Me & my boyfriend were together for 7 years We broke up back in December because I was really irresponsible, not cooking, not cleaning, being jealous all the time for nothing, Yelling at him and not talking to him like an adult. I was always spending money on stuff that I did not need. I was not saving any money at all. My boyfriend wanted a independent woman and That I did not do. Now I have my own place and paying bills and being responsible. My boyfriend saids he just wants to be friends for now but he is out there dating other women and he saids I have a chance of getting back together. Do you feel that I have a chance? What more do I need to do to prove that I am his dream girl. We get along so well but there were times I just acted like a child. I get along so well with his family and they all look up to me. I have been coming around being around him more lately since we broke up and been cleaning and cooking but I dont know anymore. I dont know if I still have a chance. Help!!
2007-03-03 09:49:52 · 7 answers · asked by starrynightbreeze2005 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
sounds like the consequence of being a little spoiled, pampered, or just plain inconsiderate..and like you knew then that you were...
You learned a lesson...he learned some lessons as well...
the relationship between the two of you has grown, matured, changed, and is now what ever is resultant from BOTH of your choices sense then...
You have changed...he has changed...and the past with all its old dreams has changed...
move on with the lessons you have learned..let him go.. let the past go...
things you remember fondly, he may not....
2007-03-03 10:37:19 · answer #1 · answered by olddogwatchin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's a lot of truth in the saying, "If you love something, set it free. If it comes back to you, it's yours. If not, it never was." As long as he knows you'll always be there for him, he won't come around. Rather, tell him something like, "I really love you and care about you. I cherish the time we've spent together. But I'm not going to wait around forever. If you want to pursue other relationships, then evidently you don't feel the same way about me." Put him to think hard about what he's doing. If he doesn't appreciate you, somebody else will. Above all, you have nothing to feel guilty about. If nothing else, this has been a learning experience for you. But remember, that it takes two people to have a relationship.
2007-03-10 02:25:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it's possible, cookie, that you blew it and grew up too late. It sounds like your guy had a lot of patience with you, but you may have simply wore him out. And, once you have worn a loving and patient guy out, he may be all spent.
On the other hand, he may not find anyone as good as you out there in Dateland. So, you might still be in the running. However, why wait? Get out there yourself. Meet new people, have some fun, and get to know some other men in your life. You spent 7 years growing up with this one guy. How boring. Get to know others and find out how you relate to a variety of different personalities.
Good luck and enjoy! If he comes back, maybe you'll be there....and maybe you won't. You're a grown up now, right?
2007-03-03 17:58:53 · answer #3 · answered by SafetyDancer 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if he said, you have a chance, he's offering you one. You can take it if you want to, and you're giving the impression that you want to. What you need to do, is be loyal, truthful, reliable, responsible, and easy. You need to do whatever you say you will,
and do whateve he asks you to do. "So," as the saying goes, don't go onto the stage clueless, but knowing what you need to do". I don't think you have to be independent, long as you're independent of family when it comes to decision making. It's smart of you to admit, your failures and that it was your fault. But
how did he act? Any better than how you say, you acted? The faultline in any scenario, is generally 50/50. Good luck!
2007-03-03 18:16:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably thinks your doing all this to just impress him. When you come around all the time, it looks like your trying to make it obvious that your trying to get him back. He will probably respect you more if you did this for yourself, and that you can take care of yourself. Don't dwell on it, and don't try to force it. IF he wants you still then it will happen. The best thing you can do for yourself is to take care of yourself. The rest is in his hands.
2007-03-11 17:36:06 · answer #5 · answered by MR. B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be yourself and be responsible. He will see you for what it was once if he still has feelings for you. Good luck
2007-03-03 17:56:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
honey, just drop him. get over him, hes gotten over u
2007-03-11 17:28:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋