Me and my ex dated a year and are still close as friends my now boyfriend acts mad after i talk to my ex we even tried to hang out all of us together me and my ex both date someone new and i don't want to lose him as a friend but don't want to lose my boyfriend.
2007-03-03 09:19:43 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I had this same problem. My husband didn't like one of my guy friends because we had dated. All I can say is be persistant in explaining that you are just friends with this guy and that you want to be with you're now boyfriend. Back off a little bit in the friendship. I'm not saying don't be friends, just don't always be calling each other or hanging out all the time. Over time you're now boyfriend will just get used to him being a part of your group of friends. If you're now boyfriend says little remarks about your ex just explain that you understand how he feels, but friends are important to you and you don't want to hear the mean things he has to say. Hopefully this will all work, if not you might have to make a choice. Good Luck
2007-03-03 09:32:08 · answer #1 · answered by cavwife 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm friends with most of my former boyfriends. A few of my boyfriends have had a problem with it. But I would just explain to them that me and my ex are just friends and I have absolutely no interest in my ex anymore. I'm with them, if I wanted to be with my ex I would be. Some of them were the jealous type and still didn't understand. To me its a trust issue. If my boyfriend doesn't trust me when I tell him there is nothing there other than friendship and nothing is going to happen with my ex then we have a problem. Your boyfriend should trust you. You would trust him if the situation was reversed right?
2007-03-03 11:25:20 · answer #2 · answered by katiebeth 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to understand that if you dated this guy for a year you both obviously had some deep feelings for each other which can be threatning to both your boyfriend and his girlfriend. Simply keep it on a when I see you I see you basis. Especially if you truly care about your new boyfriend then your ex's friendship should not be very important, not more important than your new boyfriend's feelings. If you and your ex express any troubles with each other in your new relationships, old feelings can resurface which would not be healthy...move on with you new boyfriend
2007-03-03 09:43:01 · answer #3 · answered by desperateforanswers 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You want to have your cake and eat it too. You are not being fair to your boyfriend. How would you like to be treated like this? Stop playing this game, because what is going to happen is you are going to lose your boyfriend, Now you need to take a break from you ex. or make a decision, what you want?
2007-03-03 09:31:16 · answer #4 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't think that's right for you to still talk to your ex if you have a new boyfriend. he's probably afraid he's going to lose you, and thinks one or both of you is flirting. Put yourself in his shoes.
2007-03-03 09:25:15 · answer #5 · answered by beauty&brains 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if your bf loves you enough, he should trust you to talk to your ex, if there aint trust in a realationship then there aint gonna be one...oh, and friends are more important than boyfriends, trust me...
2007-03-03 09:30:11 · answer #6 · answered by Nichole 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah you can't do that. your ex is your ex for a reason right? drop him and concentrate on the new guy. if not, then your bf will quit you and then you'll have no one.
2007-03-03 09:30:41 · answer #7 · answered by Danielle 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the same you go swimming without gettig wet....your new b/f will feel like you're palying him how would you feel if he was the same way with his ex...?
2007-03-03 09:24:14 · answer #8 · answered by someguy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋