Men only please - what do men think about men who cheat?

Question

Do men look down on other men who cheat? Do they think it's wrong. I know what women think in general, but I want to know how men view this touchy subject. If a man is married, and he's looking for sex, and getting sex on the side, and keeping his wife ignorant about it, how does another man view this man?

Answer 1

personally, i look at a married man that cheats as an idiot in most cases....he's weak. but you've got to remember that sex is a HUGE weakness for most men. as a man, i would have to say i look at men who cheat with sympathy rather than condemnation. most men simply don't think. and most men really regret it once reality hits them and they're forced to think about it. poor guys just don't know what they're doing. there are a rare few guys out there that do actually know what they want, however, and can commit to one woman if they choose to.

Answer 2

Well in the first place if a guy who's happly married and he's looking for sex, now that's wrong. Especially if he is married to a beautiful woman and she's having sex with him all the time and then he cheats on her, That's not right neither. But I can understand a guy who is having sex on the side because his wife is not putting out, and she is making out with othere guys. Well I would help him find some on the side. But as long as your happily married and don't have problems at home why get some on the side. But if you just want some on the side ask yor self if I'm doing is she doing it too? SO want to chat more about the subject IM me anytime

Answer 3

I think it is wrong should the man be disrespectfully with his indiscretion. RESPECT is the ultimate answer.

I am doing just that, and I keep it to myself (well apart from now it's on the WEB) ;-) But, I would never let no one know about it nor disrespect my wife. I am doing it with another married woman. So she too has all to loose if it gets out.

What other man think!!! Well, that all depends on the man. Some men (of a younger nature) would think that that is cool and I (the cheating man) is a player, while older (more experienced men) would think that it is very silly of me (the cheating man) while still acknowledging that at least I am not disrespecting my (the ignorant) wife. HOWEVER, they (mature men) would suggest that this stop as it will soon come to light, as ALL things eventually do.

Answer 4

I don't know if you can make sweeping generalizations about other people but as a general rule, I look at guys that cheat on their spouses with a kind of pity because I think that by and large, they're lost souls.

IMO, they're looking for something that they're not getting at home. Rather than try to fix that at home (talking with their wives, going to counseling, trying to rekindle the relationship, etc), they'd rather take the cheap and easy way out.

Trouble is, it's only a matter of time before they get caught and then all hell is going to break loose.

I do realize there are some men that feel driven to it (e.g. their wife is cheating herself, the woman is physically or emotionally abusive, or just plain crazy, etc) but by and large, I don't believe that's the case.

Call me judgemental but that's the way I see it.

Answer 5

He's playing with fire. I was in a situation like this. I wanted to stay married for my kids sake. My ex wife was cheating and had a bf she loved. I was willing to let her do her thing and I do mine but keep the household stable for the kids. So I have to say it depends on the situation. It's called "Unhappily ever after" Over all cheating is wrong but in some cases I could be one way of keeping the family in a single dwelling. Also understand my ex wife and I never fought in front of the kids. They had no clue there was a problem. I would have loved to have kept it that way for the next 4 yrs. Then Divorced. Just one view

Answer 6

Most men are in two minds about it, they know it's wrong but they wouldn't mind if they got extra sex on the side. You have to remember one thing sex to a man is sex, he can have sex and have no connection to that person.
Sometimes men cheat for the reasons of wanting more sex, finding their current partner less attractive then when they first married, knowing they can still pick up women.
Generally though men know it's wrong but won't say anything and wish they could have extra sex on the side. Most men don't want to risk losing what they have though.
Do we frown on men who cheat ? no.

Answer 7

There by the grace of god go I. All heterosexual men are weak when sex is offered on a plate. Men view those who cheat on there wives differently as they age, a younger man may well think its great; whereas, an older and wiser man will know that he is being foolish by taking a huge risk that could well end in disaster for all parties involved.

Answer 8

As a man I try not to pass judgment on what another man does. I think cheating is wrong. But, you never know anybody's situation or the understanding a man has with his wife.

Nobody is perfect. But I think men are less likely to condemn a man that is cheating. It's hard out here for a pimp.

Answer 9

Love, Marriage and Sex go together like a horse and carriage.Well almost in that order anyway. The best Sex a man can ever have is the sex lovingly given to him by the woman who truely loves him. Anything less is a heap of S**t!

Answer 10

Well, i personally look down on any man who would do that. You should be glad that Community Guidelines censors these answers,or you would really get my opinoin. Would you like it if your wife was cheating on you. Besides, when you get married, it is a PROMISE. Not a "i will be faithful as long as i want to" thing. Not that this queation means that your cheating, but if you are...well, you get the picture.