Grammar question - "me" vs. "I"?

Question

Which of these sentences is grammatically correct?
"This is me and my friend"
OR
"This is my friend and I"
Thank you for your help! :)

Answer 1

Unfortunately for you my friend, the answer is ambiguous and people will argue about it until they are blue in the face.

In the past, kids were taught, "This is my friend and I" was correct. (Always mention yourself last in the list.) The rationale is discussed above in some other responses. However, today's "newer" language arts/English teachers will argue, "This is my friend and me." This rationale is discussed above, but not as well explained--thus the younger grammarians.

The "real trick' is to know what your language arts/English teacher prefers. If your teacher is young, then go with the "me." If they are much older--near retirement, then go with the "I."

The beauty about the English language is it is flexible--regardless what the old and new teachers will stay.

I have taught middle school language arts for eight years, and I learned, "This is my friend and I"; but, I teach, "This is my friend and me" to my students.

Now, let the old and new language arts teachers rant and rave about which is "correct."

Answer 2

a beautiful description of the difference, by Jennie Ruby: "This is a memory aid for this week's conundrum: "if I was" versus "if I were." Either of these can be correct, depending on the situation. The difference between these two expressions is that one is talking about reality, and the other is supposing something that is impossible or totally not true. The grammatical terms for these two modes of speaking are indicative (for indicating facts) and subjunctive (for supposing the impossible, or supposing something that is known to be untrue). Here's how the two modes work. When you use indicative statements, you are talking about facts or asking about facts, like this: Stating a fact: I was home yesterday morning. Asking about a fact: Was I there when you called? In both of these sentences, you use the verb was with I. They are both singular. When you are supposing the impossible, however, you use a plural verb, were, with the singular I, like this: If I were a rich man, I'd see my wife, my Rosie, looking like a rich man's wife. This, of course, is a quote from a song in the musical Fiddler on the Roof. You cannot always trust popular songs to use correct grammar, but this one does. In this scenario, the man singing this song is not rich. He is never going to be rich. He is supposing the impossible. Here are some other examples of supposing the impossible or supposing something that is known to be untrue: If I were you, I'd order the steak. (I am supposing the impossible--I can't be you.) If I were home today, I'd take a nap after lunch. (I am supposing something that is known to be untrue--I am not home today, I know for a fact that I am not, and to suppose it is to suppose something that is not true.) All this gets a little more difficult when you are supposing something and you don't know or remember whether it was true or not. In this case, you use the indicative, because the thing you are supposing might have been true, you just can't remember: If I was home when you called yesterday, I did not hear the phone. This statement is not impossible or known to be untrue. Instead, it might well have been true--I might have been home when you called. So when you are deciding between if I was and if I were, think of the song from Fiddler on the Roof, and if you are supposing the impossible or something you know is untrue, use if I were like the song. Otherwise use if I was."

Answer 3

1. in your example, "this is me and my friend" is more grammatically correct than "this is my friend and i."

2. however, i learned that it's always best to place the "i" or "me" AFTER the other people mentioned in a sentence.

the best way would be: "this is my friend and me."

3. in OTHER cases, it is still proper to say "my friend and i."
example: "my friend and i went to the movies."

4. the trick to use, as another person mentioned here, is to imagine that subject or the object of the sentence is just one or the other person. for example, you might need to choose between the following:

"please return the money to my mom and me."
"please return the money to my mom and i."

pretend that the sentences do not have the words "my mom" in them.
which sounds better: "return the money to me" or "return the money to i?"
the first sentence is correct. use "me" when the object receives the action.


example:
"my husband and i had a fight last night."
"my husband and me had a fight last night.

cover the "my husband" part. which sounds better..."i had a fight," or "me had a fight?" in this case, the first sentence is correct. use "i" when speaking about the subject, or the giver of the action in the sentence.


ithe pronoun you use depends on who is doing ("i" - subject) or receiving ("me"-object) the action in the sentence.

Answer 4

The correct one is "This is my friend and I". And how you prove this, is to compose a sentence using just one or the other of the nouns involved. Example: Put " my friend " into a sentence. My friend is arriving this morning. Now put "me" into a sentence. Me is arriving this morning. Right away, you can see the correct word would be " I" as in, I am arriving this morning! It's a neat way to figure it out!

Answer 5

Actually the second is the proper one. You need the nominative case since it renames the subject.

Not everything that sounds right is right, since as a people we have very little grasp of our own language and have used so much improper language that the incorrect becomes familiar and is then mistaken for proper.

Answer 6

"This is my friend and I" is grammatically correct.

When a word ("I") refers back to the subject ("This"), it is called a predicate-nominative and always takes the subjective case ("I" as opposed to "me").

Another problem with the first choice is that "me" comes before "my friend". When two people, including the speaker of the sentence, are either the subject or object in a sentence, it is proper to put the other person first.

In the subjective case, say, "My friend and I". In the objective case, say, "my friend and me".

Answer 7

Think of it whis way ...;. this is me or this is I .... now is it easier to decide which is grammatically correct? Should be.

Answer 8

The test for knowing when you use "I" or "Me" is to take the other person and see if the sentence makes since using just the "I" or Me...example:

This is me and my friend.
take out the "and my friend"
This is I. doesn't make sense....This is me...then it is "me".

My friend and I went to the store.
Take out "my friend"...."I" makes sense, "me" wouldn't make sense.

I stop myself and do this before I complete my writing, it works everytime. :)

Answer 9

You figure it out... take out the "my friend" and see how it sounds

Answer 10

your line is incomplete suggest you say "This is my friend and i"
the structure or the line is not correct you should say :This is my Friend" that all because it is you who talk that why