So me and my guy have been in love for two years... Yesterday i have been talking to him on msn and after he left i got this horrible text from him saying "i do not care about you anymore i never ever want to talk to/see you again"... =.[ I did not sleep for whole night and i was thinking about him in tears; i was thinking what have i done to anger him but as a result nothing came to my mind.. I can not let him go i try but whenever i sleep i see him he is within me all the time. Its either him either (will not say)... I cant imagine myself without him what do i do?
P.S. I am not young at all
2007-03-03 08:38:08 · 16 answers · asked by Angel From The Hell 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It is supposed to be >>> I love him so much i can not possibly let him go =.[ Please have you say... thank you?
ii made a mistake and typed possible instead of possibly
2007-03-03 08:41:30 · update #1
It is a horrible thing to happen to anyone, so sorry to hear about what he did to you. I know you don't want to let him go, but if I was you I would give it a bit more time. You never know in a few days time or weeks if he really does love you he will think about what he has done.
So just wait a while and see what happens, don't contact him I feel this is what he wants you to do.
Sit tight and wait let him do the running now pretend to him that you are not bothered. Make out that you are getting on with your life with out him.
You might find he will feel threatened by this, and also he wont believe how strong you really are.
I no it hurts but time is a great healer. If he thinks you can carry on without him this may hurt him, and make him realise what he has lost.
You don't know what was going through his mind when he text you, he may have problems he doesn't want you to know about , and he might need sometime on his own to sort them out.
Like I say be patient sit back and wait, its early days yet.
2007-03-03 20:12:26 · answer #1 · answered by christine c 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So sorry you are going thru this. Take a deep breath try not to hassle him and give him some space. Pull your life together this makes you more attractive. If he sends a message like that he might not be quite as nice as you thought and you have had a lucky escape . If he is afraid of commitment then you cannot cling to him it would be counter productive, and it is possible that ultimately he will make you unhappy. Get yourself together and if he wants you he will be back. If he doesn't the hurt you feel now is nothing to the hurt that you had in store. There are more fish in the sea and yours is in a pool just around the corner.
2007-03-03 08:57:13 · answer #2 · answered by chewystuff 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart if he's done this to you by reading your question he's been cheating on you for a while , to say this by msn means that he's nothing but a coward ! Same thing happened to my daughter although she was only 19 going on 20 she thought her life had ended < they were engaged for 18 months> she's now over it after a lot of tears and realises he wasn't worth it !
PS we are all young inside including you !
PPS whether or not you realise it you have got a lot of friends on here.
2007-03-03 09:03:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
That`s awful, happened to me. I didn`t contact him at all for a month then spoke to him. His excuse was he felt pressurised and didn`t want to commit. Told him it was all in his mind and I wanted fun not commitment-- we started again and had loads of fun with no commitment until he felt ready. We married and are still together 40 years later. Things/men don`t change over the years. You CAN function without him, give him some space, bet he`ll be back. Good luck
2007-03-03 08:49:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
A lot of times we want to hold on to something so tightly because 1-we don't think we will something better or 2-we have become comfortable with the situation (good or bad). Its awful this has happened to you but you need to move on. Don't waste your time or energy. Yes it hurts like hell but you will get through it and find the love of your like that is will love and respect you.
2007-03-03 15:23:31 · answer #5 · answered by Noire 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The best thing you can do is get out there and find someone who respects you more than a text. Its happened for a reason and may be he wasn't right for you after all even if it did feel right at the time.
2007-03-03 09:47:08 · answer #6 · answered by southpaw 09 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The man sounds like a heartless fool he could atleast give you the coman curtosy of letting you know why and giving you atleast that amount of time he is a prat and you won t feel like it now but you will get over him in time no body deserves to be treated in that way try and get on with your life and show him you don t need him you are wasting your time with a man like him
2007-03-03 08:49:33 · answer #7 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He`s a coward,my ex of 6years done the same to me only 7 weeks ago,he wasn`t man enough to tell me to my face.I know it`s hard believe me i know but you can`t make someone want to be with you no matter how hard you try.You deserve so much better as do i so don`t let this pig get you down.get out and enjoy yourself don`t sit at home waiting on him to contact you and if your supposed to be back together then you will be but don`t sit pining and keep yourself busy and get out with friends,chinup,x
2007-03-03 10:11:14 · answer #8 · answered by onlyme 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ok ya i know that i am only 15 but i am kinda going thru a mini version of what u r going thru. i had been going out with this kid for about 3 months and i thought i was in love. the last time i saw him as my boyfriend everything seemed fine. then he just all of a sudden outa nowhere dumped me over aim. i felt like i would just die. i felt that i couldnt go on with my life. every day i would come home from school hopeing and praying that he would email me or something just to tell me why he dumped me.
then i realized that anyone who is to cowardly to dump u face to face isnt really worth it anyways. they arnt really worth it if they arnt sincear enough to talk to u one on one about it.
you deserve better then that. i think we all do.
we cant just waste our lifes hopeing and praying that they will come back to us.
2007-03-03 12:39:22 · answer #9 · answered by ah 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
only a coward and a loser would dump their girlfriend by text after two year relationship. you probably had a loucky escape. know your upset now, but give it time and you will get over him. There are plenty of nice guys out there who will treat you with a bit more respcet.
2007-03-03 08:42:54 · answer #10 · answered by L 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋