scared????

Question

I don't know what to do. My parents just died and i'm really scared. I'm crying right now, i don't know what to do. Please can anyone help me? What shoul I do? And going to social services or getting help from anyone like that is not an answer, i had to talk to them when my dog died a while ago, and it wasn't fun, and I don't want to talk to them again. What's wrong with me? What should I do?

Answer 1

You just lost your parents, that's what's wrong with you.. try and go to a church, or first of all, GOD.. ask Him to help you.. A church might help you learn how to hear from God.. Read your Bible and tell God about your problems, see what He says.. He will help you, I promise.. I will pray for you..

Answer 2

There is nothing wrong with you. Most people cry when they lose loved ones. In a sense, you are crying for your loss and not the death of others. They have passed through a veil which the living have not been able to penetrate. When I lost my mother and later my son I would often sit alone at night and talk to them. Crazy ? Maybe, but it helped me to say all the things I did not say when they were alive. I personally believe in an afterlife and that I will someday be able to be with m,y loved ones including my pets which have died. There is no quick cure. You just go on living and time eases the pain.

Answer 3

If you don't feel comfortable talking to social services, which not many people would. Find a family member or a friend. Which from you question I am not sure of the extent of your situation. There is nothing wrong with you, your world has just been turned upside down and you obviously don't have anyone to turn to. You can't talk to people you don't feel comfortable with. You must have access to the internet, so research support groups. There are people like you out there. Try searching "recovering after parents death" "support groups for surviving children" there are support groups out there and it may be easier for now for you to communicate through email or message boards....again there is nothing at all wrong with you, you have just had a life changing experience and now you need to figure out how to adjust.

Answer 4

Dear Ethan,
You did not mention how old you are but I am assuming that you are still in your late teens. First of all, isn't there anyone in your family that can help you like a grandma, an uncle or aunt, older sisters? Are you totally alone? That is hard to believe. I would also go to my church pastor and talk to him about your grieving and how frightened you are and I am sure he will help you. Also you must go back to Social Services because you are entitled to some funds to help you survive if you are still young and do not have a job. This is very important. There is alot of help out there for you and you must take advantage of it...What is wrong with you is that you are still in a state of shock because of the death of your parents, but you must gather your strength to get some help. I wish you well.

Answer 5

relax, i know things seem so crazy right now but you need to chill. try keeping a diary and just write everything. i do that and it really helps me. you can look back someday and see how you pulled through. or you can try something called meditation, i do that too and it works. you find a comfortable position, close your eyes, clear your mind, and concentrate on each part of your body. soon you'll feel relaxed and you will be able to make the right choices. its very calming. if this doesnt work then i highly suggest talking to people at social services, i know it seems like it doesnt help but things will turn out for the better. sorry about your parents

Answer 6

Sorry to hear such sad news! You didn't say how old you are. Are you child or adult? Go to church and speak to a minister or members of the church. No need to be ashamed to seek comfort because sometimes strangers come to the rescue under those circumstances. Don't be afraid to ask for help. If you are catholic, maybe contact Catholic Charities for help. I don't understand why you would go to social services about your dog. What am I missing here? Anyway look for sites that might refer you for grief counseling. If you need financial help, do go to social services. Hope this is not a prank because people out here really do care about you. Good luck!!

Answer 7

Oh honey nothing is wrong with you and you have every right to be scared, that hasnt happend to me but my step son was killed and all you can do is just keep talking to people and as hard as it is life does not stop for you the world is still here. Cry all you want to it helps. Im very sorry this is happening to you

Answer 8

you're just sensitive and that is the sadest thing when your parents passed away. Just remember that you are not alone! What I did when i couldn't cope and everyday seemed to have been getting worse, I would write a journal to yell out my feelings until I utterly felt better. Also I would talk out loud to God! I know things will get better, just take deep breaths and letting time pass will be get you better.

Answer 9

Nothing is wrong with you. At all. You're just having a hard time. I understand. Talking about it is hard and sometimes talking about it again is even harder. I think you should write down how you feel. You don't have to write it like a diary way, just plain. Just write it down. NO dates, NO addresses. You could if you want, thats just my idea.

Answer 10

its normal to feel scared becuase you feel alone in this world and that no body is oging to have your back. if youre not making any money right now go to social security office for survivor's benefits which can pay you monthly. i recently lost my mother last month. i understand what youre going through feel free to email me.stay strong sweet heart and its ok to cry.