Is it possible for a person who was physically abused as a child to grow up and not repeat the cycle themself

Question

Is it also possible for them to lead a normal life and normal realtionships if he or she never got counseling or therapy for the abuse endured?

Answer 1

First of all and without diminishing the severity of physical child abuse, I suspect that there are commonalities among all forms of abuse. Any deep conditioning that limits a child's experience of themselves as a complete person is likely to result in this person later acting out their shame, fear or anger.

This acting out may take the form of abuse of another or abuse of him/herself. Everything I've heard, read and experienced suggests that without the help of another who has broken the cycle themselves any major change is unlikely.

Unfortunately because we're encouraged to believe we are independent strong people, many of us believe our strength of will is sufficient and that we can control our impulses. Actually, if you look around, what you will find are that these same strong willed people end up demanding perfection from others rather themselves.

If they do not take action, society usually does when eventually they repeat a DUI, harm or threaten to harm another person, or harm or threaten to harm themselves.

The idea of a normal life is misleading. Who decides normal? The best life is one with which you are happy and an abused person is unlikely to find true happiness without the help of a therapist, sage, priest or healer. And sooner rather than later.

Answer 2

It is all possible and happens a lot. But, some people do need counseling and therapy to go forward and understand that what happened to them is not their fault. Sometimes we feel inadequate and small when we have been hurt and neglected as children and weren't loved enough and it can make us distant and hard and yes, even repeat the abuse we endured even though we swear we won't. So, the answer is not a yes or no one it is a varied one for every person. I would advise seeing someone even if it is a clergy or group therapy at the local mental health clinic to get into some of the issues, so you understand the reasons it may come up with you and your children and know that you can always get help if you ever feel like you might be abusive, don't wait until it happens. There is a lot of support out there and never be ashamed or afraid to ask for help. We all need help in some way and asking for it is the best and easiest way to get it. I would look at getting counseling from someone in the community before children, if possible. If you are there already, go now and see how it helps you, don't give up too quick, there are lots of emotions and inner turmoil inside of an abused person even if they are doing well. It takes time and when you have a person you can trust that you can turn to in times of need it will help you soooo much. Good luck to whoever it is you are asking for. I feel for you. Love is coming your way now!!!

Answer 3

Yes, it is possible. Most of the people don't because they know it is wrong and they know how it feels. Others are so angry about the abuse they repeat the cycle. That is no excuse to physical abuse people. It is just like any abuse some peope learn from it and others don't. They can lead a normal life yes, but if they never recovered from it they are going to have problems. Sexual abuse is uaually worse (in relationships) then physical abuse is. They seem to have more problems in a relationship.

Answer 4

Absolutely. I'm in school to become a certified counselor (almost done) and according to all of the literature I have studied it is very possible to not repeat the cycle. You have to be conscious of what you're doing and how you're behaving when it comes to your children and actively avoid becoming the type of parent you know you shouldn't be. That being said, it is never too late for counseling. Many victims of abuse have intimacy problems and difficulty trusting others which are both key elements to healthy relationships. There is always hope. People have an amazing plasticity to them and are able to adapt even from the most difficult situations. It is possible to help yourself but there is no shame in seeking help from others (counselors).

Answer 5

Yes, there are 2 paths someone can take when they've been abused and you'll find more people have been abused then not. 2.9 million children are abused every year. The abused will either 1 as you stated repeat the cycle or 2 become an advocate against it.

Answer 6

Yes. You don't have to reapeat the abusive pattern. You are a product of your environment, but only to a degree. At some point in your adult life you have to be responsible for making your own choices. Having said that, if you find it is difficult to not repeat it then certainly find help or figure out what it would take to improve on your own and work on it.

Answer 7

there is actual no data that formative years abuse (actual, sexual or otherwise) motives a gay orientation. Such techniques are organic hypothesis on the component of a few psychoanalytically oriented theroists, and characteristic as a lot empirical help as similar theories accepted 50 years in the past around the origins of schizophrenia and autism spectrum topics which have because been thoroughly discredited by empirical study. it truly is fairly favourite for human beings doing deep psychotherapeutic artwork to come back across gender or orientation aspects of themselves that they weren't before consciously attentive to. Psychotherapy is about unpacking complexities, no longer reinforcing glib simplifications. Freud himself believed that bisexuality replaced into the "favourite" underlying default putting, yet i'm no longer positive I consider him. The abuse equation fairly works any opposite direction: gay or comfortable youngsters are extra probable to be abused (highly sexually) than others because they are gay or comfortable. no longer any opposite direction round. Bullies, abusers and paedophiles objective the weak, and a gay infant in a homophobic way of existence is quite weak.

Answer 8

Yes of course. Despite what shrinks say, I think most people use thier own abusive childhood as a model for how **not** to raise a child. I cringe whenever I see child abusers on Jerry Springer, et al, claim that since they were abused as a child, that have no choice but to abuse thier own children. Like they have no free will!

Answer 9

It is possible to come through an experience like that and be able to break that cycle.

However, this person must be exposed to normal behavior in a normal household, or he will most likely fail to break the trend.

He has to see solid, real-life examples of the proper behavior that members of a family exhibit.

Answer 10

I don't know. I, myself, made the decision to not have children simply because I'm afraid of that very thing. I don't think I would ever do the same things that were done to me, but the idea that I might scares me too much to want to find out (even after I've been through therapy).