How would you deal with the naughty kids of today?

Question

half of parents are in favour of bringing back the cane,but the other half claim that this would be no use at all...just how are we going to curb this behaviour...do you think tv plays any part in influencing kids as some people suggest they are the biggest problem in our society showing violence and relationship problems in most of the before watershed programes.Are we just going to have to accept that this is the way it is from now on

Answer 1

this comes from [adults] being rebellious to the laws of God, time after time the bible tells us to discipline our children and with the rod, [or hand] but people say they know better-- oh really? young parents say they believe discipline is violent? yet their preschoolers are kicking them and and slapping their own mothers? so they took God out of school years ago-and today kids bring drugs to school, brings guns to school, have sex with teachers, go to school drunk, pregnant girl in school, teaching kids homosexuality is ok, and pre-marital sex is ok, flagrant devil worship, abortion for 13 y.o.'s, hatred towards all authority figures-the list goes on and on, school has become the devil's workshop, and so this what society reaped-a Godless culture. my son got in trouble for mentioning the name of Jesus, but they tell us to be tolerant of all that is evil? absoluetly not, no society that is morally incorrect can be politically correct, because politics is about society,

Answer 2

I think that sometimes a child needs a smack on the bottom, but that is only in extreme situations. I have my son on a reward system and nothing gives him more pleasure than knowing how proud and happy we are with the things he accomplishes. So when he is naughty, I let him know that we are dissappointed in his behaviour and why. Up til now it has worked wonderfully, but things change, just like the behaviour of children when they get older. But with lots of love and attention, you hope the connection will hold and what you say and do will matter to them, always. Do I think tv plays a part in the influencing our children, yes. My child doesn't watch violent television and we try to keep it to a minimum. We play interactive games, memory, and other things as family. Puzzles, etc. This encourages conversation and playful behavior within the entire family. But most families sit in front of the television and don't talk. A family that plays together, stays together.

Answer 3

I am a father of 3 sons. As they were growing up I needed to figure out an equitable way to meet out punishment for offenses that would be fair and effective without causing harm or resentment and that would apply to all family members, including the adults. I also wanted to eliminate any shouting or acrimony, fits or tantrums. I decided to have one punishment for all situations. We created a set of rules covering a broad range of issues from chores, school work, pettiness and respect. If someone became in breach of these rules then they had to go outside and dig a 3 foot wide by 3 foot wide by 6 foot deep hole. At the bottom of the hole I placed a lockbox. In the box there was a journal. When you reached the box, you removed the journal and wrote in the date and why you were digging the hole and any other thoughts you may have, such as expressing anger at having to dig the hole. Once completed, the journal is replaced in the box and put back in the hole and the hole is filled. Upon completion, all is forgotten. This proved to be an extremely valuable parenting tool after I, myself, dug my first hole for the offense of being disrespectful to my sons. After they witnessed the universal application of rules in the governance of the family unit then, and only then, did we achieve a consensus on how to be a family. My sons are grown now and to this day they talk about what a great idea that was and how they plan to use it when they have children of their own.

Answer 4

T.V does have the biggest influence on the children of today thats where most of the violence starts but dose not end..only the strong hand of the parents at the beginning of the childs life is the answer,where do we go from there ...it's anybodys guess

Answer 5

I really don't know. My stepson is 19 and in Marine bootcamp. He was tough to raise and we were pretty strict. I don't know if we could do it again. I watch Nanny 911 and am just stunned at how badly these young kids treat their parents.

I think if they are young there is hope to change some of their bad habits. TV and other media and electronics have a lot to do with it. There is just SO much trouble out there that kids can get in to without ever leaving their home!

Answer 6

I have 2 daughters who are very well behaved, they have their moments like all kids but recently the headteacher said they were both a delight to have in his school.

The older girls teacher told me last week she was 'absolutely brilliant and i wish all the chilren were like her' so we must be doing something right.

We don't hit them, or beat them, or whip them, or lock them away, and we've never felt the need to.
We have a good relationship with them, we listen , ask their opinions and spend time with them instead of sticking them on a playstation 6 hours a day.

My wife and i are not brilliant parents, we're just normal people and yet our children behave, show respect to others and have never been in trouble with the police or even at school.

I see all around young children out of control, running around shops, causing problems and parents doing and saying nothing so no wonder they grow up to become a problem to us all.

Answer 7

I'd make parenting classes mandatory. I mean, we have to take classes and a test in order to get a license. Why not parenting classes? People are getting too involved in their jobs, too concerned with making money and not paying attention to what is going on in their own houses. They don't know their children's friends or where their kids really are. It's terrible. I think that if the kids start having problems or getting into trouble, their parents should definitely have to get counseling or classes or something.

Answer 8

the children of today are more naughty because of the parenting skills. Go back to the traditional methods within the home to bring up the children and the problems would be solved. the word that parents fail to teach their children now is respect. to gain respect you have to earn respect and most parents love their children but do not respect their children therefore how do they expect their children to respect them or ohters.

Answer 9

i think its complicated, i agree with smacking(it never did me any harm) but i think it goes deeper, i feel that the family unit has completely broken, you have loads of single parents with kids from diff people and no-one wants to work anymore because the social pay out too much and too easily. Things have to change on a great scale otherwise this country will collapse. kids are bad because of the lack of stability and the respect that comes from earning a living, i wonder how many agree with me when i say that I'm sick of working to pay for people who don't want too and their kids who are not learning value and respect

Answer 10

Children who are given real love and real respect are well-behaved. Listen to them, really listen to them. Give them support and give them age-appropriate responsibility. Accept that they will make mistakes, have off days, be in a bad mood sometimes etc - after all, we are all like that sometimes. Don't expect kids to be better behaved than the adults around them. Make sure they get enough sleep, exercise, fresh air, healthy food and cut down the e-numbers and sugar - these all have huge impacts on behaviour and mood. Give your child your absolute undivided attention as often as poss - it drives me mad as an adult if I am talking to someone and I can tell that they're not really listening - well, kids feel it too. Increase your levels of self-awareness - don't dump on your kids when its your fault or your mad with someone else. Accept them the way they are. Be honest with them, don't bribe or threaten them. If they do something you don't like then tell them why and explain how you would like them to behave and what the consequence will be if they don't. Don't overdo punishment or rewards - neither works long term - you just end up with people who are careful not to get caught or expect the world to be grateful. Love them, love them, love them and then love them some more. Tell them you like them and tell them why. Listen to how you speak to your kids and then ask yourself, "would I speak to my friends or my boss like this?" We need to take responsibility for how our kids behave. We need to stop blaming them for our inadequate parenting. If we are finding it tough then we need to get help. Start with ourselves. Remember, we are the adults and they are the children, we are the ones with the responsibility, they are just learning - and they can only learn what we teach them.