2007-03-03 05:37:02 · 26 answers · asked by ? 6 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Yeah, I feel like that sometimes. It is so much easier to see the answers when you are on the outside looking in. Think of it like an island. If you are searching for a certain landmark on that island, how difficult would it be to be ON the island, searching every area for this thing you are looking for. Think of how long that would take. Now if you were in a helicopter, looking down on the island and searching, it may just take a matter of minutes to find what you are looking for. Plus it has alot to do with the person going through the problem. When we are actually FACING the problem ourselves, we are also dealing with all the emotions that this problem is bringing on, and emotions make it harder to see how simple the answer really is. Emotions can blind you or pull you away from the answer you are seeking. Like looking at a woman who stays with the man who is beating her. On the outside, we are saying"Get your head together! Just leave him! Are you crazy?". But the woman is dealing with so many emotions that we on the outside aren't. Like the fact that she loves this man, or the fact that she is so afraid to leave because she doesn't know if he will harm her because of this, or being afraid to leave because she doesn't know how to survive alone. There are many things to be considered when giving someone advice. We may know all the answers to life's problems, but when it comes time to deal with them ourselves, we forget, because the emotions suddenly become real, and it is blocking us from seeing the truth about the matter. That is why it is very important not to let emotions get in the way when making a decision. Emotions are wonderful, but they do have the ability to hold us back in life, if we let them.
2007-03-03 06:27:03 · answer #1 · answered by Lindsey H 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That usually depend on how you are raised. As well as the fact that everyone is different.. (if i understood the question clearly) then you want to change or advise other people, because there are somethng in for you, because this is the way you want them to act ( since it is good for them anyways). Your advice works on other people because they are the ones in need, or suitable to take that advice, but you on the other hand are different, you think different, act different, you are different, therefore you would need a different advice from other people. As well, it is easier for the other person to see your mistakes than it is for you to see your own, often that's because you do things your way and usually the right way you have decided on and therefore, it would be hard to spot your own mistakes.
2007-03-11 11:05:42 · answer #2 · answered by bio c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello Tocca, you have a point there. The answer is simple, don't advise anything that you feel you yourself won't be able to do. By doing this, people won't judge you when you fall by your own standards. Keep your standards to yourself, unless if you really really really must share it with another person.
The best advice that we can give to others are our living examples.
2007-03-03 13:50:30 · answer #3 · answered by Dowland 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a matter of 3rd Person Perspective.
It is much easier to see other people's situations & problems than to see our own. For example, it is easy for us to see when our friends are in a dead-end relationship - but when we're in a similar relationship, we often can't. We become blind & lose objectivity.
So when it comes to giving advice, we can be pretty good at it - but it's harder for us to know when to take our own.
2007-03-03 14:08:58 · answer #4 · answered by sky2evan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess because when you are not involved with the problem, no strings attached, so to speak, there is less emotion to cloud the view. The problem with listening to advice from others is they may lack good morals or sound judgement. Hopefully as we mature we do take our own advice.
2007-03-03 14:07:09 · answer #5 · answered by angel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We always look at things in our own perspective and its how we see things . We like to help but we are always looking for answers for our problems to see if others will agree with our own solutions to the problems . Its like looking for " tell me this is right what I am going to do " . As human we are always looking for support as we may not be too sure about ourselves . We want others to agree .
2007-03-11 11:05:13 · answer #6 · answered by Gentleman 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is the case in which "actions speak louder than words." we are very fast to pass judgement on others before taking a look at ourselves. just as we are able to give advice to others but dont heed our own advice...the world is a mysterious place, and so is the human mind. sometimes though, it is easier to give advice to a person because you have a different view on the situation, but you don't think that you can trust yourself to your own advice. it's wierd, i know!
2007-03-10 19:50:02 · answer #7 · answered by ~Tintin~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is the best questions ever for sure, and to be honest, I made a living out of giving advice to others, yet, when I look at my own personal life, I almost am embarassed for myself. To answer the question, beats the heck out of me, but if you find out, let me know!
2007-03-03 13:53:20 · answer #8 · answered by Mensa Head 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
things seem easery on the out side, but when you have to deal with our own problem everthing seem so hard to do even though you know the answer its just hard to follow our own advise
2007-03-03 13:53:17 · answer #9 · answered by sally 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is easier to arrive at understanding than practice but everything is relative and with time we will arrive. The journey of a thousand steps...you know.
Being hard on ourselves is a trap and holds us back. My teacher said it is one of the main obstacles to reaching full consciousness.
All is well my friend.
2007-03-10 18:24:28 · answer #10 · answered by canron4peace 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋