A while back I made a blog post about the two women I have dated (not simultaneously) but didn’t got far.
While I started to talk about the second one I used this line:
“I admit I'm a rather shallow man, I tend to judge people on appearance AND personality. This woman, however was a tad overweight, and I'm being kind, but that didn't matter… somehow I still found her stunningly beautiful, I would never want her to lose a single pound.”
I was trying to look for a way to say how I’m an moron that tends to quickly ignore a woman due to body weight, but how I found this woman beautiful and without any defect.
Today, I got an response from her on the blog where she says:
“and you're being kind, you say? wow. glad you were able to overlook my apparent obesity.”
Now I feel like a worthless ball of putrid guano. I never intended to insult her or make her feel bad, I never “overlooked her obesity” because for me she had no defects and was perfect.
What should I tell her now?
2007-03-03 09:47:51 · 4 answers · asked by Joy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
If she had no defects and was perfect, you would have never posted that on your blog. Write her back and tell her you admit you are a moron, and that you hope she can forgive you... but if that blog was about me, I'd never talk to you again.
2007-03-03 09:59:10 · answer #1 · answered by emtb9 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're a little bit of an idiot. You certainly could have left out the "and I'm being kind" but. Just tell her that in the past you have made instant judgments about women based on looks and body type without trying to get to know them. That was in the past. You have now matured and realize how dumb that was to do. What you meant to get across, but didn't, is how fantastic she is. You did not mean to imply anything about her, it just came out wrong. You think she is perfect and sincerely hope that she will give you another chance (if that's what you would like). And in the future, read your blogs over a few times before you post them. Just because it makes sense to you doesn't mean everyone else will get it. Good luck.
2007-03-03 09:57:28 · answer #2 · answered by stseukn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women tend to be sensitive about their weight...especially when it comes to relationship individuals....hmm I would definately apologize to her, keep in communication with her...(unless she refuses to talk to you)...If you really care for her...try something else..you know at times "actions speak louder than words"...Give her some flowers/ candy/ or a nice card of apology....girls love those things...good luck!
2007-03-03 09:56:31 · answer #3 · answered by cutegirlin_tn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
touchy situation, maybe you should post what you have here but add some apologies to it as well, you screwed up, really you should remove it from there too and call to apologize
2007-03-03 10:00:00 · answer #4 · answered by Wendy C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋