Always needs mummy !?

Question

my 6 month old baby always cries when mummy is out of sight.wants to be held,need to be close when i put her down.cries if anyone tries to hold her.will daycare help?I want her to be independent. am work from home mom.
HELP !!! what do i do?

THANKS
kATHY

Answer 1

Baby backpack. Then you can get some work done.

Studies have proven the more you try to force a child to be independant the less independant they are in the long run

Answer 2

It is NOT a bad habit and it WILL NOT lead to clinginess later. When you meet an infant's LEGITIMATE needs, they grow into healthy, independant children.

YOU CANNOT SPOIL A BABY W/ TOO MUCH LOVE, HOLDING, OR COMFORTING!!!! What is UNREASONABLE is your expectation that a 2.5 month old should "stay by herself." Your child NEEDS you! Especially so young a baby. They NEED to be close to mom or another caring person most of the day.

Babies who are carried more during the day cry LESS than babies who are not. They tend to be ahead developmentally and are usually more alert. See the AskDrSears.com site as well as his The Baby Book.

Try a baby sling or asian style baby carrier. You can find these on ebay and the NoJo baby sling can usually be found at Babies R Us. "Wearing" your baby can leave your hads free for other activities while meeting your babies needs.

My daughter was a very high need baby. It felt like I had to carry her all the time. When I put her down and tried to make her stay alone, she'd get super fussy. The fussiness would last long after I picked her up too. I realized that she must NEED me. So, I started wearing her in a sling. She was still somewhat of a "velcro" baby when she was 1.5 - 2 yrs, but then she BLOSSOMED! NOw, she's a super independant 4.5 year old. She's extreamely social and outgoing. All that carrying most certainly did NOT make her a dependant mess!

When a baby and child's needs are met, they grow into healthy, independant folks. When their needs are denied, they cannot mature completely in those areas. They can even seem independant, but can have difficulty forming intimate relationships...or they can become excessively clingy. Better to deal w/ the "clingines" now then make it a permanent part of your child's psyche later by forcing "indpendance" now.

If babies could fend for themselves from birth, they wouldn't need parents.

Answer 3

I understand exactly what you are going through. I have a four month old baby that does the same thing. Her dad is fabulous and can try everything under the sun but most of the time it is just me that she wants.
Like many others have said it is a need not a want or desire and just like all other needs that you meet for the baby this one must be met too. That is our job as moms. I just try and remember that before I know it she will be pulling out of the drive way going on a date and I treasure the time holding her even more.

Answer 4

This is perfectly normal. She is just going through a little stage right now this will not be the last time she'll go through this. Just pay her as much attention as you can try to keep her where she can see you at all times. And if you must walk out say you'll be right back and after awhile she'll eventually get used to it. My son did the same thing.Now he's doing it again only now he's two and he can walk which means he follows me. But as long as you let them Know you are not going to leave them and that if you do you'll be back. They should get better. Love her wanting attention because they grow so fast.

Answer 5

My daughter is seven months old and she just got out of that stage. I couldn't take it, I couldn't even shower until my husband got home. So here's what I did: I recorded me singing "You are my sunshine" It is the song that I have sung to her since the moment she was born. Whenever I need a few minutes to an hour I pop that tape in and she is happy playing in her crib and she thinks I'm still there singing to her. Maybe that will work for you. Just be patient, she'll grow out of it and soon she'll be asking you to give her some peace. Good luck!!

Answer 6

hi, what your feeling is quite everyday. I easily have worked with lower than 5s for 17 years in an afternoon nursery. i imagine the most suitable element to do is to bypass to play crew sessions. this kind you'll nevertheless be along with your toddler and take step decrease back so your toddler can benefit independents with the convenience of understanding your there if needed. this also will be functional you to satisfy different mums, dads/carers. in case you cant discover playgroup then yet differently is to provide your toddler with events that properly help promote independence some solid events alongside with position play, create a house nook were there's slightly area and privateness on your toddler to play freely and thoroughly, if achieveable get your friends youthful ones to affix in. also problem fixing video games and events i.e finding out toys or gadgets into colorations, shapes, volume etc.. goint to the park and events and different venues will be functional, providing you in a great number of cases encourage her to thoroughly make friends. in case you may bypass %. family individuals youthful ones or friends youthful ones from college, then she wont be unfimilliar with the faculty lay out. I easily have considered a great number of mums get extra fearful and their youthful ones merely cope extremely properly. merely try no longer to reveal your rigidity on your lady and save encouraging her to artwork mutually with different toddlers.

Answer 7

I think all babies at that age go through it. It is just a phase they have to deal with. They think that when you leave a room, that you leave for good, that you disappear. the game peek-a-boo is supposed to help with that. hide behind a chair and when she starts to cry, peek-a-boo! keep doing it for longer intervals. This will teach her that while you may leave sometimes, you'll always be back. It is a learning milestone that is hard for new mommies to adjust to.

Answer 8

your baby is still young. she is going through a hard time, like a lot of babies getting used to the ''new life'' and it still adjusting to life outside the womb.

DO NOT push her too hard, it can cause distress in your child, which is definitely not a good thing! and can lead to a lot of health problems...