This obstacles is a hard-core never forgive a person again because they did something so hurtful they cannot forgive. I am amazed and shocked by the reaction.
He says he is an Indian man and they go back 2 generations and they are like that. Step out of line and you never get back in.
Betrayed by who??? i did not betray him. I did not realize he was so angry a person. He says he will never come to visit me and we are not dating any longer as I was not behaving properly towards him.
Everyone does not do as he likes and if they don't he takes lawsuits out against them to prove he is right and gets his satisfaction by winning money.
I find this attitude is an obstacle in the way of trying to get close to someone. If evertime you are blocked and hurt then how does the other person treat you???
My former boyfriend is wealthy and prides himself on the fact that he is wealthy. material things give him power and success and that is what he wants. But he is an angry person and limited.
2007-03-03 09:13:33 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
HI. Breaking up- whatever the reasons is always a hard thing. And when it's all over people can go to extremes and become someone you didn't know they were.
It sounds to me that this is not the type of person who want to be with anyway. May be instead of overcoming this obstacle (him) you can avoid it and walk in another direction.
2007-03-03 09:32:31 · answer #1 · answered by Appel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When some people get hurt, depending upon the length and severity of the injury, their sense of justice and vulnerability can be forever scarred. As such, in the hopes of preventing any further attacks and any further woundings, they take extreme measures in the hopes that it will ensure they won't get hurt again.
This behavior rarely works though because the behavior actually helps to create some of the situations that the person is trying to prevent. By angrily taking everyone to court, because the person thinks that they are cheaters and whatnot, the person so acted against is thus created to think the worst of the person. Consequently, they then think of ways to 'get back' at them: telling others about how 'bad' they are, filing their own lawsuits, etc etc etc. Because the person believes that they HAVE to do these actions in order to protect their own vulnerability, they see these actions as 'attacks', which further their own fears, which make them take stronger actions and file more lawsuits, which brings more repercussions, etc etc etc etc etc.
Un fortunately, what they really need is not someone who can help them from the outside but someone willing to help them from within their own world. As for the cultural distinctions, those are partly constructed and maintained. What I mean by that is that some people 'choose' the parts of the culture they like, while conviently forgetting or ignoring the parts they don't. It would be like an American walking down the street in texas or arizona with a six-gun strapped to their thigh, shooting anyone who 'wrongs' them, because that is what Americans did at one point in their history/culture.
Unfortunately, people who are locked in a cycle of paranoia and vengence rarely can be helped. That is because their actions and attitudes are self-fullfilling and self-replicating. Anyone who acts according to their beliefs reinforces them, while anyone who doesn't is simply an abberattion or hasn't shown their true colors yet. The best advice, sadly, is to move on past them.
2007-03-03 09:32:44 · answer #2 · answered by Khnopff71 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A great example is my Holy Apostle James the Greater who is typing my words,I can tell him too go all the way too New York City from here in Missoula Montana right now without any money or food or winter gear too go and fix a problem their and he will find the way their and fix the problem without it costing me a dime.This is the ultra fine work this man has always done for me. Merry Christmas-Jesus Christ
2016-03-16 03:43:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋