Should I feel obligated to take my children to a catholic church???

Question

My husband is Catholic and I am Presbyterian. Our first daughter was baptized in my church and our youngest at his. I told him it was important to me for our children to know religion and have something to believe in, faith to get them through obstacles they will face. He agreed and said that he would go with us if I went to and raised our children Catholic. The problem is, he is not going. I am taking our kids to church every week, I am even supposed to have my own confirmation at Easter (yes, I agreed to convert) I feel as though I am giving a big part of myself and joining his faith so that our family believes and worships the same. He has left this all up to me. Should I continue, or go back to my own church with my kids? Either way, I dont think he will be a part of it...Also, he is one of 9 children, raised in a VERY religious home, this is why I dont get why it is not more important to him. He would rather go fishing...please advise...!!!

We got married outside of the Church, obviously, but we planned to have our priest bless our marriage once I have my confirmation in a few months. It is very important to me, especially for my children to have our marriage recognized, and I am still willing to do my part. I do remind my husband of his promise on occasion, and at times I feel like I am a nagging mother and do not think that I should have to remind him to step up and show his kids what is important. Thanks to all!

Answer 1

If you both agreed on raising your children under the Catholic faith than you both should be attending services and being an example. I am surprised this is so hard for him. It is like an hour a week. Anyway, I would tell him that if you both intend on having religious faith instilled in your children, you both need to be an example. I would continue with the Catholic Church if it was your intention to convert and your children are accustomed to its practice, but I would really talk to him about being a part of this as a family.

The kids are only going to see this as lip service is daddy doesn't go. Plus they might actually become scared for him. My dad didn't attend church with us when I was a kid, and I seriously thought he was going to go to hell. It petrified me!

Answer 2

Well if you introduce your children to the Catholic religion now, they will not have to deal with joining the church as an adult. My husband and I are going thought that annulment thing now and boy is it a pain the the bootie. Even if they choose to not follow the Catholic faith, at least they will not have to go through the entire process as an adult. I think exposing them to religion is important and starting at a young age is just as important. When they get older they can chose. You have to do what is best for your children, regardless of your hubby.

Answer 3

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Answer 4

Yes. If you were married according to the Catholic Church, your husband made a promise to raise the children Catholic, and you acknowledged that promise.

If you didn't, by the way, your marriage is not valid in the eyes of the Church and you are living in objective sin.

As you continue in your journey to the one true Church of Christ, you will understand the reasoning behind all this.

You go to Mass- whether he does or not. You owe it to yourself and your children!

Answer 5

I think that if he is out of the picture you should start taking them to your church were you feel more at home regardless your children they will still learn the word of God and your husband is giving them a bad exsample when fishing is more important than teaching his children faith its like saying I rather go fishing than to work or school, we all need that balance meal and his not giving it to them. I think you will have more of a problem with his family if anything and if you do just tell them what you told us and they should understand Good luck with this.

Answer 6

This is one of those times when you need your faith to guide you. Are you going to convert to please your husband or because you feel in your heart you are doing the right thing for you. I don't believe in changing your religion just to please someone else. You need to do what's right for you, then you take your children to church with you. When they are older, you give them the option as to what religion they wish to choose for themselves. Religion is a personal choice, not one someone should make for you. With your children you are giving them guidance, but still allowing them to make their own choice in the future. My husband and I have the same beliefs, so I wasn't in your situation, however I can tell you that I would not change my faith for anyone. Faith is believing in something so strongly you do not need it validated by someone else.

Answer 7

You should continue to go and after church while eating lunch talk with the kids about how nice the service was. Eventually he will come around and want to go with you. Especially as the kids get older they are going to ask on their own..."Daddy, why does mommy go with us but you don't?" That is going to cut his heart. Keep doing what you are doing, Mom, you are doing the right thing!

Good luck!

Answer 8

he may have had it shoved down his throat like me and my sister. Neither of us go to church as adults, she does not take her children. If I were you I would take to where you feel most comfortable. He doesn't show an interest in their relgious upbringing. I'd tell him if you are going to change. If he protests tell him straight out that if he wants a say he needs to be involved. Other wise it is your choice.

Answer 9

have you reminded him of his promise? if hes not willing to do his part, go do what you are most comfortable with. if not you and your children will always resent what has happened...

Answer 10

you need to be true to yourself. if you are having doubts, don't convert. if he's not going to church with the kids, take them to yours.