Did I do the right thing?

Question

I have a friend who I thought I was very close to, until recently when hes started ditching me for this other guy, who used to be his friend, but the two have been fighting on and off all year. I have been his friend all year, helping him whenever he needs it, being there for him CONSTANTLY and always offering my help. I haven't been a perfect friend, I've had my bad days, but I've always apologized and given my best effort to reform my behavior and be there for him. Yesterday, during a morning class, he completely ignored me the whole time and spent the entire class chatting with this other guy. I basically avoided him all day because I was very upset, and I finally decided to send him an email talking about how I feel like he doesn't appreciate me enough for what I've done. He hasn't responded yet, but I feel extremely guilty and I also feel like I was too harsh. Did I do the right thing? Should I send him another email apologizing for the first one?
Thanks!

Answer 1

hey, really sweet and caring of you to do this for a friend, trust me, he has no clue, that an angel like you has been watching over him.
You did the right thing, you have all rights to let him know how you feel, and yes that guilt will be there, cause you care that much.
But one problem, stop being a doormat(p.s. not trying to be rude), thats the best way to tel it, please stop. He has been taking you for granted, cause somewhere deep he knows you`ll stick around and keep caring forever. I am not saying you to move off completly, but yes, its time you concentrate on yourself tooo, do things you want to do, make yourself smile now, you really need it, if he`s fine without you, then let him be, thats wat matters at the end for you, right? Smile please, its your time, u cared and helped him out for this long, now do something for yourself too.. and lastly, don feel guilty for anythin, like i said, u have been an angel. Smile, and spread smiles :)

Answer 2

I'm assuming you're a girl.

He probably didn't even realize he was acting that way, honestly. Guys don't put things into such complicated terms. Since you are a female and he is a male, there are going to be communication breakdowns like this one.

I just hope he doesn't think you're nuts after that, because he probably didn't even see it coming.

Answer 3

maybe he just needs to have some male bonding for awhile. get together with your girl friends and have a pj party or movie night, and let him have his space for awhile if he decides not to include you in his live anymore ( hard as that will b) you will still have your best friends to lean on, and to have fun. guys are funny things sometimes, maybe most of the time, i don't think they get as emotionally involved as the fairer sex. you let him know how you feel, leave it in his hands and try not to feel guilty you did nothing wrong.