most of the time he drinks alcohol im so worried about him because he father had cancer and died
i dont want anything bad happen for him
i talked to him but he believes it's none of my business
2007-03-03 05:47:07 · 17 answers · asked by MiNi 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
* You can't make anyone do anything, he has to see what damage it is doing to his health and to the lives of those around him.
I would be more worried about if he drinks and drives and what his demeanor is when he is drunk. Your life and others may be jeopardized. If he refuses to listen to your concerns, then he is not much of a boyfriend and doesn't care about your feelings and thoughts. Red flags !!!
2007-03-03 05:49:26 · answer #1 · answered by Golden Smile 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One thing I have learned about life is that you cannot change the behavior of others. You can only change your own behavior and/ or reaction to various problems and situations. So, if you do not want him to drink you can only do one of two things: !. Tell him that it worries you when he drinks and why....one more time. Then do not mention it again because he is an adult and must make his own decision on this matter. As Dr. Phil says, "How it working for you?" You have already tried telling him over and over and it has not helped. So, after this one try I would not bring it up again. 2. Decide that you cannot live with someone with this problem in your life and tell him that unless he stops drinking you will leave him...........and then carry out your threat. It will be difficult to do this, but it is a lot easier than being with someone with this problem for the rest of your life. Especially, if that persons answer to your concerns is that it is "none of your business."
2007-03-03 05:58:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all an alcoholic can't be told to stop none can make anyone do anything that don't want to do ... second of all it is your business but not to the point of telling him what to do .. third just tell him i am worried about your heath and i love you and don't want to loose you ... then tell him that you are scared for his safety .... but like i said and so did others you can't make anyone do anything they don't want to do fourth if you can't handle his drinking find a new man because most people that drink will choose there alcohol before there loved ones all i can say is good luck and hope everything works out for you both
2007-03-03 05:53:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u can't.only he can stop.lt may be hard to accept but some people drink and will do 4 the rest of their lives.there can b many reasons often steming from problem pasts or difficult times.
It isn't a nice life and it will take its toll after the years.it can suddenly catch up with you.if i was u i would give him a choice.stop the drinking or we are finished.u don't want to b dragged down to the bottom of a bottle with him believe u me,you wont live a pleasant life with a drunk.
2007-03-03 05:52:35 · answer #4 · answered by DanUK 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that it seems that you care about him, more then he does. You can't change him, the only one that you can change, and that is yourself. Now if he does, not want to stop, then you need to get more out of life, and move on from this relationship! Tell him it is either me, or the bottle? And you have to do just that, mean what you say, because if not you will never be happy!
2007-03-03 05:54:24 · answer #5 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quit your boyfriend, he must make the choice. If he chooses alcohol. It will be his loss. Don't be second fiddle to a vice.
If he is worthy of you, he will quit. If not , you must move on. If it's none of your business , as he says, be none of his.
2007-03-03 05:59:53 · answer #6 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't make someone do something. My father was a crack addict for 17 years. I did everything, tell him bad things, move out, not talk to him, etc. But he finally straightened up after his job caught him he went to re-hab again and decided he was going to change. They have to make the decision to change themselves. But it helps to give them lots of support.
2007-03-03 05:51:47 · answer #7 · answered by LarenzO 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a new boyfriend who doesn't drink. Now your boyfriend is no longer an alcoholic.
2007-03-03 05:48:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately he is the only one that can decide to quit drinking
2007-03-03 05:51:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he can't respect your feelings then you need to move on, he's going to do what he wants and the harder you push the more he's going to do it. If he truly respected and cared for you he'd listen to your concerns.
2007-03-03 05:50:13 · answer #10 · answered by Kitikat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋