my wife left 10 weeks ago after i found out she had been having an affair with an older guy who is 22 years older than her .i have the children who are mostly under 10 (6)kids 16.15 will she realise the grass is not always greener as they say i am a great dad and he is an ex mental patient with severe depression?
2007-03-03 06:09:10 · 11 answers · asked by tony t 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
yes she has suffered depression for years herself
2007-03-03 06:27:11 · update #1
your wife has abandoned her children,and you need to get custody of your children,and stop worrying if the novelty of an affair will wear off.
2007-03-03 06:36:17 · answer #1 · answered by meditation and mango juice 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope she doesn't realize the grass wasn't greener. You're better off without her. Anyone who would leave you with 6 children is so irresponsible that they shouldn't have the privilege of raising them.
I'm glad to hear that you're a great dad. These kids need a mature adult in their lives. Hopefully if she does come back, she'll realize that you and her family are more important than getting laid.
2007-03-03 06:17:19 · answer #2 · answered by katydid 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ULP!!! Stay strong pal you are understandably hacked off at the moment stick in there and things are sure to get better for you, sometimes the grass does seem more tartan on the other side but if you start down that road were do you stop when get bored of your latest project
2007-03-03 06:15:37 · answer #3 · answered by northcarrlight 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry that you are going through this. To answer your question, I think that one of these days she is going to realize what she left behind and wish she could get it back. Maybe by that time you will have someone else who loves you and will stand by you. It sounds like to me that your wife is going through depression herself and maybe she thinks this guy understands her because of his past history with depression. She may just need to talk to someone about it. If you really are wanting to work things out maybe you could talk to her about it. Ask her if she is depressed. See if there is anything that you can do for her to help her. Sometimes just talking about it will help her.
2007-03-03 06:21:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She left 'cos of the affair or did you ask her to go? I assume you want her back?? Are you wanting her back, or do you NEED her back? IF she wanted to come home, would you INSIST she start getting professional help FIRST? Are you willing to get help for yourself NOW? Without BOTH of you in counseling, you BOTH will continue to be selfish looking, giving your KIDS lousy role models to "look up to"!!
The kids need at LEAST one of the parents to be level headed - Mom is out to lunch on a "please me and only me" binge of self-medication - - YOU need to focus on your KIDS - THEY do not deserve all this drama. You may consider yourself a "good Dad", and you could be... right now you are focused more on what "mom" MIGHT or might not do, whenever she might wake up... did you AGREE "mom" could STOP medication AND therapy? If I were you, AND I wanted her back because I LOVED her, I would INSIST she commits herself to YOU AND THE KIDS by guaranteeing she will commit herself to getting and STAYING healthy!!! REMEMBER THIS - - 2 dysfunctional parents CANNOT make a FUNCTIONAL family! 2 wrongs DO NOT make a RIGHT! Grab what YOU have created and allowed, and get it STRAIGHT!!
Good luck and GOD BLESS!
2007-03-03 06:38:14 · answer #5 · answered by BikerChick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i imagine she is a heartless, evil, selfish ***** and because of this she is the different lady. If she had no issues taking your guy and breaking apart a family members then i do not see why she does no longer hit upon a issue with soliciting for your daughter to characteristic her as her "mom". the different lady will continuously attempt to take your position and your titles because she feels inferior and now no longer must be seen as the different lady. only wait and see what karma does. now to not agonize. i don't think of your daughter could comply with it.
2016-12-05 04:49:56 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You never know what is going to happen, go to counseling and educate yourself on affairs. Affairs are similar to drug addiction, they chemically affect your brain; she may have not seen the light of day yet, you are dealing with something you are completely powerless to. Affairs have to die their own death....
2007-03-03 06:15:19 · answer #7 · answered by Lady 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, that depends on the situation, but i recon that if shes a good mum then, yes thatll influence he decision
i hope that all goes well for you
x
2007-03-03 06:12:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i would divorce her and raise your kids because once a cheater more likely she will cheat again
2007-03-07 05:20:16 · answer #9 · answered by sweetgranny06 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Would you want her back mate,what about trust?
2007-03-03 06:13:02 · answer #10 · answered by gary7939 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋