be like your mom.

Answer 8

so your moms a milf? kool

Answer 9

what was the question?