Anyone in their 30's ttc and frustrated?

Question

Hey ladies,

I'm 31 years old and have been trying to get pregnant for 2 years. I've been using the ClearBlue Easy fertility monitor for a few months which has helped me track my ovulation...been taking Fallodox to increase fertility...still not pregnant! I know it takes time, and I know I'm not supposed to worry about it or stress out, or that makes it harder to conceive. My three best friends are all pregnant right now, so I guess I feel a little left out! Anyone else experiencing similar frustrations?

Answer 1

Trying to conceive can be so stressful. It's hard to keep your perspective when you want something so much, especially when it seems like "everyone" around you is getting pregnant so easily.

The fertility monitor is pretty good for tracking ovulation, but ovulation is not the only factor in conception or carrying a pregnancy. Conception requires the presence of fertile cervical fluid to keep the sperm alive long enough to fertilize the egg. Sperm can only live 30min-4hrs in the woman's body w/o fertile CF, but can live up to 5 days w/ fertile CF.

You also need to have enough progesterone and a long enough luteal phase. Either of these issues can cause a lot of problems. MOst especially they cause problems w/ very early miscarriage. Even if you're charting, you might know you've conceived.

Many issues which delay conception and/or make it difficult to carry a pregnancy can be detected by charting your fertility signs and can be treated at home!

I highly recommend charting your fertility signs. Your chart can tell you when you are fertile, when you are not, when you are ovulating, when to expect your next period, and when to suspect pregnancy. Your chart can also tell you if there are issues delaying conception or causing difficulty w/ carrying a pregnancy and if there are serious issues which need a doc's attention.

Some good sources for charting your fertility signs: Fertilityfriend.com (free software as well as a pay-for version and on-line charting turorial); ovusoft.com (discussion boards for many fertility related issues, much info on fertility after the pill, and a very good software for purchase). The books Taking Charge of Your Fertility (associated w/ the the ovusoft website and software), The Art of Natural Family Planning, and Garden of Fertility

Answer 2

I'm sorry honey. I know how you feel, sort of. I'm 38 and trying for baby #3. Baby #1 is now a year old and although we're really happy with her, we want her to have a sibling. We recently lost #2 at 10 weeks gestation---no medical reason was found. We'll be trying again shortly. Do not let anyone tell you that your age is a factor, it will only lead to stress induced infertility.

Sounds like you're doing everything right with the fertility monitor. I suggest you make love a few days before ovulation and a few days after ovulation. Only make love every other day as to not deplete your husbands sperm count. Also, the missionary position might help keep the sperm inside of you. Also, when you're done making love, don't get up right away. Quickly put a pillow under your hips and stay on your back for about 1/2 hour to help the sperm make their way through your cervix. And, remember to try to remain relaxed, stress is a huge inhibitor in the way of getting pregnant.

I've found that it has helped me to have 1-2 other non-pregnancy related goals in the works while I'm trying to get pregnant. It makes me feel like I'm working towards something attainable, such as getting a real estate license. Good luck honey.

Answer 3

I'm 31 as well, with PCOS, and yes, I understand how frustrating it is. Especially when it seems to come so easily for friends around you...there have been three new babies in the last six months or so, plus one more due in July. It's heartbreaking, sometimes, to hear about it from everyone else, and it just makes me want to cry a little bit, sometimes.

Still, I have to have faith. I have a good doctor, who is absolutely certain that I'll get pregnant soon, and a supportive partner, and good friends who remind me that even though we're struggling with fertility issues right now, we'll have children eventually.

Answer 4

Hi
It's time for you to get your family doctor to refer you to a Fertility Clinic (Reproductive Endroincologist). My husband and I were off b/c for 2 years and 10 months, and finally conceived twins after taking just one round of 50 mg of clomid. (VERY rare to conceive twins on such a low dose) We got referred to the RE after TTC for 2 years, finally got in to see him after 2 years, 5 months. They immediately did a ton of tests, some painful I must admit, but it is all worth it. I understand your frustration completely. Try to still be happy for your friends (I've been down that road too). Just know that it will happen for you when it is meant to and you may just need some drugs to get things going for you. (I have endometriosis and was awaiting laparascopy surgery and they suggested trying Clomid while I was waiting for 2 months, and suprisingly it worked after the first round. All of us were shocked.) I had a great experience on Clomid, NO side effects. I wish you and the others reading/responding to your post all the best. Good luck, don't give up and don't worry if you bite peoples heads off when they tell you "just relax and it will happen". That's the one that sent me over the top! (People are so insensitive!!!)One more thought, know that infertility is a very common problem nowadays and more people are affected by it than you know. You're NOT alone. xoxo

Answer 5

check your prolactin level.These is some of the commom cause of ovulation problem.

Answer 6

just try to relax more; it will happen