boyfriend and my mother and I live together, he has some anger issues but never would or has done anything physical, just yells and has a short temper well actually my mother and boyfriend both have short tempers and both yell and tend to fight and disagree on alot of things, so in seeking a person to lend an ear to her my mother tells my father her side of most of the fights and how things go around here, and he paints this picture in his mind that promotes the mental feeling of wanting to inflict pain on my boyfriend and my father has just told me this, my boyfriend is depressed now and has been under alot of pressure at work and he also takes online courses to get a degree in web design and everything is getting to him. I just don't know how to change my father's mind and I don't know how to calm my boyfriend down when he blows his top please no comments that i should leave him he is a very loving man and has been a wonderful boyfriend and provider to and for me for 5 years now..ty
2007-03-03 10:28:18 · 8 answers · asked by KarenLynne 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Listen both him and I are 30 yrs old and my mother lives with US she is trying to pay off credit card debt and save money for retirement, and also i forgot to mention my father and mother are divorced and he does not live here.....
2007-03-03 10:39:14 · update #1
I just need to find ways to make things work it's just so difficult and i was hoping someone out there would have experienced this situation and got things to be where they should be in a family...
2007-03-03 11:56:16 · update #2
Your boyfriend should take anger management classes. Anger management is not just for people who cause bodily harm to others, it works for the yellers too. It sounds like you and your boyfriend need to be living in your own place, not with your mom .
Your dad is only hearing one side of the story from your mom.It sounds like you and your boyfriend do love each other very much. He works and does school online, plus provides for you. that's fantastic too. Good luck.
2007-03-03 10:44:35 · answer #1 · answered by LadyRazz 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
As a parent speaking..Your father is protective and something that I am sure you have heard many times before but no one will ever be good enough for his little girl. He may see your b-friend as dependent on others since he is living with your mother and yourself. He may have also heard about the fights and he is worried that his temper may grow to another level that he fear for you. He may still see you as his little girl that needs his protection even though your grown and have a child of your own. He wants the best for you I am sure.
I believe that the only thing that will change his mind is your b-friends actions. As time passes and he sees that your b-friend is providing for you and your child, is caring, loving, and respectful then he will see in time that he is not as bad as he thinks he is..only this will influence his decision. Good luck
2007-03-03 18:37:08 · answer #2 · answered by Maybe I am a smartass..so what 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are living in a dysfunctional situation. Get married, move away from your mother. Mom does not belong in your relationship with your husband. She needs to work out her bills and her retirement just exactly like other moms do with married daughters.
The problem is that you are living with someone that you are not married to and you have a third party living with you, causing stress, arguements and tension.
Change these things and your father will respect your husband and your husband will respect you. This would be a healthy situation
I'm a mom with at daughter too.
2007-03-03 18:39:25 · answer #3 · answered by 4HIM- Christians love 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Honey, wake up ! You're a little old to be asking these kinds of questions. Especially ones you know the answer to. A woman should never have to worry about how to keep her man calm !! You know what to do, you are just looking for someon on here to tell you what you want to hear.....I am guess this isn't it !
2007-03-03 20:15:22 · answer #4 · answered by dreamgirl 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Dont confuse yourself its high time for you to marry someone... Marry your boy friend and live somewhere else
And if your mom keeps filling your Dad's ears then ask her to stay with your dad or marry him again...
Dont spoil your life!!!
2007-03-05 06:09:13 · answer #5 · answered by Raj 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the only person who can change his mind is the boyfriend with his actions talking does nothing to prove anything only good intentions good luck
2007-03-03 18:32:41 · answer #6 · answered by omallory_us 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell your dad to give me a call, he can drag you back to his house by your hair and I can beat the piss out of your ****** boyfriend. Why little girls like you are so dumb is beyond me
2007-03-03 18:33:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
I need to ask ....if this boyfriend is such a good provider, why is your mom living with you or you with her?
2007-03-03 18:33:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋