everything is normal... everything is fine... just relax... everyone, including your mom, has been right where you are.... it is something new... it is actually a "big" something new.. new part of life... why? well age-wise we may still call you child or teen... but? physically there is no denying you are now a woman.... how's that for a "change" and there are quite a few others that happen day to day and week to week that are your cues/signals... that is how you will learn when to expect your monthly menses....
I understand the shyness... I bet everyone who has already answered does too... it is something a little "embarrassing" for some reason if we do not know.... and since it in turn relates to "sex" might be part of it..... but? I want to point out... you did not come with any instruction booklet... no one gave you one when you started getting your period either.... so there should be no embarrassment regarding the not knowing..whatever reason you feel you can not go to your mom, you might want to work on... she can be your greatest ally over the next few years... believe me there will be questions... and it is always better to ask mom rather than friends... they might know more? but not more than mom... and not the experience to help you with the right choices.... you know? just a thought...
as I said, we have all been where you are... I can very clearly remember the first few months of not knowing what to do... how to know what to expect or when... and that was oh, what? 35 years ago?! lol... yes.. I am old.. I know... and yet, I am still learning... everyday...
now, some ways to get to know your own cycle so you feel and are more prepared include;
first;expect the unexpected and always be prepared.... ie. carry liners, pads or tampons everywhere.. and get past some shyness if you do not.... I remember being in the public restroom at fifteen and was not.. the dispenser was out and a woman noticed I was so frustrated I was near tears.. but too shy to voice anything... she was the kindest woman... a nurse.. and well.. she was prepared... told me none of us are prepared at the beginning... cause it is such an unspoken/taboo almost topic... so, just always carry something....
the cues;
--cramps, everyone gets them in varying degrees of pain.. some it just feels a little sore.... for others it feels like... well.. it ihurts a whole lot.... and different foods can actually increase that pain... like chocolate...
--mood swings.... get to know and understand that even though we all go thru it? we are also responsible for staying civil.... umm... no matter how stupid men appear in that time... sometimes the moods last for three of the four weeks.... for others.. it is a shorter timeframe.... how do you know them? just like the name... your moods "swing" from one extreme to the other.... in a matter of seconds! oh, and you will begin to notice more and more that is also the same time you feel "on edge" or more irritable..... believe it or not? the same food that increases cramps... is the very cure for over the edge moods.... lol... just makes you feel "happy" one reason the stereo-type of "oh, is it that time of month.. do you need chocolate to be nice again" attitude of some people....
--next would be some girls/women get sore breasts.... and break out more... it is not oilier skin really... it is actually hormonal and chemical changes....
which brings me to why... ummm, if you do not know already... if you do.. sorry for the repeat here....
see the monthly cycle is actually changing what chemicals you produce for various reasons.....some are what? estrogen and progesterone...and the hormones/chemicals come from and to the ovaries... from and to brain... pituitary I know is one are.... can't remember the other in brain... anyway.... egg matures... it triggers a release of a few.. to prevent any other eggs reaching maturity from being allowed to release... as it travels along there are other changes chemically, hormonally... as the body gets ready "just in case" there is going to be a fertilization occuring.... as the egg ages over the next few days and it's time runs out... the body releases more chemicals... different ones that halt the process of building a home (the lining of the uterus) and tells the body to shed it as or right after the egg dies.....
this is the reason for moods going up and down... along with the skin changes... some women know where their cycle is because they begin to notice that part way thru the cycle there is a pain on one side of the lower tummy... and it changes monthly as to which side.... egg releases alternate between left and right ovary.... that one is more difficult to notice... it is not like it is constant, or always there.... it usually gets chalked up to indigestion...
alright, so there are some signs... and some reasons for why we get all whacky, and weight changes, skin even throughout each month....... here is another;
those same chemicals, hormones that rage inside of us... affect our friends, family as well... go into any home with more than one woman, of child bearing years (ie. not in menapause) and you will find that they all fall on or around same time as the others.... it is also girls/women who are close friends and spend a lot of time together.. co-workers and classmates too can affect it... these chemicals/hormones "talk" to each other.... and the one with the established or "most regular" period, is the one others change to match over the course of a few months... in one article it was refered to as "alpha female" status is the most regular... don't know... always kind of thought of it as whomever had been getting theirs the longest.... only time that won't affect a woman, is if she is on the pill or other chemical/hormonal changing control....
that last part is probably the biggest reason to always carry "protection" of liners, pads or tampons...
those are some "cues" that you will learn as you go along... it won't happen over night.. you need to "tune into yourself" paying attention to subtle changes day to day.... week to week... and even writing about them, or noting them in a journal or on a calendar.... then, over time, you will see a pattern for it all.... noting the first day you have your mense is important in learning your own pattern too... how many days, it is not so important... how heavy or light is only for your own knowledge too.... month to month those change... it is how many days in between.. and those are counted the first day of your period to the first day of your next... "regular" just means you get it every month exactly the same amount of days between... whether it is 28, 29, 30, 31, 32, or higher... even lower than 28.. some women get theirs every twenty days...
the ones that are not "regular" are women who have gotten their periods for more than two years and every month it has always been and continues to be one month 28 the next 35 the next 29 the next 34 the next 27 the next 33 or whatever... irregular... very rarely if ever is the same month to month...
hope this has helped you out there...
welcome to at least one part of adulthood :)
2007-03-03 12:36:43
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answered by elusive_001 5
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Don't worry. I had my period when I was 12 and I am 13 know too. My period did not go in a pattern to so I just decide to have a few pad on me all the time and I had an extra pair of pants in my back pack too. Try putting a thin ad one a week before you had it the last time. Or try marking the day that you have it this month and then counting 30 days ahead and put a pad on a week before it supposed happen. That what I did and it a work pretty well. But don't be afraid to ask your mom. i was shy about it too but then I ask my mom and she actually gave me some pretty good advice so just ask your mom. And try doing what I did.
2007-03-03 11:17:52
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answered by Grace 1
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It is a mystery it just comes once a month about the same time, but you never know the exact date, unless your on the pill Just remember about the date it came last time, it usually is on the first of each month.. You being so young it usually doesn't have a heavy flow the same day you start. Keep a pad in your locker at school or about the time you think it is going to start you might put one in your purse. I could always judge it pretty good because I would have a little cramping and my back would have a little discomfort just before I started. But, your flow should be spotted or light on the first day not a real heavy flow.
2007-03-03 11:25:59
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answered by Anonymous
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I'm 30, had my first period when I was 13 and still see no pattern. I am regular though...have never missed a period in my whole life. I also get "signals" around 1 week before like sore breasts, lower back pains, crave junk food, etc. I always carry an extra 2 pads in my purse/handbag/backpack. You never know when you or your girlfriend will start a day early.
2007-03-05 07:13:08
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answered by Mari76 6
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you need to be prepared my dear. You need to put some pads in your bag. You wont see a "pattern" for a while yet, and as you get older and have more experience (whether you're regular or not) you know when it's coming. Such as feeling extra tired, lower abdominal pain, sore breasts, and being extra moody.
You need to speak to your mum, or the school nurse, you shouldn't go through this with out an older womans advice. Trust me it makes it easier. Can you talk to a girlfriends mum or older sister?
Good Luck and don't worry it gets easier!!!
2007-03-03 11:20:58
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answered by Anonymous
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Well i say to just keep some pads in your purse or book bag. You should have some symstoms like cramps, sore breast . Once you start with out notice at least it will not be all over your clothes because you have your protection the pads.
Good luck
2007-03-03 11:29:29
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answered by girlmiddle 1
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Some of us girls get body signals. Ex..cramps, oily face, back aches,ect.... and then some dont.
But if you keep and eye on your calendar you can get a better idea.
Most girls cycle's are 21 to 28 days apart. Just start caring a pad or two around with you in you purse. If you dont cary one you might want to start with at least a cute small one.
Your a woman now. CONGRATULATIONS !!!!!111
2007-03-03 11:15:56
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answered by mcdermond3 2
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When it's about time for me to start, I always find that I want to eat more, and not stuff that's good for me. I want junk food. Some months I want things like chips and others I want candy.
For some women their breasts (especially the nipples) get more tender, and sometimes even hurt (like a stinging sensation).
I always can tell when mine is coming because I have really good bowel movements for two days before I start.
One more thing, pms for me is like a week before I start. I get irritable and go to bed some nights crying because I am so upset with my kids or husband - they always say "what's wrong with you?"
Keep a pantyliner on for now, until you start to get regulated. You don't even notice that they are there, and they will protect your undies.
2007-03-07 09:57:49
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answered by kbib12 3
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This happens to every gal, just calm down.
U could get them slim pads and wear them all the time or just
go on instinct. If you start in class, just raise your hand and get to bathroom, if you flood , wrap coat around waistline.
If you start at a friends, borrow a kotex fast or use toilet paper,
make you one .
Bounty soft papertowels do great also, never flush any of this.
wrap it up in tissue and put in trash.
get you some pms pills (pamprin) and save plastic bottles to fill with hot water to put on belly during crampin.
magnets off fridge helps crampin also, put under bellybutton.
you are normal, so dont worry.
2007-03-03 11:16:31
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answered by sunflare63 7
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take a pad with you everywhere you go. When i first started my period it was quite similar to yours. But after a few more months a pattern will start to show but for now make sure you keep a pad somewhere whenever you go places.
2007-03-03 11:13:55
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answered by Roxy Andrews 2
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first off i will say don't be to shy to ask your mom.she may know the answer to help you.i,being a total stranger,may also be able to help.when i was 12 i got my period.i had no idea when it was coming and when to be prepared.it does go off like that in the beginning,5 days,2 days and so forth.just try to carry some pads or even tampons in your purse.there are little signs to look for when you are close to have your period.like bloating below your belly button,getting aches in your lower back.the signs are always different.it takes some time to get to know what they are.again i ask just try to ask your mom that is why she is there.she is there to help you with anything.
2007-03-03 11:19:56
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answered by Anonymous
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