My best friend "J" thinks im leading a good friend of mine on,
"A" told me that he'd fallen in love with me but i knocked him back because i have a b/f but my best friend J thinks that im leading him on...
I still talk to him seeing as though im very close to him, talk to him almost everyday and share jokes like usual, and when he asks me if i want to talk to him or if i missed him, id be truthful and say yes,
if the subject of him loving me comes up, i swifly move passed it reminding him that im taken, but my best friend J thinks that by talking to him, im giving him false hope and therefore im leading him on, ive told him many times CLEARLY that im not interested and that im sorry, and SOMETIMES im reluctant to make it too blunt because i might hurt his feelings, but at the same time my friend believes that the whole reason he still talks to me and mentions how much he loves me is because he still has hope
I dont want to be leading him on - what do you think?
2007-03-03 07:36:49 · 7 answers · asked by Miss Terious 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
ummmmmmmm i think its time for a new best friend since this one clearly wants something more.
plus he's a creepy stalker who wont take "no" for an answer.
serisouly just go up to him and say "NO. NOT NOW. NOT EVER."
2007-03-03 07:41:03 · answer #1 · answered by the misomaniac 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cannot be friends with a bloke who has feelings for you, it will never work. He will be reading too much into every compliment etc that you pay him, especially saying you have missed him. Whilst you may mean 'as a friend' he will always be hoping otherwise. I think you need to have a frank discussion and state clearly that you will NEVER be more than friends and if he cannot accept this then you will be unable to be friends either which would be a huge shame. It would be for his own good I'm afraid.
2007-03-03 07:45:27 · answer #2 · answered by steve738494 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, your friend sounds like she has a crush on him. It is not leading him on, just to talk to him. If he knows you are taken and you have made that very clear, then don't worry about leading him on. You can't help how someone else feels. You do not have to stop talking to him, just make sure to never let it cross the line. Hope this helps.
2007-03-03 07:43:34 · answer #3 · answered by anxious1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tend to agree with anxious1 on this one sounds like you friend has got a bit of a thing for him and see's you as the person standing in the way of her object of lust!
Youv'e told him that your in a relationship and only see him as a friend, then he should respect that and blow out the torch he holds for you.
As for your friend, i'd be inclined to ask her out right if she has the hots for him, the more she plants those seed's of doubt in your head that your leading him on, the more you'll be inclined to believe you are, even though you know your not.
Maybe you need to take a step back fro both of them, him because he cant accept that your un-available and her because she sounds like a spoilt child who cant have her own way!
2007-03-03 07:55:13 · answer #4 · answered by The Original Highbury Gal 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless you're making statements that would give him false hope, then no, you're not leading him on. But you have to consider how he takes your conversations and your answers to his questions. Your situation kind of reminds me of Steve Erkel and Laura Winslow, sory, I'm just trying to make you laugh a little and not feel bad for J saying that you're leading A on....you're not.
2007-03-03 07:43:13 · answer #5 · answered by Steel 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
certain. She needs something extra with you and also you suggested that you do not opt for that. She has thoughts for you and so, any style of sexual intimacy (cuddling & kissing) mutually with her makes her sense extra for you and choose you even extra. So certain, you're most ideal her on because your moves are in actuality teasing her with something she can't extremely have. If no man or woman is to get damage then, both people would desire to make certain a similar issues and then act to extra healthful this. yet this isn't the case with you all as you and her opt for diverse issues with one yet another. Btw....i'd advise that you replicate extra on your sexuality. Being immediately skill merely being in contact in the different sex and for this reason, merely desirous to sexual sex with the different sex. Bisexuality is sexual charm to both sexes. Google the sex theorist, Alfred Kinsey who proposed a scale for sexual orientation.......would help... Wishing you the most suitable!
2016-11-27 19:16:17 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your boy friend is insecure in this relationship. which he should be. do you love your boyfriend. do you see him in your life in five years. You should not let your boy friend make your friends for you. but you need to be considerate of his feelings. do not bring this friend up to your boy friend. if your friend is trully a friend and nothing else. then you can talk to him and joke with him. but you do not have to tell your boy friend. if your boy friend asks about your friend and what you have been doing about him. just say oh gee I saw him he is fine and leave it at that. brush the subject aside. talking to your boyfriend about this other guy is just causing him to be more insecure.
could cause you to break up prematurely or worse you could if this friend is such a good friend. make him go away for you boy friend. you will then resent him for it. then you will loose them both
2007-03-03 07:44:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋