Any encouragement out there?

Question

Hoping someone can just give me some words of encouragement. I am struggling to deal with a guy i sit next to at work who i thought was interested but it hasn't worked out. He still plays mind games w/me and i ignore him. Plus another girl at work is harassing me and making my life miserable cause she is jealous of my work performance. My boss is unable to fix that cause the girl does it in subtle ways when others aren't around. I've had a relapse of bulimia which hasn't been a problem 4 me 4 8 yrs. Plus my stepdad is dying of brain cancer. i don't want to go out and meet people for fear i'll be used and played again. and i am so depressed. i am under a dr's care, taking medicine, etc., but hoping to get a word or two of encouragement from anyone out there whose been through this stuff.... thank you.

quitting my job is not really an option, i've been there 10 yrs and don't want this stuff to force me out of a position that has otherwise been good for me

Answer 1

1. the male coworker...we can only perceive what we want to perceive. dont ignore him...think of him in a different way...he's a silly coworker.
2. the female coworker...make her your friend. say hello how's your day going...nice blouse, where did you get it? let's have lunch today, etc.
3. dont bother your boss about such things that arent actually work related...those are personality conflicts he doesnt need to deal with.
4. bulimia...knowing you cant control others actions...but you can contol your actions. bulimia is a destructive action on yourself...try a safe hobby instead.
5. stepdad...when you feel like doing some bulimic episode...think of him and go see him or do something for him.
far better action and sure he'd appreciate a healthy warrier in his time of need for a healthy mind and heart.
6. eat healthy, excercise get plenty of sunshine. do happy things. help others. be your own doctor.
put on some good music, sing and dance. watch comedies and spent quality time with your loved ones. take it day by day instead of minute by minute.
train yourself to remove a bad thought and replace it with a good thought. peace

Answer 2

So sorry to hear what you've been through.

As for those at work who give you a hard time, ask them why are they acting this way; what is the problem and just tell them to leave you alone if they can't be nice to you. You need to take care of yourself and be with friends or someone that you can trust. You need to be with a support group - either at church or some other place. Listen to self help tape - get it from a library. I recommend Dr. Wayne Dyer's tape - there's a spiritual solution to every problems.

Visit your stepdad whenever you can. I know it's hard on you because you can barely sustain yourself, but doing this may help you cope with your situation in some way. Hug.

God bless!

Answer 3

Oh honey.
When it rains, it pours, right?

I so know what you're going through. If you'd like to contact me, please do.

Here are some thoughts:
1. The guy and girl at work are jerks. Try and "rise above the battlefield." Don't give them the satisfaction of knowing that they bother you at all.

2. Good for you for getting help with the depression. Keep going to your doctor.

3. Of course the bulimia has come back. You feel completely out of control of everything in your life. Keep in mind that these feelings will pass. Feelings are not facts.

4. Don't worry about going out and meeting new people right now.

5. What worked for me was getting interested in spirituality. Not religion, per se. It helped with the hopelessness. I started listening to Marianne Williamson's lectures (on tape) and 12 years later, I'm still listening. She talks about "A Course In Miracles."

6. Perhaps most important. Looking back at that dark period now, I realize that it was the biggest gift I ever could have received. Going through it and doing things a little differently has made my life much better and much richer.

Hang in there, sweetie.

Answer 4

im sorry to hear thats happening to you. it must not be your year. well you may have struggles in life, but you will get through it. at the end of the day just think, wow im still alive. you may not be religious but that sometimes helps depending on how you look at it (dont worry im not gonna sit here and preach to you online, i hate when ppl push religion down other ppls throats) so ne wayz, you may have a hard time with dating or eating disorders or harrasment, but those are the small things in life that you must go through to learn from. without suffering there would be no compassion and life wouldnt be as wonderful. so dont sweat the things in life that bring you down. it WILL get better. i gurantee it. and as for your sick father. i wish him the best of luck to getting better or at least dying painlessly. i hope i helped. if you want to talk more you can email me. i will always be there, even if i dont really know you :]

Answer 5

The mind games are very unhealthy and just like I tell everyone, you need to love yourself enough to not allow petty stuff get to you, you have the power to not allow anything to get to you, that open window of opportunity to let anyone hurt you, not good. You know that people could see right through you if you don't hold yourself up. This girl at work, sounds evil. It might be hard to report her, try to set her up to get cough, you need to understand this stuff could jeopardize your reputation at work. About your step dad, he needs everyone support, and if he knows you are struggling this way it doesn't make his illness any better. Try to seek some counseling, for the sake of your wellness. Medication is not good, it makes you age faster. Eat healthy, read positive books, and most important don't entertain ignorance. Know that you are a worthy person and you deserve to be treated fairly, and respected. You are all you have to make things better for yourself take good care of yourself, it pays off in the long run...GOOD LUCK TO YOU! I trust in you to do what is good for you! Relax a little and focus's in you!

Answer 6

aww, hang in there sweetie, your just going thru a rough spot..the girl from work? if you see a game coming, turn it around on her.. but ususllay its best to blow women like thta off, she'll trap herself one of these days...
the guys next to you at work? if he hasnt really shown in interest, dont waste your time...thats a depression waiting to happen...
it always happens that when you stop looking for a date, one will find you...dont know why, maybe thats only me.... but i understand the depression, dont let it suck you down becaus it will! anytime you wanna chat, email me.. i;; chat with ya....( im a girl too, so sorry, no love intrest, but a friend to talk to)
always remember, no matter what your going thru, it could be worse... your not in jail..haha
oh old expression, 'when your going thru hell, keep going'''

Answer 7

find a new job and quit worrying so much about it all, not everyone is out to hurt you, learn from your experience and remove yourself from a situation if it happens again

Answer 8

still fighting with it. but the biggest defeat would be to run , hide, andstop trying to meet a good one.

Answer 9

Don't worry, there is an angel watching out for you... You will make it through this.

Answer 10

go to rehab for bolemia and go to a counselour for everything else.