I find his bragging to be very off-putting. I've tried talking about it and he says he only does it with me and that its because he's insecure. I find it a real turn off. Any suggestions? BTW, been married 25 years, so don't tell me to leave him. I love him and don't want to hurt his feelings, but I hate it!
2007-03-03 08:18:21 · 27 answers · asked by preciselyright 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Just try to tell him in a kind way that you have been together 25 years and that he doesn't have to prove anything to you. I'm sure if he brags to you, he brags to others. Why is he so insecure if you have been married so long?
2007-03-03 08:22:46 · answer #1 · answered by Stuck in the middle of nowhere 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He knows how you hate this. You've already told him this. Tell him the next time he does this, that you are going to leave the room, and do it. If he doesn't have an audience, then he'll have no one to brag to. He'll get the message. I'm sure he does this at parties or out in public too. Do the same thing there too.
2007-03-07 13:46:46 · answer #2 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There may be a communication problem here. If he's insecure around you , he may be telling you that you don't pay attention to him or notice his accomplishments.
After 25 years you are to be commended, but you don't have to remain the same as you were 15 years ago.
All relationships involve communication. Re-learn to communicate with one another. Every think that it's not what he says but what he isn't saying? He wants your attention. Consider the situation from his boots.
2007-03-11 14:55:44 · answer #3 · answered by Tellin' U Da Truth! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you need to change your reactions. When he talks about himself, give him the encouragement he obviously is looking for. Tell him how wonderful he is and you appreciate him very much. If you continue to praise him, then maybe he wont feel the need to talk about himself so much. Maybe when he starts to talk about himself....go up to him kiss him and whisper in his ear that he is the most wonderful man in the whole wide world and nothing he is telling you is news to you because you know how wonderful, intelligent, and a great man he is. Build his ego up, love him, appreciate him, let him know in no uncertain terms that you respect his abilities, and soon the bragging as you put it will stop. It will stop when he feels appreciated. Sometimes we need to be told on a regular basis how wonderful we are.
2007-03-03 16:30:58 · answer #4 · answered by rightio 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Make a list of all of his best qualities, what you admire most about him, why you love him so much, print it up on a nice card, and tell him to keep it in his wallet, so he can read it, whenever he feels insecure, if he starts to brag, tell him,"sweetie, pull out the list, read it ,and then we will talk about something else". Now tell me how to get my hubby to talk more, been married 27 years.
2007-03-03 16:27:56 · answer #5 · answered by Kimberly H 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Fine.
You are a fine person.
You said you love him but not his bragging.
I want to quote a few lines from the RD oct'2004.
" LIGHT OF ONE'S YEAR.
Love is not when you're given a bouguet of roses and you sniff them,but, when somebody spends the whole day talking about the qualities of this or that brand of petrol,and you listen to them. "
You love him.
Make it UNCONDITIONAL.
You are with him last 25 years.
yet neither of you have understood each other.
Be considerate to him.
Allow him to talk at home.
He can't dream to go and talk in Parliament?
Give him freedom.enjoy his talk.
May be he will stop talking lenghty.
Wish you good luck!
2007-03-08 13:47:44 · answer #6 · answered by NQS 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After 25 years you have heard everything he has to say many times over. Tune him out. I wish there was some magic wand to wave but he's been doing this for a while, he's not likely to give it up.
2007-03-10 23:30:07 · answer #7 · answered by Tip Top 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try explaining to your husband that if he has insecurity problems he may need professional help, or try doing things to build his self-esteem, I do not believe in divorce, there are a lot of self help pages on the internet.
2007-03-03 16:23:10 · answer #8 · answered by rachel s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it really does sound like he is insecure. sit him down and talk to him face to face .tell him again how you feel , explain that you love him and only him but his behavior is getting on your nerves.there must be a reason for his insecurity ,try praising him as you might a child when he does something you approve of.encourage him to be open with you and good luck.
2007-03-09 09:39:21 · answer #9 · answered by fushia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you love him and do not want to hurt his feelings then stop complaining, or tell him that his bragging is a TURN OFF, he will get the message and stop,feelings in tact
2007-03-03 16:22:46 · answer #10 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋