I told her I don't love her, but she said If I don't marry her she's going to move to another state and take my daughter. I don't want that, she said she put in her time and deserves for me to marry her. Even though I keep cheating on her she still say's that she loves me. I love my daughter too much to let her go! What should I do?
2007-03-03 10:58:42 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Work at learning to love the Mother of your child. Make her your wife. I tell you it can be done. One day you will be so glad that you did. I know what I am talking about. Count your blessings.
I could have done things a lot differently many years ago but due to certain circumstances I didn't. I have thanked God over and over. I am married now for 54 years to the most wonderful man in the world. The best years being since he became a born again christian.We have 5 grown happily married children. My husband treats and talks to me so sweet and kind. We are so connected and we couldn't be more in love. Everyday is sweeter then the day before. Thank God circumstances got in my way many years ago or I wouldn't have what I have today.~~~Jill
2007-03-03 12:14:01 · answer #1 · answered by Jill ❤'s U.S.A 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Take this as a learning experience and try and keep your pants on when you don't love someone, know a innocent child has to be the involved in the dispute of two grown adults with the mentally of an five year old. You cant be cheating on someone you don't love, I suggest you slow down on the cheating pay more attention to the mom to the point she gets sick of you, then she will move on, your babies mother sounds like that type person that wants what she cant have so give it to her she will feel she met her goal and move on. Good luck to your daughter I hope her parents grow up soon
2007-03-03 19:23:23 · answer #2 · answered by none 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to see a counselor and find out why you keep cheating. Let her move on with her life, you obviously don't want to work things out with her. You have been stringing her along and she is tired of it. Try sitting down with her and having a calm conversation. Just explain that it's not going to work out between you guys and you are done. You didn't marry her and you have no control over what she does with the rest of her life. You already screwed up in getting someone pregnant whom you didn't care enough about. Let her move on with her life. You can still be in your daughters life. You are no doubt causing stress and pain to the baby momma and that only effects the child.
2007-03-03 19:16:55 · answer #3 · answered by cakekweeny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just need to go to court and claim your child. You'll end up paying child support but that's what your baby needs.
Now, she wants to manipulate you into marriage, she has such low self-esteem and wants to trap, in her mind she thinks a peace of paper is going to keep you at her side and not run to other girls.
I'm not trying to be mean about her, but I'm a woman and I know love works only if two are in love.
Take your case to a lawyer if things get bad. After all, it's for the good of the child most of all.
2007-03-03 19:21:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's amazing! How can you love the kid and not the mother. I'll bet she is down for you, for whatever. You should be ashamed of yourself. I would take the kid and run! Oh, by the way, you can't keep the kid here if you're not married to the woman. That just happens to be one of the benefits of being married. No court in this land would allow it. She and the child are free to go as they please. It would be cheaper to keep her. Get ready for child support and travel expenses for the kid. That is what the court will allow, dummy.
2007-03-03 23:30:18 · answer #5 · answered by sxychamaquita 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Grow up. Do not marry her. If you love your daughter, think about whether or not you want her to grow up in a truly dysfunctional house. You can go to family court and get an order for visitation. She is using the child as a weapon and that is unforgivable. Think about it, do you want to marry her?
2007-03-03 20:28:31 · answer #6 · answered by QT 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is very insecure, and if she really wants to marry you then she obviously does not have quarter, let alone half a brain in her head!!!!!! Why don't you just fight for custody? If she is willing to take her baby into that kind of relationship, i say she is an unfit mother. Don't even think i'm stickin up for you, you are not worth the points i would lose for bein reported for abuse if i write what i actually think of you!!!!!!!
2007-03-03 19:08:45 · answer #7 · answered by otsy 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I agree she's hoping you will change if she gets you to marry her but that's the wrong way to go about it. Get a lawyer because she can't just take your child away from you. I don't really think she serious about it but get a lawyer anyways. Better safe than sorry...
2007-03-03 19:20:02 · answer #8 · answered by MrS.WilSoN 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want to be with this women then dump her and stop dragging it on with her.
Or loose the extras and make it work with your child's mother and together you all can be a family and raise your child.
It is a choice.
Obviously you are not that done with your babies mother because you are still in her life.
2007-03-03 19:16:17 · answer #9 · answered by ~Raspberry Tea~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she's hoping that if you 2 are married you'll stop cheating. what you need to do is get to a lawyer and her into court so she doesn't take your daughter away from you. don't marry her just to stop her your life will be pure hell.
2007-03-03 19:04:20 · answer #10 · answered by Pandora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋