From all the answers I read, I see a reflection of kindness and goodness in most people. Yet most of the questions are all about selfberatement. Is it so difficult to be kind to yourself? Forgiving and accepting what and who we are. Accepting our past and living for tomorrow. Am I making sense?
2007-03-03 05:27:19 · 7 answers · asked by MaggieSA 3 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
How true!!!!!!!!!!! We are more objective and sympathetic to others plight versus to our own human frailities and " faults". That's what humility is all about. To be arrogant and a total hypocrite is not good, either. A person of true character is kind, humble and meek. That's the Christian spirit. A fear or love of God teaches us to take a good long hard look at yourself before you cast the first stone. In other words, before you condemn somebody for their transgressions; have you looked at yourself in the mirror and reflect if you are not guilty of the same?
More often than not, people come up to you and comfort you and say, "Don't be too hard on yourself". Even though, that's a bitter pill to swallow. At times, we have no recourse but to to do that. It's in same rippling effect of patting yourself on the shoulder or tooting your own horn. After all, if you don't praise yourself; who else will? Charity should start at home. And it's as good as any to start now. .That's what is needed for a perception of a good self-image as well as building up good self-confidence.
Furthermore, you have nobody to answer to except to God and yourself. "To Thine ownself be true." .
2007-03-03 05:57:40 · answer #1 · answered by rosieC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most often people are either hard on themselves and kind to others or selfish and cruel to others. I'm sure some people are in the middle, but it goes both ways. Also, I think it's that the people who ask and answer questions here are that way, not neccesarily the whole population.
2007-03-04 00:24:55 · answer #2 · answered by iq_two 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you are making sense. It is hard to be kind to one's self. The objectivity is hard to find to judge one's self and therefore it is very hard to see your own situation clearly... other peoples feelings are easier to analyze because of the distance you can keep. You are not as involved with other peoples pain than with your own. Pain and grief can quite blind a person, so much so that what is quite clear to anybody else is impossible to see for the person in question. Not everybody has a large family who tells them that they are doing it all right.. and a lot of people can just really do with a compliment. Giving them makes me feel good too, so that helps too... am I making sense?
2007-03-03 13:34:17 · answer #3 · answered by freebird31wizard 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ideally yes, you are making sense.
HOWEVER:
I live in the US and have been around almost 60 years. It seems to me that the longer I live the more our population is becoming self absorbed. In short the country is full of narcissistic S0B's.
Just one opinion. My parents were a product of the great depression, I was pampered, my kids more so and my grandchildren even more. So there you go, the view from one set of eyes.
2007-03-03 13:38:01 · answer #4 · answered by gimpalomg 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A person who is kind to others and hard on himself is one who has grasped the elusive truth that he has the power to change only himself. You cannot make other people better- only yourself.
Being kind to oneself and hard on others will make your life very unhappy- just try it and see what happens.
2007-03-03 13:39:26 · answer #5 · answered by charelisa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People tell me I'm too hard on myself. But I'd rather be humble than think I'm The Greatest when I'm not. Whoever says "we're our own worst critics" was dead-on.
2007-03-03 13:35:38 · answer #6 · answered by Holly 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Would you rather it be the other way around?
2007-03-03 13:34:37 · answer #7 · answered by Bipolar Bear 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋