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Split with my ex wife about 6 years ago.I then had my son every weekend for about 3 1/2 years until oct 2004 when she said he didn't want to come anymore.It all seemed quite convenient as she'd just had a baby with her new partner and they had got a house together.I eventually got to see my son again in oct 2006.He is now 6 years old and i started seeing him at his aunts for an hour or so and gradually increased it to a 2/3 hr visit and then taking him to macdonalds for a couple of hours or wacky warehouse.He came to my house for the day 4 weeks ago and played with my partners kids.Week after he wanted a short visit so we all went to wacky warehouse for an hour and a half.Week after he wanted an hour again so i spoke to ex and said we agreed to alternate short/long visits so we agreed to miss that week and she'd talk to him.This week i've drove down and she said he doesn't want to come.Where do i go from here?

2007-03-03 05:48:13 · 3 answers · asked by accebs 2 in Family & Relationships Other - Family & Relationships

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I am very glad that you are taking the steps, to get re-involved in your sons life again. From what you said, the amount of time you spend and the places you take him to, sound appropriate. I think that you might have introduced him to your partners children a "little too soon". I think after the 2 year separation from your son, quality time, (one on one)should consist of you and him alone. I do not mean , do not take him to places other children enjoy, or frequent, however, for now HE should be "THE FOCUS" in your life .He needs to know that HE is" THE ONLY CHILD", and ,the" MOST IMPORTANT CHILD" to you.I am sure your son had some problems, when he no longer saw you, and when ANOTHER child was introduced into his life, when your ex had a baby. He could have felt unimportant, or invisible. Your son might be feeling insecure about how you feel about him. Your son is so young and does not know how to cope with or exspress his emotions, and that is highly understandable. He might feel that your partners children are a threat, and he is afraid of losing you again.I do not know if there were legal actions taken, as to custody, and visitation rights, however, if you need to, seek legal advice. You obviously Love your son, and I hope you continue to pursue your efforts emphatically. Bless you and your son.

2007-03-03 06:50:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Maybe some time you could have a talk with him to find out if anything happened between him and your partners kids or maybe your ex told him some negative things about you. I hope it works out : it may be just a phase, it's a confusing time for a kid

2007-03-03 05:55:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0 1

Ask to speak to your son, and find out why he does not want to visit? ask him, if he and you can be together? Or tell him when you want to see me, call. Now if the circus, or fun carnival is in town, call and see if you and he can go together! Tell your son, that you love him, and you just miss not seeing him. I hope this all works out for you!

2007-03-03 06:10:37 · answer #3 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0 1

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