do you think my girlfriend loves me..QUICK 10 POINTS?

Question

i am a lesbian and been with my girlfriend for 11 years she had a affair with a girl in dec they finished but she insisted we stay friends with the girl she had a affair with,i would LOVE for me and my gfriend 2 go on holiday together but she always makes excuses why we cant,but if i say all of our friends go and the other girl will be there she would go,we went out last sat and i seen her and let the other girl put her hands down her pants,OMG i feel soo unloved and i dont think there is anythingleft of my heart..she says many times a day she loves me,and almost convinces me,but y wont she go on holiday when there is just us,she wont even go on a night out if its just us,,so my question is am i over reacting,what would you do.....for the FULL story look at my last question asked thank you

Answer 1

Sorta blows that whole arguement of gay marriages should be legal because their divorce rate would be lower.

Dump the girlfriend. Find some new friends away from this crowd completely. Get some counseling for your sexual dysfunctions.

Answer 2

im sorry but i dont think your girlfriend still loves you... she may still be with you because she's using you (financially or she's used to having you beside her since youve been together for 11yrs now)... if your girlfriend really loves you, i dont see the reason why she wont come with you alone... boredom is not an excuse coz if you really love someone you are contented just being with that person even doing nothing just sitting and holding hands or embracing each other. action speaks louder than words so even if she tells you i love you every minute but she doesnt show it then its useless... tell her how you really feel about the situation having her other girl as a friend... if she really loves you she would consider your feelings and who knows she might even totally give up the other girl.

Answer 3

im a straight guy so i dont know how much the dynamics change in a lesbian relationship, but the behavior of your girlfriend is out of order. not wanting to go on holiday with you but willing to go with this other woman proves that maybe some of her heart still belongs to her. id love to say ditch her but ive been with my wife for 10 years (and im only 23!!) and i know how much you risk throwing away. you HAVE to talk to her openly about your feelings, and even though youve been together so long, you have to let go if she doesnt love you enough.

i wish you all the best!

Answer 4

I'm sorry you're having to deal with such a painful situation, but it sounds to me like she doesn't love you and is either playing with your heart and mind, or just trying to get you to call it quits. I'm sorry, the letting the girl put her hands down her pants was too far. And why would she want to put you in the position to have to be friends with the woman she cheated with? This is a very unhealthy situation and I think you should get out of it as soon as you can. Good luck to you in whatever you decide

Answer 5

OMG!! You need to leave that coniving ***** alone! She does not love you at all. Its obvious she wants to be with the other girl. I cannot believe you agreed to keep this other woman as your friend!!!! That should have been your blatant sign that she does not love you. Anybody who has an affair would not be caught dead (after the humiliation that comes with cheating)bringing that person around their partner whom they cheated on them with. Love is not enough to be treated like pure filth!! Get away from her and find REAL love.

Answer 6

It doesn't seem like it, considering she let the other girl stick her hand down her pants, and refuses to do anything with you as just the two of you. I'd normally say to just dump her, but considering you've been together for 11 years, I'd say you talk to her one on one and tell her everything you're feeling. Don't hold back. Tell her things need to change if this is going to work out.

Hope this helped..

Answer 7

your girlfriend does NOT love you the way you want to be loved. She may love you, but she isn't in love with you. Sounds like she wants you to be there b/c you are "comfortable", but she is in lust with this other girl.

The other girl put her hands down your girl's pants? If a MAN did that, you'd know that it was cheating, so why not when a woman did it. You know that was a slap in the face to you.

YOU DESERVE MORE>

Answer 8

I think she loves something you can offer her (money?, a home?, stability?). I think you know in your gut what the answer is. It maybe hard to accept, but for the sake of your mind/heart, you need to face the facts. Love yourself. 11 years is a long time, I know, but is the length of a relationship going to matter more than your feelings? Love yourself! Good luck!

Answer 9

try:
1 asking her wuts going on.
2 11 years is a long time most couple get divorced in 3 years.
so it would make sense that a new girl might attract attention(its not ur fualt)
3ask the girl wuts going on

Answer 10

She may like you, and not love any one, because she is not really ready to settle with any one right now, she thinks she is, but she is not, and some people finds love in all the wrong places. and they just do not know. Now you need to start to think about yourself, and what you want, because what you want is important, to make you happy.