i enjoy intimate moment with my wife, but i suddenly withdrawn as soon as i find she is not much interested?

Question

during our very intense moment on bed, when i notice her not taking much interested as much as i m giving her , i feel lost . and the next moment within minute i loss all my energy as well as interest. What i start to feel is , she might be thinking that i m showing my male dominance for sex. i feel sex is mutual enjoyment, and i can not enjoy it alone. Am i wrong? What should i do? shoud i ve to continue ? pls give your experiensed advice and help.

Answer 1

I'M ONLY DOING THIS FOR ALL THE WOMEN OUT THERE WHO'S HUSBANDS NEED A CLUE!

Do something different.
Even after years of marriage sometimes men get caught up in there own pleasure they've never stopped to notice the little things that she likes. Even hours before you could start working on it like rubbing against her just in passing, winking, looking at her like she is the hottest thing in the world, just subtle hints during the day. We like to feel as though our men think we are sexy all the time not just when they want some!! You should try more gentle touching & forplay maybe 30 min. or more just for her pleasure then by that time you will be more than ready. If she doesn't like to talk about it just start trying different things like an experiment in your head, till you find the sensitive spots that put her in the mood. AND REMEMBER THEM!!!! Like the neck, inside ear, under the breast, inner thigh, buttocks, upper to lower back, rub her feet etc. (go slow and gentle). You will drive her crazy. iT MAY TAKE A FEW TIMES BUT ALWAYS PAY ATTENTION, IT'S NOT HARD TO READ HER BY HER REACTIONS AND THE WAY HER BODY MOVES OR TWITHCH'S. Then onto foreplay, you know women really want!!! Then when she is at her peak, its finally time for the real thing. The object is to reach climax at the same time. You just do what ever it takes for how ever long it takes to get her to that point.

Answer 2

Wow..very perplexing scenario... Many details need to be answered prior to final answer. 1- What kind of beer? Heineken or simple Miller Lite? 2- Has the check been paid yet? If I have not paid the bill yet, I would absolutely run towards my wife yelling for her to watch out. I must not get too close, because I too may come into contact with the bus. 3- Will the nuns allow me to tag along with them to the casino? I mean, it would get my mind off the terrible ordeal. 4- Was the bus yellow? Like an old rehab school bus that is probably under insured? Or like a very well insured rock group tour bus? 5- Are there any hot waitress' at the restaurant who could console me in my time of need? Until these questions are answered, I cannot really waste any time thinking about this silly question. Thank You

Answer 3

I guess communication is important here for you both ask her why ??? because I think its better then just wondering ! DO u have kids ??? been married a while ???? I mean that adds to the reason why she may be not enjoying it as much !!! just from experience if she works all day comes home kids hanging off her cooking dinner etc etc etc then when you get into bed you don't want someone to jump your bones straight away !!! UNDERSTANDING is a must ......... just make her feel appreciated and loved even if you end up just cuddling for the night just lead up to her feeling loved and wanted ( NOT A SEX OBJECT FOR YOUR PLEASURE ) and she will respond more then you know :) good luck !!!!

Answer 4

Communication is key, BUT , here I go prepare for this!
The whole thing is are you trying new positions and opening up for utter enjoyment? I don't know if you've tried oral sex or how far you would be willing to take it. I myself find that there are times I ask my mate to play around with me while penetrating. I have asked to go back to oral sex after he has been penetrating for a few minutes, that is utter enjoyment.
You may find the moments get enlightening!

Answer 5

intimacy in the bedroom is super important for a couple. I know the feeling of wanting to share that intimacy with someone and having that someone pretty much kill the mood..... and it sucks!
you should tell her how this makes you feel and see what her point of view is..... my boyfriend and I have had this problem for a really long time and we are still trying to work on it.... it's hard... specially since he is the one who either rejects me or pushes me away..... it honestly feels like sh*t.... and if/when I finally decide to enjoy it alone.... he doesn't even acknowledge me........ which now that I'm thinking about it..... damn.... that REALLY sucks!
Sorry if I wasn't any help..... but at least I know how crapy it feels!

Answer 6

not sure what you are performing towards your showing of interest. here is what to do if your have sex ultimately in your plans....hug or cuddle her and make it known somehow that you are NOT interested in sex, such as, right after the cuddle/hug change channels on the tv, look for something on your nightstand. then hug her again, talk about your day. this will turn about a reaction. she will then think that she knows that you are not interested in sex but, really love her. she will want you....try it. let us know.

Answer 7

Talk to her about it, ask her what she likes, etcetera. With women, sex is very much emotional. If she is upset about something, she is less likely to enjoy it. On top of sexual skills from her man, woman need to feel loved and secure to have great sex.

Answer 8

some times in life when women are too much stressed this happens,so you must understand her part well and also ask her if she is ready to have sex,in life everthing works when hubby/wife goes in an understanding way

Answer 9

you need to see if she is interested in sex that moment. If she jsut has no interest at all, then there is some reason for that, and you will have to find out and resolve that reason

Answer 10

You have to warm her up. You don't start your pickup on a cold morning and just put it in gear and drive away. Try a gentle touch;