Do you think its important to go on dates once a week with your husband?

Question

My husband and I have 2 kids! the last time we went out was last march! He doesn't think it that important but I do! what can I do to get him out????

Answer 1

Maybe not once every week, but it's certainly important to go out a couple of times per month. Why does he not think it's important? Is he too cheap or does he just not care enough about the relationship? But here's a surefire way to get your point across.....You feel like going out is important in a relationship )and it is), well, I bet he thinks sex is important in a relationmship (and it is) I think you can see where I'm going with this. Ask him how would he feel if you hadn't had sex since last March. You have the tools and hold the power...you just have to know how to use it. I hope this helps and he sees the importance of it (but he should see ANYTHING that's important to you as being important to the relationship)

Answer 2

Going out alone is very important in a marriage, maybe not as much as you would like, but as often as you can afford to do so.
Keep the spark alive with in house dating too, hot bath, rose petals and candles can help a lot to keep the fire going.
Too often the fire dies when one of the couple refuse to leave the kids for a night out or a night in with a babysitter taking the kids somewhere else.
We used to plan a night out once or twice a month, we could relax, and get a break from parenting duties and that made a huge difference.

Answer 3

You might have to do something HE really enjoys, like a sporting event, or a man-type movie he would like to see. Woman need this dating to keep the marriage alive and men have no clue why. My husband and I are going thru that now, we go out to eat at least once a week and see a movie. He is an over the road trucker, so not home often, but he likes taking me out one day of the two he is home, every 2 weeks. I am very romantic, old fashioned and he is NOT! lol. I am trying to get him to be more sensitive to my needs in that area. I need passion and romance or it becomes very humdrum very quickly. If more men would romance their wives or pay attention to them the way they do other women they gawk at in public, there might be less women cheating on their spouses these days. It works both ways, if you don't get your attention at home, you WILL look elsewhere if pushed to the limit. Try to go to places you went to when you dated, restaurants, hangouts, etc. Ignite that spark. Good luck.

Answer 4

I would say hubby may have the answer my wife and i have been married going on 6 years.We go out a few times a week.I don't really know about money in you re house maybe that's why hubby say' s it's not that important i remember when my kids were young money was tight.Just rent movies and have a family night with pizza and movies and do family games and stuff.

Answer 5

Maybe you need to remind him that the kids will grow up and leave the home one day and if he is not prepared to nurture the relationship with you then when the kids leave you will have drifted apart and have nothing in common any more. Maybe you need to present him with some statistics on the divorce rate of men/women in their late 40s/50s.......and the reasons why. The reasons why are exactly as I have said. You are prepared to nuture the relationship, you are prepared to keep it alive. He, apparently has decided that now you are married and have children, dating and having a good time isnt necessary. It is very necessary I believe and it will make your relationship much stronger. Just talk to him, tell him that you need that part in your relationship, that you are much more than just a mother and a wife, you are a real live person, with the same kind of passion, same kind of needs as you had before you were married. He needs to recognize your needs. He needs to understand that you are still in love with him and want to do the things you used to do before you got married. Act now before he gets too comfortable playing the stereotypical role of father, husband and provider.

I hope he listens to you...I hope he understands what a good wife you are and that you want to keep the relationship alive....a lot of women dont nurture the relationship until its too late when the kids leave home and the husband strays. Its the oppositie in your situation......He needs to listen to you before its too late.

Answer 6

Call him up and ask him out on a date. Play the flirting game on the phone. My husband and I both do this. He will call me up and say he got my number from someone and wanted to take me out on a date. I will play along and tell him that I have to check my calender and let him know. I always say yes. I will even call him up (usually from the other room) after the date to say thank you for taking me out. If can be fun if you can get him into playing along. Maybe he will get a clue. Good luck.

Answer 7

If it is important to you then it should be important to him because he is married to you. But it is not about him gracing you with his presence while he scarfs down a whopper, burps and scratchs his butt. He needs to try to give you what your looking for if you need to feel like he is still attracted to you or you are still desired and needed or you just want romance. You both need to step it up. Arrange exciting dates and role play. He can see you at a night club and pick up on you. Wear no panties at dinner and let him touch your leg... light that fire....

Answer 8

My wife and I use to go on date nights every other weekend. It was good we had lots of fun. But as you can see from my 360 I'm divorced. So in the end in my case it didn't' make much difference. But it was still fun to do at the time. Good Luck

Answer 9

Try going to an event HE likes, (sports or auto race, whatever) then get out of the house for dinner ,maybe hotel out, if it's an overnighter, it could be sensual and exciting for you BOTH even if the actual event was HIS favorite. YES, my marriage lasted 30 yrs.PLUS and is still going strong like this, YOU AND HIM NEED to DATE, be alone together and have FUN TOGETHER.

Answer 10

save up some money, buy a bottle of wine, get a babysitter and take him out. Make sure knows what you are wearing under your cloths.