My husband has always been a little irresponsible. We decided to try for a baby, and now I am 38 weeks pregnant. The problem is that he seems to be getting more and more teenager-ish by the day. Last night after 13 beers (On his own) I told him it might be an idea to slow down, quite politely. He told me that if I didnt like it i could f... off and leave. He then left and I havent seen him yet. This is so common now, he never used to be like this and I dont feel I can trust him with the baby. What do I do to make him take some responsibility? I am out of ideas, but dont want to leave him coz he is my husband
2007-03-03 10:39:05 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i think he is doing this cuz u r pregnant
2007-03-03 10:43:31 · answer #1 · answered by Jessica 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he's overwhelmed by the responsibility of having a new child and the thought that he may have to change to adapt to the new circumstances. It's easy to feel offended by his actions but you need to stay calm, cool and collected. I know it's easier said than done but focus on the solution rather than how hurt you are or his worrisome behavior.
Try not to put a lot of pressure on him in the beginning or talk only about the baby.
And just some advice, from personal experience....whenever he's acting negatively in some manner, acknowledge it first, rather than telling him to stop doing it. For example, when you saw him drink all those beers you could have said "looks like something is bothering you...are you ok?" This approach works for me and opens the doors for communication.
Good luck
2007-03-03 19:03:45 · answer #2 · answered by Sara * 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess it's time to get some professional assistance. The idea of a baby just may be scaring the beejeevies outta him.
You need to find out what's on his mind, &/OR what the heck may be bothering him.....The sooner, the better! Good Luck!
2007-03-03 18:44:25 · answer #3 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want advice that is practical, then don't ask. You need to leave. He's acting like a child. Do you want 2 at the same time? Do yourself a favor and don't be there when he comes home. Why should he grow up when you call him on his behavior?
2007-03-07 14:05:19 · answer #4 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
note: I am no professional, so be careful taking any advice from here!
Talk to him calmly (when he is sober) and tell him that you care about him. Ask him if he will see someone to help him with his current alcohol problem. If you really are strained, go see a marriage counselor. Maybe you could also get advice from your parents or friends. Possibly talk to his parents too. Keep hoping for the best! Be careful! :)
2007-03-03 20:29:42 · answer #5 · answered by sawlmw2003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why in the world would you give a man who acts like a child, a child?! I mean you having a baby isn't gonna make him start acting responsibly. You're gonna just have to deal with it now I mean if you want to stay with him then he's not gonna change just because you're having a baby.
2007-03-03 18:47:23 · answer #6 · answered by Lisa D 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
How does he feel about the baby? He might be stressed out about the whole idea. Last minute jitters? I hope he changes his tune.
2007-03-03 18:51:01 · answer #7 · answered by Me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not trust him with the baby and change the locks.
2007-03-03 18:50:31 · answer #8 · answered by Li 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he knows he'll be soon competing for your attention, and he's practicing now. some men become very child like when they become fathers becaus they are jealous of the attention the children get.
2007-03-03 18:50:13 · answer #9 · answered by Pandora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dahhhrling its ok you will find a way into the light of buddha he will guide you and you will have a nice life
2007-03-03 18:56:46 · answer #10 · answered by uniquegirl 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋