When LIFE stresses you out, how do you find "a balance" for peace of mind and tranquility?

Question

bills, tragedies, etc. How do you cope and stay positive and focused when "things" happen?

Answer 1

Life & relationships

A time comes in your life A time, a moment whatever???? comes in your life when you finally get it (REALLY). When in the midst of all your fears and insanity you stop dead in your tracks and somewhere the voice inside your head cries out - ENOUGH! Enough fighting and crying or struggling to hold on. And, like a child quieting down after a blind tantrum, your sobs begin to subside, you shudder once or twice, you blink back your tears and through a mantle of wet lashes you begin to look at the world through new eyes. This is your awakening. You realize that it's time to stop hoping and waiting for something to change, or for happiness, safety and security to come galloping over the next horizon. You come to terms with the fact that he is not Prince Charming and you are not Cinderella and that in the real world there aren't always fairy tale endings (or beginnings for that matter). and that any guarantee of "happily ever after" must begin with you, and in the process a sense of serenity is born of acceptance. You awaken to the fact that you are not perfect, and that not everyone will always love, appreciate or approve of who or what you are and its OK. (They are entitled to their own views and opinions.) And you learn the importance of loving and championing yourself, and in the process a sense of newly found confidence is born of self-approval. You stop bitching and blaming other people for the things they did to you (or didn't do for you) and you learn that the only thing you can really count on is the unexpected. You learn that not everyone will always be there for you, and that it's not always about you. So, you learn to stand on your own and to take care of yourself and in the process a sense of safety and security is born of self-reliance. You stop judging and pointing fingers, and you begin to accept people as they are, and to over look their shortcomings and human frailties and in the process a sense of peace and contentment is born of forgiveness. You realize that much of the way you view yourself, and the world around you, is a result of all the messages and opinions that have been ingrained into your psyche. And you begin to sift through all the crap you've been fed about how you should behave, how you should look, how much you shouldn't weigh, what you should wear, where you should shop, what you should drive, how and where you should live, what you should do for a living, who you should sleep with, who you should marry, what you should expect of a marriage, the importance of having and raising children, or what you owe your parents. You learn to open up to new worlds and different points of view. And you begin reassessing and redefining who you are and what you really stand for. You learn the difference between wanting and needing, and you begin to discard the doctrines and values you've outgrown, or should never have bought into to begin with, and in the process you learn to go with your instincts. You learn to distinguish between guilt and responsibility, and the importance of setting boundaries and learning to say NO. You learn that the only cross to bear is the one you choose to carry, and that martyrs get burned at the stake. Then you learn about love. Romantic love and familial love. How to love, how much to give in love, when to stop giving, and when to walk away. You learn not to project your needs or your feelings onto a relationship. You learn that you will not be more beautiful, more intelligent, more lovable, or important because of the man or woman on your arm or the child that bears your name. You learn to look at relationships as they really are and not as you would have them be. You stop trying to control people, situations, and outcomes. You learn that just as people grow and change, so it is with love. and you learn that you don't have the right to demand love on your terms. Just to make you happy. And, you learn that 'alone' does not mean lonely. And you look in the mirror and come to terms with the fact that you will never be a size 5 or a perfect 10 and you stop trying to compete with the image inside your head and agonizing over how you "stack up." You also stop working so hard at putting feelings aside, smoothing things over, and ignoring your needs. You learn that feelings of entitlement are perfectly OK. . . and that it is your right to want things that you want. and that sometimes it is necessary to make demands. You come to the realization that you deserve to be treated with love, kindness, sensitivity, and respect, and you will not settle for less. And you allow only the hands of a lover who cherishes you, to glorify you with his or her touch. and in the process you internalize the meaning of self-respect. And you learn that your body really is your temple. You begin eating a balanced diet, drinking more water, and taking more time to exercise. You learn that fatigue diminishes the spirit and can create doubt and fear, so you take more time to rest. And, just as food fuels the body, laughter fuels our soul, so you take more time to laugh and to play. You learn that, for the most part, in life you get what you believe you deserve. and that much of life is a self-fulfilling prophecy. You learn that anything worth achieving is worth working for, and that wishing for something to happen is different from working toward making it happen. More importantly, you learn that in order to achieve success, you need direction, discipline, and perseverance. You also learn that no one can do it all alone and its OK to risk asking for help. You learn that the only thing you must truly fear is the great robber baron of all time: FEAR itself. You learn to step right into and through your fears, because you know that whatever happens you can handle it, and to give in to fear is to give away the right to live life on your terms. You learn to fight for your life and not to squander it living under a cloud of impending doom. You learn that life isn't always fair, you don't always get what you think you deserve, and that sometimes bad things happen to unsuspecting, good people. On these occasions you learn not to personalize things. You learn that God isn't punishing you or failing to answer your prayers. It's just life happening. And you learn to deal with evil in its most primal state - the ego. You learn that negative feelings such as anger, envy, and resentment must be understood and redirected, or they will suffocate the life out of you and poison the universe that surrounds you. You learn to admit when you are wrong and to build bridges instead of walls. You learn to be thankful and to take comfort in many of the simple things we take for granted, things that millions of people upon the earth can only dream about a full refrigerator, clean running water, a soft warm bed, a long hot shower. Slowly, you begin to take responsibility for yourself. by yourself, and you try to make yourself a promise to never betray yourself and to never ever settle for less than your heart's desire. And you hang a wind chime outside your window so you can listen to the wind. And you make it a point to keep smiling, to keep trusting, and to stay open to every wonderful possibility. Finally, with courage in your heart and with God by your side, you take a stand, you take a deep breath, and you begin to design the life you want to live as best as you can. It's all about timing.

Answer 2

I've had my share of ups and downs as do any other human being. Through struggling to find my own answer to "balance" and peace of mine, i've found that reading a good book is good to clear the mind. It takes you to a whole other place. Being around good positive people also helps keep you level headed. Theres always choices in life and the trick is to follow the one that speaks to you. Things happen everyday that is unexpected and sometimes we are powerless. But we do have the power to decide how we will handle those situations and the key to finding it is stop looking and just do what first comes to mind. Of course that doesnt mean to jumb off a bridge or go out and do a bunch of drugs or something like that. But to take breathers when things are going astray and think about what and who may help you understand (i.e teacher, parent, pastor, good friend etc) and go from there. Be open to suggestions and acceptable to opinions.

Answer 3

It's not easy. I guess I always pray. then I ask myself if there is anything that my stressing will do to benefit the situation? If not then I listen to music and sing, it makes me feel better. Then I always have books around and I will read at night to take my mind off of the bad stuff. Then I will pray some more and I try to stay away from people that like drama. My best friend, my sister is a drama queen and an alcoholic. She is really getting to me. We have a couple of things foing on in the family, out of state and nothing either of us can do. She calls me late at night and talks about it and gets me upset. I am about ready to have a heart to heart....I can't change a thing and I need to sleep for my own well being. That is the long and short of it. Good luck.

Answer 4

Tackle the problems one at a time. Late one day go to a place where no one can hear you scream like a nature reserve, beach, mountain etc think of what is bothering and SCREAM. Scream your lungs out for some reason I find this really good.
Before you go to bed tell yourself that in the morning I will tackle at least one problem and try to work out how to fix some others.
Takle lifes problem one at a time.
I could go on in detail but it would take a whole page. If you want more detail email me.

Answer 5

Also when you get to understand that there is nothing you can do about it. Take a big breathe and think...this is the world I´m. Say a pray. I´d say life is not stressing me, I choose to be stressed. Life is beautiful, live well the part that stands for you, and you will make people around you happy and in that way you´re doing something for your peace of mind----and relax.!
Blessings!

Answer 6

I try to do some light meditation, maybe with a cup of herbal tea.
Just get someplace quiet, and take a few moments to close your eyes, take in 10 deep breaths through your nose, and blow slowly out your mouth. Thinking, in with the good clean air, and try to visualize bright light coming into your body through your nose, and lungs then through out your body. Pause for a second and then think out with the bad air, and visualize black nastiness leaving your body. From where ever you might feel tension or soreness, neck, shoulders, low back, stomach, etc. And just see in your mind the blackness leaving through your exhale.
Sometimes it takes more breaths, and practice, to visualize, but even after just a few times you can really feel the difference.
My favorite is to do this while in my hot tub alone at night. I sure a hot bath tub works just as well.
This I have found gives my mind and body a chance to sort of reset and clear a bit, to be ready to take on the world with all of it's challenges once again.
Good luck
P.S. Don't be afraid to talk to someone if things get too heavy. A freind or sometimes even a total stranger, bartenders are good at that (just tip them for their time ;-}). A Psycologist friend of mine just told me the other day, "Find something positive in EVERYTHING that happens to you in life. Because no matter how difficult or tragic its there." I've heard this before, and at times it seems the pain is insurmountable, but I believe we were put here on this planet to learn from our experiences here, so learn something from everything. My best wishes go with this to you!

Answer 7

I found the Hare Krishna Maha Mantra is the only solution to transcend all miseries and stress. This world is not our real home it is called Maya (illusion) and is temporary and full of misery. But while we are here our only purpose is to realize our constitutional position and and be happy. Read Bhagavad Gita as it is BY Bhatktivedanta Prabhupada (tells the purpose of human life and answers all questions to life. How to be always happy and blissful even in all difficulties. Go to harekrishnatemple.c for all details.

Answer 8

while you're overwhelmed with in spite of, take a smash. - a million. bypass placidly amid the noise and haste and undergo in strategies what peace there may be in silence. Say your prayer. 2. Be on solid words with all persons. 3. talk your actuality quietly and clearly and hear others 4. dodge loud and aggressive individual,---they are vexations to the spirit. 5. Nurture potential of spirit to shelter you in unexpected misfortune 6. do no longer misery your self with imaginings 7. previous a healthy disciplines be gentle with your self. final yet no longer least, you're a creation of God, a minimum of the timber and the celebs.....you have the suitable to be right here. in simple terms be your self. AND solid luck, desire you will sense extra effective.

Answer 9

One thing at a time. Knowledge that things will happen. Staying in a frame of mind that creates serenity. I had breast cancer. I knew I would live. Yoga and Pilates alone helps, as does a warm bath, lights off , candles lit.

Answer 10

because of my job and an ex girlfriend i am sometimes under an unbelievable amount of stress. I started jogging and listening to my ipod. It lets me clear my head and escape all this ****. Not to mention when you work out your body released endorphins which is like your body's prozac, and you'll start to look more fit which is a plus. Theres always prayer too if your into that.

Answer 11

Search for that eternal emptiness that encloses all things.

Your thoughts are similar to the stars in the heavens. There are are millions of them, but they exist in a vast emptiness that always remains tranquil.