Ok i don't understand the whole sex before marriage thing... first of all, if i am a virgin right now and i have never had sex with another women and i am about to marry the woman i intend on spending the rest of my life with whats wrong with sex before marriage???
2007-03-03 08:25:16 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
WE ARE GETTING MARRIED IN 10 MONTHS ITS BOOKED ALREADY!!!
2007-03-03 08:37:27 · update #1
lol im so horny waiting i think ill explode!
2007-03-03 08:39:19 · update #2
nothin wrong with sex before marriage, in fact if u feel this deeply about this girl then it would probably feel better if u waited, but what about if u wait and come to find out that she doesnt please you, or you cant please her, and then second thoughts start poping up.....
better to know before u get married and are actually able to talk about it
2007-03-03 08:31:29 · answer #1 · answered by x2carlosp 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People say the exact same thing you are saying all the time and it doesn't always turn out that way. Life/ people change as as life goes on and they mature. Sex is usually the next step in a relationship and alot of them such a big step. My husband thought it was the greatest thing for our marriage night to be something special something that we both haven't done before. When you do it before marriage you have taken a way the biggest part of the honeymoon and the enjoyment. Whats the point of getting married if you are already sleeping with someone. I know people who have been together for years and years but there is no need to get married because they do all they want and need and are happy with that. I personally don't want that for myself and I think you feel something more if you just wait. I think its sooooooooooooo worth the wait. And if anything happened in the relationship that might ruin it for whatever reason, you both would be horrible that you gave yourself up to the wrong person. I know not everyone agrees with me but this is my view on that matter. I hope it helps
2007-03-03 08:36:39 · answer #2 · answered by aysha a 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If u r not religious there is nothing wrong with sex before marriage. However, I would make sure that this girl is DEFENITLY WITHOUT A DOUBT the girl u wanna spend the rest of your life with. Sex can be a good thing, but sex can also ruin everything. If you and this girl have a strong friend ship and she wants to marry you as well as you want to marry her and your willing to put your friendship on the line then I would go for it. Just remember to be safe.
2007-03-03 08:32:18 · answer #3 · answered by southern_cutti3 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's wrong with a little anticipation? My feelings on sex before marriage is basically IF you are mature enough to be living on your own...that means you support yourself financially AND you have your own home and job...you pay for your own food, insurance, car payments, etc., THEN you are old enough and mature enough to make that decision. Children (and I count anyone who is still a dependent as basically a child, at least emotionally) having sex is tragic. They are too immature to deal with the potential consequences of sex OR the emotional issues that should be involved. They are also just too immature to make decisions like this...even if the law says they "legally" can. This "recreational" sex attitude is childish and has cheapened something that really should be more important.
On another note, you don't have to be "religious" in order to have a moral code. There ARE some non-religious people who are moral also. I'm surprised at all the people who feel this is simply a religious issue. It's not. It's a moral one.
2007-03-03 08:32:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'll come right out and say it, and I hope I get hate mail for this.
I don't care what the Bible says about sex before marriage. Think about it this way... Would you buy a house with out taking a tour? To justify that comment for the Bible people, You are making a long term commitment to something (marriage). What happens if you have sex with her after marriage and find out that she has doesn't like sex? Or the "front yard" is "over-grown?" And to quote an age-old saying, "Never buy the cow without tasting the milk." (not that she fat or anything!)
2007-03-03 08:38:10 · answer #5 · answered by Alex W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with sex before marriage (although some people do frown upon it). even if you are not going to marry this woman it isnt that big of a deal. as long as you have been in a long, healthy relationship and if you think that you are a. ready and b. you love her and c. and she is ready then go for it. it is YOUR life and no one else should dictate it. talk to your girlfriend and make a decision about what you want to do. i also suggest getting tested, and using protection. the testing is important considering you are both virgins.
also dont parade the fact that you had sex before marriage, and it wont be as big of a deal.
2007-03-03 08:32:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a Christian, I believe in sex after marriage but I don't think that there is anything wrong with having sex with the person you are about to marry, i.e. your fiance.
I'm not sure if I would do it myself, I think I wouldn't mainly because I've waited for so long...so why can't I wait for a few more months?
hmm, anyway, it's your decision - go with what you think.
2007-03-03 08:28:42 · answer #7 · answered by don't stop the music ♪ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why get married at all. Its obvious that marriage is just a piece of paper to you and carries no signifigance and no morals to it.Anothers marriage in ur eyes should be outlawed. Heck, why dont we all have sex before marriage and forget getting married and just live together. It surely would save on the stats with the 65% divorce rate we have in our society
2007-03-05 15:21:52 · answer #8 · answered by virgin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are about to get married to her and both of you have not had sex that is great. Just wait till you are married. This day and age it is hard to find someone that has not had sex before marriage
2007-03-03 08:27:44 · answer #9 · answered by themilhouseman 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am 13 and my school is requiring us to take a P.S.I class. P.S.I. stands for Postponing Sexual Involvement. You should not have sex until you are married because it is just not right. I don't know if you are a christian or not but it says in the bible not to have sex before marriage. Sex is supposed to be something shared between two married people. Wait until you're married.
2007-03-03 08:31:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You're not married until you say I DO. How do you know that something crazy isn't gonna happen and you break up?
Although, some of the Old Testament prophets went in and "laid" with the chick, and basically that was their vow.
If you are married in your heart, God knows. The law and religious vows are really just to show everybody else.
2007-03-03 08:30:12 · answer #11 · answered by Revelation S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋