He sent an email with "Will you marry me", then later on he called to tell that he refuses things in me like x y z
Is this love?
Ain't it a package?
Accept all or leave all?
2007-03-03 05:27:02 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
For the losers who thought that he e-mailed me cause I knew him from internet!! This is a way for low self- confident and trouble minded people.
He e-mailed me cause I ended our relation some time ago and there was no room to show up or even call and propose . . it had to be a direct way that I can't at the moment react on . . Get it all now??
So?
I really don't like him commenting on my downs when they are to all the people I know ups not downs!!!
At the same time, I love him!
I need an only answer . . Do you see he loves me?
Is his being back after my end is a proof?
What about the frustrating call!?
2007-03-03 05:44:07 · update #1
He emailed you a proposal? Did he send a picture of himself as well? Maybe if you changed avatars he would be more accepting.
2007-03-03 05:32:25 · answer #1 · answered by Campo 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
why dont u discuss it all up. if the X Y and Z are things that u can and want to change then i see no big deal.
Just a remark: I dont like the idea of him proposing by email ... i think it was too impersonal and the call later on makes it even worse.
however im sure there are some things in him that u dont like or dont wish him to change.
love is a packkage and it is also support.
2007-03-03 13:34:22 · answer #2 · answered by Lara^mt 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't love all of you that's for sure. I'm sure there are things you don't really like about him but you have the sence to know that your probably not going to be 100% with everything a person is about. If you didn't ask the question then he should have never made the comment. He sounds like he would be controlling and try to change you once you were married to fit what he thinks you should be like. So maybe he does love some of you but my opinion is not all of you!
2007-03-09 23:42:09 · answer #3 · answered by Charlie B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look, you are right. If he proposed no matter where that mean he knows you enough to as you to marry him, you can't change much of yourself just like he can't change much either...I am not sure what he is asking you to change, but if it a core behaviour, it is really hard...if it is a minor few things...then you are the only one that knows how much can that be done.
In general its a package and if he has issues now...he will most likely have a lot more issues later...best of luck
2007-03-08 12:53:03 · answer #4 · answered by Ariana 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really think he loves you otherwise he wouldn't have proposed marriage to you. TAKE AS A POSITIVE, all the things he doesn't like about you and build from there. What is wrong with getting out in the opening things that MIGHT cause the marriage to go sour? Use this OPPORTUNITY to discuss in a "reasonable manner," all the things that need to be brought forward regarding HIM and YOU and your marriage will get off to a better start than most will. THIS IS A GOLDEN OPPORTUNITY TO IRON OUT ALL OF YOUR DIFFERENCES. Good Luck to you both.
2007-03-09 20:11:22 · answer #5 · answered by andyt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You haven't given enough information but marriage is about taking all of you. Pure and simple. Love in unconditional.... I would not stay with anyone who expected me to change in any way! If you like who you are then sounds like he has a problem and should find someone he can boss around. Be dignified, hold your chin up and know that there is someone out there who will like you for ALL of you no matter what.
Best wishes!
2007-03-03 13:33:23 · answer #6 · answered by rggiggles 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Send him an email that lists his attributes and his character defects. Then ask yourself if you think you could marry such a person.
You could email him the ring size and the request for the kind of stone you want in the ring. After a while of many emails to and fro, maybe you will not even need to see each other.
2007-03-03 13:33:18 · answer #7 · answered by thisbrit 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, he doesn't love you. He just likes to play at this relationship. The real issue is: do you have faith in yourself? Well, then try to have faith in yourself - because you are not showing it. You are willing to settle for someone who doesn't love you. If you have patience and continue to search by dating different men, you will find someone who would be overjoyed if you said yes to marrying him - and never would consider attaching a list of your faults to the proposal.
You can have the patience. You can have the faith in yourself. Lose this guy from your life.
2007-03-10 16:08:07 · answer #8 · answered by kathyw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think there is always room to grow together!If he is saying change this and that or we wont be together that is not the way to approach things and he as some problems of his own that he needs to face before pointing at your flaws! Don't change for anyone but yourself!Good luck!Been there down that it wont change no matter what you do!
2007-03-03 13:33:28 · answer #9 · answered by rere 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Email proposal...it's the new age and the wrong age of things.
You're allot more special than that.
Sale yourself short and you get sour grapes for a Husband.
2007-03-10 16:18:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋