i think i fancy one of my friends but it is wrong?

Question

i am a girl and i fancy one of my mates who is also a girl i know she does not like me the same and we are not that close as mates. is this just a phase in my life???? i do not fancy any other girls. how do i stop thinking about her as more than a mate please help me

now she has a boyfriend i am happy for her but i want her to love me not him =[. she on msn and i don't know what to say to her

she keeps telling me about this guy and how she kissed him and stuff and it's making me feel sad. what do i do i cannot stop think about her. i cannot think of what to say to her when she is on msn or when we are alone together. i want these feelings to stop but i still want to be her mate

now we keep having arguments and i am always starting them why???

Answer 1

Know it's wrong in the eyes of God...who is everywhere..and FIND A MAN!

Answer 2

You need to actively start dating guys, as many and as often as you can - and start having fun on dates by doing things that you enjoy on those dates with guys. If you like to roller skate, do that. If you like to go to the movies, do that. What you are looking at is a perverted choice of a partner - the fact that she's not interested in you doesn't matter at all. You are evading some real issues that involve your future life as a member of a family; this is a detour that guarantees you will continue to evade those issues.
It's not going to lead to anything but mutual masturbation at best. If when you think about that mutual masturbation, you try to attach love feelings to it, ask yourself why you wouldn't want to get into the same kind of situation with a man. Odds are, you are frightened of that kind of intimacy or else deeply disappointed that you haven't found that yet with a reasonable male partner.
Don't even think it can be a phase in your life. If you suddenly developed a phobia, you could call that a phase in your life and it could severely curtail some activities but you would work around it, perhaps forever. This is the same kind of thing. Do you really want to curtail the activities that people engage in that lead to marriage and having a family? Are you, for example, afraid of bearing your future husband's child? Are you choosing to retreat from life that way by hiding in an unhealthy relationship?
This girl you fancy - she's your ticket to hiding from commitments that will be meaningful far into the future. Try to be honest about where you want to be 40 years from now - enjoying your children and grandchildren or still stuck in that old 'mutual masturbation' rut.
Take a look at some 50 year old lesbians in gay bars. They are cruising there for a reason. And they don't have anything at home to keep them away from that. It's not so attractive.

Answer 3

Aahhhhhhhhhh hun,this is a hard one,please dont feel bad or wrong for feeling the way you feel bout your mate,you cant help feeling like you do,no matter who you are or what gender you like its a horrible feeling when someone dosnt return you feelings...i would suggest maybe avoiding her, try to distance yourself from her a bit, at least that way you wont have to watch her with this new boy!!!!
This may be a phase and it may not not be,but either way dont feel embarassed or ashemed bout it,keep your chin up,be proud of who you are.Although it may not feel like it at the moment you will get over this girl,and come out a stronger person for it!!!
I really hope this makes you feel a litte better and i wish you all the happiness in the world for the presant and the future!!!!xxxx

Answer 4

Well first you have two options. One: Supress your feelings and go thru life never being honest with yourself. Maybe it is a phase and you may lose the feeling as your life moves on.

Or Two: Tell her to come over to yours one night, have a couple of bottles of wine together( Soften the blow) just a nice girlie night in, and then open your heart to her. If she is a real friend she wont be put out by your feelings even if she is strictly man-love only. You never know, maybe she feels the same about you.
If you are not really that close then it wont kill you if you lose her as a friend because of this.

Answer 5

I believe that you shouldn't worry about your sex. This is just a phase of your life. In my opinion you just admire your mate so much that you think that you fancy her. You should try to find a boyfriend or just flirt with some boys. And of course forget your mate!!!

Answer 6

You're jealous of this guy, could be just because she is your friend and you are afraid a guy will take her away from you & your relationship with her. Or sweetie you may be bi-sexual or even gay. You may need to do some honest soul searching to see if this is truly the first time you have been attracted to a woman in this way. No one knows but you.

Answer 7

Honey,

firstly it's NOT wrong you cannot control who you fall in love with . It may be a phase or you may be gay only time will tell. I went through several men till I finally admitted ok I'm gay . You cannot just wave a wand and stop thinking of her it's one of those time is a great healer things

good luck and whoever you become be proud.x

Answer 8

you need to find someone is attracted to you enough to date you, this girl is your friend and its better for her to be in your life as your friend than out of your life completely, if you want to remain her friend, then choose your battles wisely, it is better for her to remain in your life as your friend than not be in it at all, you will have to stop causing the arguments because you are mad because she will never feel the same way as you do...

Answer 9

Well.. i dnt think anything is in wrong that! u cant stop ur mind from that, can u?
just try to get ur mind off her.
dnt let her come to know this otherwise I dont think she will admire u anymore.
have fun!

Answer 10

Get urself a male bf