Very complicated issues: Please help me?

Question

I recently asked a different question concerning abuse and was very pleased with the support i got in the answers so i'm going to come out with the whole situation. I'm 16 and have been being abused my whole life, along with the rest of my family by my father. The abuse includes pushing, shoving, hitting, swearing, yelling, calling names. No one has ever been seriously harmed by it but i have been pushed down the stairs once which could have been dangerous. He isn't on any type of drugs, and he isn;t an alcoholic. We live in a good neighbourhood in a good city where no one would expect this type of thing to happen. I have told friends about it but they have a hard time believing me because my dad is very involved and loved by the community. When he isnt in a bad mood he is very nice. My mom doesnt want to accept that what's happening is wrong and i'm afraid to report it because i think the rest of my family will be mad at me and i don't want people to lose respect for us.Wat shud i do?

Answer 1

Tell somebody like cops or child protective services. If your the oldest you need to protect your younger sibs.

Answer 2

Your family could just be afraid of your dad, if it were me, I'd call the child services. You're not trying to get him in trouble, you're doing your dad a favor and making him get help for his anger problem. As far as the respect, they may lose some respect for your dad, but the damage will be minimal to his reputation. And if your mom won't accept this behavior as wrong then she needs counseling as well. Just remember, your dad isn't a bad person for doing what he's doing, he just needs help, and your mom isn't a bad person either, she needs help as well, nor would you be a bad person for reporting the abuse, you never know, you may save someone's life. Good luck with whatever you decide

Answer 3

I suggest that your father needs medical attention. Maybe his is bi-polar or has a brain tumor that make them go off without a need to .
You or anyone in your family may have not been seriously harmed like broken bones or any visible marks, but you have been seriously abuse mentally and physical.

I wish you and your family all the good luck in the world, my prayers are with you. Please get help, either from your church or school talk to someone and don't ever repeat the abuse you are receiving learn from your fathers mistakes.

Answer 4

Call child protective services. To hell with the rest of your family being mad at you. What's going on will have repercussions for the rest of your life and the relationships you'll have. You might even need eventual counseling to discover what a healthy and happy family life is supposed to be like.

Answer 5

Get a job and work a lot that way your out of the house and being responsible.

Answer 6

I can completly understand where you are coming from, but it really doesn't matter hwta others think of him. Tell the truth to a teacher/principal. They will help you.

Answer 7

this is pretty a complicated issue i must confess. i would like us to chat about this. i would like to know u one on one get to know u better so that way i would help you better. there has to be somethings u say to ur dad that makes him angry like that. i would really love us to chat maybe today like in 5 minutes time. hope you get this message in time

Answer 8

if u feel its wrong then u shud do wat u feel. its ur opinion, not any1 elses. if ur family thinks it is ok thats there problem. if there mad at u then let them be mad. theyll get over it sooner or later.