through years, since I hate emotion, I have trained myself not to be an emotional person. my worries are...will I be able to love a woman without being an emotional person?
2007-03-03 08:46:57 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
some times it just takes the right person to show you how much you can love someone... that don't mean that you have to show public affection .. but private affection... or you could just find someone who is just like you and live happy that way..training your self not to have emotion dose not mean that you don't have it.. it just mean that it is hidden behind a wall .. a safe place so you don't get hurt.. once you find the person you want to spend your life with you wont worry about that wall as much..you will lift it or they will claim over it.. in either case you will be able to love
2007-03-03 08:53:14 · answer #1 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, i don't if you have a medical condition, in which case I am not qualified to advise. However, if this is just a condition where you don't feel the filial connection with anyone, brother, sister, mother and or father, then you probably have come to this point through developmental conditioning and got to learn to suppress your feelings and emotions to protect yourself from being hurt. You still can fall in love though, but it will take more effort and opening up to stay connected which is critical in maintaining love relationships. Oh, another thing, love sincerely don't get into any relationship for anything else other than that you LOVE the person and the person loves you too. Anything else won't stand the stress of maintaining a love affair, especial if what start the relationship is sex, money, convenience or even vicarious reasons, you will find that you will get bored and want to keep your distance in no time. That can be emotionally devastating to your partner and leave you with guilt feelings.
2007-03-03 17:01:23 · answer #2 · answered by Life Dynamics 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had been in a relationship for a year with a man who was the same. It takes its toll. I never knew how he felt about anything. I would try to be loving and i felt it was unwarranted because he had very little emotion about it. I loved him, but i honestly got to the point where i felt he didnt care if i was there or i wasnt because of the lack of emotion.
She may be ok with it at first, and think she can break u, like i did.....but in time, she will feel unwanted and unloved. Trust me i know.
A woman needs to be shown she is loved, not just told. Small things can make a difference. Talking about your feelings and being open with her is something we all need.
Think about it, would u stay with a woman who made u feel like she could care less if you were with her or not and never told u or showed u how she felt? I doubt it.
I hope u can change this behavior. It will truly cost u a very good woman and relationship someday. U will regret it in time.
I wish u much luck and much love and a very patient woman who will give u enough time to make the necessary adjustments. You wont regret it. You will see that the more u give, the more ur lady will respond. Good luck.
2007-03-03 17:06:39 · answer #3 · answered by Truth Teller 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you can love a woman without it, but no one can live without emotion,it doesn't matter if your tough or not, one way or the other you will feel it without you knowing it. One day when you find the woman that you like, that really makes you feel good inside,and you will start missing her, that will be the sign of emotion, not emotion that you have to cry or get upset.
To fall in love is the greatest gift that you can ever recieve and one day this will come to you,.just like watching sunrise....
2007-03-03 17:05:33 · answer #4 · answered by islandgirl06 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just because you dont like to be emotional doesnt mean that you wont be able to love a woman. Love is from what you believe in your heart not your emotions. But maybe you could try to be a little emotional.
2007-03-03 16:52:49 · answer #5 · answered by Babygurl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, you'll be able to feel a strong emotion like love.... or at least, you should. It's the best emotion and you would be missing out on a lot if you didn't feel the way love is.
2007-03-03 16:51:21 · answer #6 · answered by KATE 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because you trained yourself not to be emotional, that doesn't mean that you have no feelings. All the human being have feelings. I'm sure you'll find someone. It's up to you though.
2007-03-03 16:52:14 · answer #7 · answered by rain ;';';';'; 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally I say no, you will have major problems. Women need compassion and caring from a man, those are emotions, among many others you will find you need. Talk to a therapist and get help before you try to find anyone permanent in your life.
2007-03-03 16:52:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think when the time comes and you find the right woman she will melt away that wall you have around your heart and show you how to feel again ! its OK to close off to the world to protect yourself from hurt but hurt does heal and time helps and we need emotions to learn from them otherwise you are just an empty soul !!!!! Laugh be free and that woman will find you lighten up a little we all have been hurt in someway its just how we deal with it that makes us live to see another day !!!!
2007-03-03 16:56:23 · answer #9 · answered by yoursandmine05 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can re-train yourself. Life without emotion is a life not lived.
Cheers
2007-03-03 16:50:12 · answer #10 · answered by I'm daddy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋